Re: Comparisons done in front of others; WAS other people's attitu...

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In a message dated 06/05/2001 5:51:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

laura_j_Luster@... writes:

> This reminds me. Does anybody else have relatives that just gush

> over your NT child - RIGHT in front of your PDD child? My relatives

> make it so clear they prefer the company of my youngest son, that it

> just breaks my heart, even though I am not even sure how much he

> picks up on that kind of stuff.

>

My Father does this with my NT DD in front of my autistic DS.. RIght now,

he's little enough (and has enough of a receptive/expressive language

disorder) that he doesn't understand at all. He also doesn't understand why

Grandpa yells at him for EVERYTHING. If he even acts like he's going after

something, he yells. He can be sitting 2' from him and instead of stopping

him, he yells at him.. Drives me crazy. He definitely treats them

differently and shows preference.. Thankfully my mother doesn't.

Married to Dan

Mom to:

Dana (3/4/98)

36 week preemie, now a spirited 3 y/o

~~~~~and~~~~~~

(3/26/99)

33 week preemie, now a 2 y.o. growing boy!

Hearing impaired/mild autism

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In a message dated 6/5/01 4:51:32 PM Central Daylight Time,

laura_j_Luster@... writes:

> This reminds me. Does anybody else have relatives that just gush

> over your NT child - RIGHT in front of your PDD child? My relatives

> make it so clear they prefer the company of my youngest son, that it

> just breaks my heart, even though I am not even sure how much he

> picks up on that kind of stuff.

>

>

>

>

It works the other way with my parents. My son is 15, my daughter is 7 and

my sister's daughter is 5 and was diagnosed with autism before she was two.

My parents have gone wild over my niece from the very beginning. My kids

call my niece Granny and Pap Paw's favorite grandchild. Now the niece lives

with us and my kids are wild about her too so it doesn't matter as much, but

I have been on the opposite side. My niece wasn't even aware that she was

the favorite, but my two were very aware that they were not.

Shirley

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> In a message dated 06/05/2001 5:51:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> laura_j_Luster@h... writes:

>

>

> > This reminds me. Does anybody else have relatives that just gush

> > over your NT child - RIGHT in front of your PDD child? My

relatives

> > make it so clear they prefer the company of my youngest son, that

it

> > just breaks my heart, even though I am not even sure how much he

> > picks up on that kind of stuff.

> >

>

>

Wow, ya'll make me feel lucky! My parents, especially my dad, really

dote on Brett! My dad teaches him something new everytime he sees

him (which is every few months). Last time, he taught Brett how to

do " so big " with his arms raised high. They are always talking about

how impressed they are with the progress he's made. Brett and his

grandpa have such a special friendship- he's really blessed that way!

Hugs,

Sue

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I have two boys 21 months apart. Both had PDD/SID although one is far

more severe and debilitated. It is naturally easier for someone to

like the kid who is more responsive and affectionate. My in-laws mean

to be fair, but it very often doesn't come out that way. They comment

on how wonderful is it that one son is cuddly and behaves SO WELL.

And the other is ....intense. And, yes, there are those days that I

think the same thing. However, it is downright mean and pitiful that

anyone would say some of the things mentioned here. My older son is

also far more miserable because of his condition. He works much

harder at achieving half as much in some areas. I really respect him

and know he doesn't want to be this way. He was given a hard row to

hoe, and he is doing an admirable job.

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> In a message dated 6/5/01 4:51:32 PM Central Daylight Time,

> laura_j_Luster@h... writes:

>

>

> > This reminds me. Does anybody else have relatives that just gush

> > over your NT child - RIGHT in front of your PDD child? My

relatives

> > make it so clear they prefer the company of my youngest son, that

it

> > just breaks my heart, even though I am not even sure how much he

> > picks up on that kind of stuff.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> It works the other way with my parents. My son is 15, my daughter

is 7 and

> my sister's daughter is 5 and was diagnosed with autism before she

was two.

> My parents have gone wild over my niece from the very beginning.

My kids

> call my niece Granny and Pap Paw's favorite grandchild. Now the

niece lives

> with us and my kids are wild about her too so it doesn't matter as

much, but

> I have been on the opposite side. My niece wasn't even aware that

she was

> the favorite, but my two were very aware that they were not.

> Shirley

>

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