Re: Re: The toll on families - siblings

November 8, 2004

Thanks Ana. I never really thought that far ahead

about it for my kids. (RSS) is the " big "

sister to Kelli and like I said in my last response as

they get older I'm sure there will be more to come,

however, I did not think about the fact that more

people would remember because of the issues of

RSS. I am the youngest in my family of 7 so people do

remember you for that but I am also the only with red

hair. Everyone else has dark brown or black hair so

cousins that we don't see much remember me first. So

I should have thought of that duh! Again, thank you

for your post, I will keep all of that in mind as I

try to have speical moments, names and toys for Kelli.

B

4 3/4 RSS and Kelli 2 Non RSS

--- hu99am43 wrote:

>

> Hi all,

>

> I just wanted to comment on the effect on siblings

> thread that's

> being discussed now...

>

> My sister (Aimee) is 3 years younger than me, and

> while my parents

> never made a big deal about my being short, I know

> my sister has been

> affected by others' comments. Since she weighed 9.5

> lbs at birth,

> she's been bigger than me most of her life! When I

> was 9 and

> shopping for clothing WITHOUT cartoon characters,

> she was 6 and

> couldn't fit into those " cool " (in her opinion!)

> clothes anymore. I

> was always labelled " cute " (ugh), which I think in

> her opinion left

> her as the " not-cute " one. My size has always made

> me memorable to

> strangers, teachers, etc, etc, and I think Aimee has

> often felt

> forgetable (which is ironic since she's way more

> outgoing than I

> am). I've never had a weight problem (yet) even

> though I eat most

> anything I want. I think Aimee sees that as the

> norm, and is very

> upset that her vegetarian diet still adds pounds. I

> don't think she

> ever forgave my grandmother for taking us shopping

> and buying me a

> shirt that showed my midrif (hey, it was the early

> '90s!) while

> telling her that a longer skirt would be more

> appropriate to cover

> her thighs... Yikes!

>

> I don't have any brilliant parenting advice for

> anyone, but just

> wanted to encourage everyone to continue to praise

> your other (non-

> RSS) kids and make sure that they know that there

> are " special "

> things about each one of them too!!

>

> -Ana

> 27, RSS, 4'8 " (and 'big' sister to Aimee, who still

> wants to mother

> me, and my father, and her friends........)

>

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November 8, 2004

Sabina,

Well we almost have your predicament. I have a 5 year old who has always

been at 95% or above for weight and height, then (3.5) who is RSS and

very low, however on the charts (5% weight/8% height), and a 2 year old who

is 95% for height and 75% for weight. So the challenge is not to let the

oldest and youngest eat too much of the high calorie stuff that needs

so that they don't get too heavy, and to remember to keep giving enough

to eat and not cutting him off like we sometimes need to with the other two.

It's not always easy.

, 's mom

Re: The toll on families - siblings

Ana

You have pointed one thing I am already facing a little. I have a 7

year old who is big (over the 97% in both weight and height, but

higher in the weight chart) and a 2 yr SGA (undiagnozed) who is way

down there below the lowest curve. As our older duaghter is border

line overweight we watch what she eats quite strictly, limiting high

calorie foods, junk foods and snacks etc. And as our younger one gets

older we will be doing the opposite for her I am worried about the

psychological effect on her. I was wondering if anyone else has two

child in the two opposite spectrums with one trying to loose weight

another trying to put on weight.

Sabina mother of Ramee (7 yrs, 81 lbs, 51 inches) and Naomi (2 yrs,

16 lbs, 26 inches!!)

>

> >

> > Hi all,

> >

> > I just wanted to comment on the effect on siblings

> > thread that's

> > being discussed now...

> >

> > My sister (Aimee) is 3 years younger than me, and

> > while my parents

> > never made a big deal about my being short, I know

> > my sister has been

> > affected by others' comments. Since she weighed 9.5

> > lbs at birth,

> > she's been bigger than me most of her life! When I

> > was 9 and

> > shopping for clothing WITHOUT cartoon characters,

> > she was 6 and

> > couldn't fit into those " cool " (in her opinion!)

> > clothes anymore. I

> > was always labelled " cute " (ugh), which I think in

> > her opinion left

> > her as the " not-cute " one. My size has always made

> > me memorable to

> > strangers, teachers, etc, etc, and I think Aimee has

> > often felt

> > forgetable (which is ironic since she's way more

> > outgoing than I

> > am). I've never had a weight problem (yet) even

> > though I eat most

> > anything I want. I think Aimee sees that as the

> > norm, and is very

> > upset that her vegetarian diet still adds pounds. I

> > don't think she

> > ever forgave my grandmother for taking us shopping

> > and buying me a

> > shirt that showed my midrif (hey, it was the early

> > '90s!) while

> > telling her that a longer skirt would be more

> > appropriate to cover

> > her thighs... Yikes!

> >

> > I don't have any brilliant parenting advice for

> > anyone, but just

> > wanted to encourage everyone to continue to praise

> > your other (non-

> > RSS) kids and make sure that they know that there

> > are " special "

> > things about each one of them too!!

> >

> > -Ana

> > 27, RSS, 4'8 " (and 'big' sister to Aimee, who still

> > wants to mother

> > me, and my father, and her friends........)

> >

>

> __________________________________________________

>

November 8, 2004

here too my middle child is 95% and where she does not need all the things jacob

need in food it is hard to tell her no now my baby it is not an issue here

because he is in the 40% and i don't think it heuts him.

cara mom to jacob

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