Re:Other people's attitudes...being confined...

[Guest guest]

I really think the issue is being confined. It sounds the same with

your son. My son cannot stand anybody to restrain him. He will

throw the same kind of tantrum in the doctor's office at somebody

checking out his ears - because we have to hold down his hands. We

used to do lap timeouts with him until we understood that this was

really hurting him emotionally.

> This one hits home!! I quit going anywhere till my dh got home

because I

> couldn't take that screaming and crying. And I have older kids who

can sit

> beside him and try to settle him. I've tried special treats which

he only

> gets in the car seat, fun music, big build ups before going and

nothing

> works. So.. when I have to go somewhere, I let him sit where he

wants to

> sit and try to get him to put a seat belt on. I know that's not

good

> enough, but I can't drive safely with his hysterics. As I said, I

don't

> usually go anywhere till my dh gets home.

>

> As far as it being normal or not: other people don't appear to have

this

> problem. I have only had one child who would sit happily in a car

seat, but

> most would tolerate it, for short periods.

>

> Lolita

>

> >he acted like he was being stabbed at being confined to

> >his car seat and it went on and on and on til I was almost sobbing

in

> >my internal desperation for him to stop. And the thing is, because

> >he is my first, I don't even have a clue if this behavior is normal

> >for a 3 year old, or not normal because of his PDD.

[Guest guest]

This sounds like a possible sensory integration problem. Does your

son get Occupational Therapy? If not, ask your school district for an

assessment and ask the Occupational Therapist for ideas to help with

this issue.

A good book on this subject is The Out of Sync Child - I am sorry

that I don't remember the author - but I am sure somebody else here

will, or you can find it on Amazon.com.

Anyway - good luck with this, I think it will take a little detective

work to figure out exactly what is bothering him and to figure out

how to help him tollerate the times that he needs to be confined. A

good OT can really help you with these types of issues.

Moira

[Guest guest]

My older son would scream hysterically like his leg had just been

lopped off! It was a sensory issue, but not easily resolved until he

just grew up a little bit. He would just panic and scream for hours

(I have timed him many times). The pediatrician would say I am

overreacting. It turns out some years later we find he is suffering

from constant migraines and although we couldn't see a direct

connection, he was in real pain and worn out by all the input. The

sensory integration therapies have helped many people, and hopefully

you and your child will get some relief too.

.

> > This one hits home!! I quit going anywhere till my dh got home

> because I

> > couldn't take that screaming and crying. And I have older kids

who

> can sit

> > beside him and try to settle him. I've tried special treats which

> he only

> > gets in the car seat, fun music, big build ups before going and

> nothing

> > works. So.. when I have to go somewhere, I let him sit where he

> wants to

> > sit and try to get him to put a seat belt on. I know that's not

> good

> > enough, but I can't drive safely with his hysterics. As I said, I

> don't

> > usually go anywhere till my dh gets home.

> >

> > As far as it being normal or not: other people don't appear to

have

> this

> > problem. I have only had one child who would sit happily in a car

> seat, but

> > most would tolerate it, for short periods.

> >

> > Lolita

> >

> > >he acted like he was being stabbed at being confined to

> > >his car seat and it went on and on and on til I was almost

sobbing

> in

> > >my internal desperation for him to stop. And the thing is,

because

> > >he is my first, I don't even have a clue if this behavior is

normal

> > >for a 3 year old, or not normal because of his PDD.