Guest guest Posted July 16, 2004 Report Share Posted July 16, 2004 Hi All! I am approximately 4 weeks pregnant with my second child, and I couldn't be more excited! I do have a question though. For some reason, I am extremely nervous about miscarrying this child. I don't know why, and I absolutely did NOT feel this one with my first. It's like I won't let myself get excited, and keep checking for some sign that something is wrong. I think part of the problem is that I just flew from SC to Phoenix over the weekend and am afraid this could cause some damage even though my doctor said it was fine to go. Does anyone else feel this way? What can I do to calm down? I don't want to spend the entire 9 months waiting for the " other shoe to drop " Any help would be greatly appreciated. TIA Ro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2004 Report Share Posted July 16, 2004 I have felt the same way pretty much the whole 36 weeks. Every pain, tingle, cramp made me a nervous wreck. I have just now started to put her room together. I said to my hubby the other day that I thought we were really going to have a baby-he asked was there a doubt-i said everyday. Sorry that I dont have any advise on how to relax, but know you are not alone in the worring!! good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2004 Report Share Posted July 16, 2004 To this day (36 weeks) I still scope out the toilet paper I wipe with to make sure there isn't any blood when I go potty. Except now I think its more because I'm waiting for my mucus plug to appear. Point is that I have watched for signs of problems since I first found out we were pregnant. You'll find relaxing times will come, then you'll find yourself worrying about something else at another time. I think its pretty normal for anyone who looks forward to giving birth to a healthy baby. Since I haven't been good at it, I can't really give any advice about how to relax, but just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and there are plenty of people here who understand. Toi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2004 Report Share Posted July 16, 2004 RoKnowsMick@a... wrote: " What can I do to calm down? I don't want to > spend the entire 9 months waiting for the " other shoe to drop " Any help would be greatly appreciated. ============================ Ro, Nope, the flight wont cause problems at all. Most OB's dont want you flying after your 33-34-35th week (varies from OB to OB though). I think for myself, I didn't know enough to be scared the first time around. I worried then too, checking vital signs, heartrates, and my sugar levels, but with the 2nd I was waaaaaaaaay overly paranoid. I was also 37 years old. And to answer your question, I don't think your worry will ever stop. My Mom says her worry hasn't stopped for either of her 2 children who are now 28 & 38. *sigh* I had hoped and wished that someday I would be able to just *relax*. Doesn't look like that's ever gonna happen though. lol Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2004 Report Share Posted July 18, 2004 i had 3 mc and then a live birth (benjamin is 4 years 8 months now), it's very ahrd to " get relaxed " with this one. i'm constantly " looking " for something. you aren't alone. that's all i wanted to say. jsut think positive as you don't need the extra stress...hugs, jenn aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans I have all your summer care needs...tanning lotion, sunblock, even sunblock for your lips, get yours today! Need to Relax Hi All! I am approximately 4 weeks pregnant with my second child, and I couldn't be more excited! I do have a question though. For some reason, I am extremely nervous about miscarrying this child. I don't know why, and I absolutely did NOT feel this one with my first. It's like I won't let myself get excited, and keep checking for some sign that something is wrong. I think part of the problem is that I just flew from SC to Phoenix over the weekend and am afraid this could cause some damage even though my doctor said it was fine to go. Does anyone else feel this way? What can I do to calm down? I don't want to spend the entire 9 months waiting for the " other shoe to drop " Any help would be greatly appreciated. TIA Ro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2004 Report Share Posted July 18, 2004 In a message dated 7/18/2004 5:59:12 PM Eastern Daylight Time, minxkely@... writes: I need to stop obsessing. Colleen ------------------------ I think you are entitled to being obsessive! I can't imagine that many heartbreaks... I had 1 mc and it was devastating to me... With this pg.. I didn't stop obsessing until about 2 weeks ago.. when I hit 20 weeks... Of course I started again.. because of the pain I am having. Grrr... K in Ft Lauderdale mommy to: Noah 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz - 16.5 inches long Jonah edd 11/18/04 http://www.love-my-kids.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2004 Report Share Posted July 18, 2004 > i had 3 mc and then a live birth (benjamin is 4 years 8 months now), it's very ahrd to " get relaxed " with this one. i'm constantly " looking " for something. you aren't alone. that's all i wanted to say. jsut think positive as you don't need the extra stress...hugs, jenn I stopped counting the ones I lost before 8 weeks after 13 losses, but lost 2 others in the late first trimester and so I've been SOOO nervous with this one. Every twinge makes me run to look for spotting. I just know I'm going to drive myself crazy. we went and bought a new food steamer to steam all the ham I eat for lunch since I'm so scared about listeria now. I stayed inside with my napping nephew at the family cookout yesterday for fear of mosquitos with west-nile (which is still showing up around chicago here) arggh!!! I need to just enjoy this pregnancy and trust that things will be okay. It's easy to do that at night when hubby is home and we talk and he sings songs into my tummy. It's during the days when I'm alone and my mind just races with things that can go wrong. I need to stop obsessing. Colleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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