Re: RE:RSS Teasing: What works for us

[Guest guest]

Hooray for you! I agree the PC answers don't work in the little " Lord of the

Flies " world our children often have to live in most of the time. I remember

when my older son asked me not to talk to the teachers and administration when

he was bullied. After he taught me the rules and code of conduct little boys

have to live by we agreed that he would never fight at school and he would never

start a fight, but if he couldn't walk away I would support his decision. I

think he got in one fight his whole school carreer, his little brother ( the

mellower of the two ) maybe three or four. They both walked away from some

tremendous verbal provocations that would have probably had ME tempted to swing.

They were both small for their age but of course not nearly as small as our RSS

kids. I'm not suggesting that this is a workable solution for our kids, merely

that solutions that work may not fit our adult idealism and sensebilities.

Re: Teasing

Hi ,

I'm so sorry this is happening to your son! First, I want to say that

kids DO know they are different. I was aware of the fact that I wasn't

physically homogenous with my peers far, far before the age of 9 (I

think I was three or four when I first had the realization that I didn't

look like everyone else). I think sometimes kids pick up on a lot more

than adults sometimes give them credit for (and I'm just as guilty of

this as everyone else now that I'm an adult). I, too, would suggest

therapy. I saw a psychologist on and off through my middle and high

school years. This REALLY helped me out a lot with some of the issues I

had about not physically fitting in. In fact, I know high school would

have been a lot harder for me if I hadn't had a " safe " place to go

outside of my house and school to discuss whatever was bothering me.

Also, I would suggest finding an activity that he is good at and really

likes and encouraging him to pursue that. I did a lot of things growing

up (I was a serial " joiner " for quite some time ), but the activities

that I was good at really helped bolster my confidence. In addition to

that, doing those activities also helped my social skills because it

gave me a refrence point to use when bonding with other kids. All that

said, I do think that it is harder for boys at that age than it is

girls. I'm also sorry that I only have my experience to offer and not a

magic wand. But, here's to hoping that things get better for you son

and every other kid on the list who is being picked on!!!

~Hillary

22, RSS

[Guest guest]

Siri

I applaud your way of dealing with the bullies. I only wish I could do the

same (working in the school gives me a presence but what I'd really like to

do is go over and cream them! LOL). I know your answer is not politically

correct but heck it gives and gave your son some peace and I say " you go

girl! "

Debby

Re: Teasing

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> Hi ,

> I'm so sorry this is happening to your son! First, I want to say that

> kids DO know they are different. I was aware of the fact that I wasn't

> physically homogenous with my peers far, far before the age of 9 (I

> think I was three or four when I first had the realization that I didn't

> look like everyone else). I think sometimes kids pick up on a lot more

> than adults sometimes give them credit for (and I'm just as guilty of

> this as everyone else now that I'm an adult). I, too, would suggest

> therapy. I saw a psychologist on and off through my middle and high

> school years. This REALLY helped me out a lot with some of the issues I

> had about not physically fitting in. In fact, I know high school would

> have been a lot harder for me if I hadn't had a " safe " place to go

> outside of my house and school to discuss whatever was bothering me.

> Also, I would suggest finding an activity that he is good at and really

> likes and encouraging him to pursue that. I did a lot of things growing

> up (I was a serial " joiner " for quite some time ), but the activities

> that I was good at really helped bolster my confidence. In addition to

> that, doing those activities also helped my social skills because it

> gave me a refrence point to use when bonding with other kids. All that

> said, I do think that it is harder for boys at that age than it is

> girls. I'm also sorry that I only have my experience to offer and not a

> magic wand. But, here's to hoping that things get better for you son

> and every other kid on the list who is being picked on!!!

>

> ~Hillary

> 22, RSS

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