Re: How do I find an aide? for Cristina & Maureen

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Thank's for your replies! I have tried getting him into a nursery

school or child care system before, so he will get use to separating

from me little at a time. But unfortunately, it didn't work out

He would cry the minute he doesn't see me & never stops until he sees

me again...which is a very LONG time, I'm talking hours! I haven't

found a place either that would let me stay with him for a few

min/hours at a time so he gets better with separating. We have toured

the school that they suggests, & we honestly think that they're good.

If only will be ok. He is just a different child, very attached

& loving towards us. We would be happy if he will be happy there.

But we know him & we think that he will just be traumatized instead of

improve. We're going to give it a try but just in case it doesn't

work out for him, we want to have a plan B. That's why we have the

plan B, regular half day school & then in-home ABA therapy.

Yhen

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> He would cry the minute he doesn't see me & never stops until he

sees

> me again...which is a very LONG time, I'm talking hours! I haven't

> found a place either that would let me stay with him for a few

> min/hours at a time so he gets better with separating.

Maybe if they do not let you do the transitioning help for your child

it is not the best place for him. The school where went this

year-and I have to stress that this was a HUGE change for him-let me

in for a whole day, and they would have probably let me in other days

if I thought he needed it. Luckily he liked it and liked the bus ride

too( I think this was the hardest part for me, Letting him go alone).

> But we know him & we think that he will just be traumatized instead

of

> improve.

As I said, do not think he'll be traumatized. You have to see the

half full glass not the half empty ;-)He may surprise you. But then

again, if he cries for so long they should be able to give him some

activity that distract him enough to don't even notice you're gone:

maybe they are not as good as you wish they were. They are paid to

know what to do with this situations; if they can't handle it for the

best interest of the child, maybe they are not what your son

needs....??

We're going to give it a try but just in case it doesn't

> work out for him, we want to have a plan B. That's why we have the

> plan B, regular half day school & then in-home ABA therapy.

>

> Yhen

Of course, plan B is fine too. Good luck from the bottom of my

heart!! Cristina -WA