some ?'s from a 1st timer

[Guest guest]

Congrats on your pregnancy. As far as your husband goes he's lucky he

has you. My husband is lucky to get sex twice a month. I am 13 weeks

pregnant, and never in the mood. He also thinks that I am making up symptoms,

but oh

well I know my body better than he does. It will get better. I offer a hand

job when I am not in the mood and that works just fine because then he doesn't

feel neglected. Good luck!

Meridth

Wife to Larry (02/22/02)

Mother to Forrest (01/21/01)

Expecting #2 02/14/05

Gastric ByPass 02/23/04

370/278pg/175 goalweight

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In a message dated 8/11/2004 11:52:13 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

moblyana@... writes:

3. My husband (who has 4 kids from a previous marriage) thinks that

all my aches, tiredness, sore breasts, etc. are all just a ploy that

I have created to avoid sex with him. He claims his ex-wife never

had these issues. Is there a book any of you recommend for him to

read? We make love 4-5 times a week, so it's not like he's not

getting any, but the feeling that he believes I am lying about my

discomfort is taking the joy out of pregnancy. I don't feel

comfortable telling him about what I am feeling because I don't want

the looks and the " so, does this mean I'm not getting any " comments.

Thanks all for listening.

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I will take #3....

Congrats on your pregnancy!

4 to 5 times a week? I won't EVEN tell my hubby that... since he has only

gotten it 2 or 3 times since conception... and I am almost 26 weeks... high

risk... not due to WLS>

I recommend a book called.. " My Boys can Swim " .. written from a MAN's

perspective.. and a very easy read.

If his ex was such a saintly woman.. why did he divorce her? She sounds

perfect. :: insert sarcasm::::

Seriously... no 2 pg are identical in the SAME woman... let alone in

different woman.

The first 14 weeks for me I could barely move due to extreme all day sickness

and extreme exhaustion.

Now.. if hubby even hinted that I was faking it... (in between my heaving in

the bathroom)

I would have to kick him in the balls and ask if it REALLY hurts... or is he

just faking it?

Men can be so very insensitive at times. They just don't have any idea what

it is like to have monthly mood swings... have to bleed every month... have

fluid dripping out your boobs, get a hemmeroid from pg.... blotchy skin due to

hormones... and have to deal with a changing body shape.

I alwasy tell my hubby... I dont' want to ever get divorced again.. but I

have no problem being a widow!

K in Ft Lauderdale

Noah - 10/14/02 & Jonah - edd 11/18/04

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Congratualtions on your pregnancy. My boons hurt like hell the first few

months and I did not have breast reduction yet, they are just normally very are

during pregnancy. Your hubby is lucky to be getting ANY AT ALL, my hubby gets it

once or twince a month, there is more to life than sex and he should NOT be

comparing you to his first wife, GEEZZZ!!!!! Every woman is different, if his

first wife did it, good for her, that does not make it that you feel good

enough to do it all the time also. I always feel yucky during the first

trimester

and the last couple months, most women do. I hope you do well with your

pregnancy and that hubby.

God Bless, Robin

Wife to Pup for 15 years

Mommy to-

and

(twin boys, 8 years) and

Daughter Madison- age 5 1/2

and new Mommy to-

Emerson Roger born

July 28, 2004 at 4:11 am

8lbs 7 oz, 20 1/2 inches long.

[Guest guest]

there is also a book " what to expect when you are expecting " and i think

they have it for fathers too but if not this book will still be good for him to

read...

Thank you for your payment. i will get this shipped out first thing tomorrow

morning and I will leave you positive feedback.

[Guest guest]

yes there is a fathers one. i bought it for my husband when i was pregant

with my daughter. Good luck with him!

[Guest guest]

Hi group. I learn so much from just reading your posts. Thanks so

much for sharing so much of your lives. Congrats to all the new moms

and good luck to all of us waiting for the day to come when our

peanuts are here.

I have a few questions that I wanted to ask your input on. Some may

be stupid, but having never done this before, I hope you indulge my

ignorance.

1. **A BIT ICKY** For the last week or so, my discharge has been

kind of yellowish-green. I'm not showing any symptoms of bladder or

yeast infection (frequent urination, burning, itching, etc), but the

color has me concerned. Any thoughts?

2. I am 15 wks along and my breasts are achey all the time. They

even hurt to sleep on. I had breast redux surgery 2 years ago, do

you think this might aggrevate the normal sorness that comes with

pregnancy?

3. My husband (who has 4 kids from a previous marriage) thinks that

all my aches, tiredness, sore breasts, etc. are all just a ploy that

I have created to avoid sex with him. He claims his ex-wife never

had these issues. Is there a book any of you recommend for him to

read? We make love 4-5 times a week, so it's not like he's not

getting any, but the feeling that he believes I am lying about my

discomfort is taking the joy out of pregnancy. I don't feel

comfortable telling him about what I am feeling because I don't want

the looks and the " so, does this mean I'm not getting any " comments.

Thanks all for listening.

Open RNY 4/01

TT/Breast redx 9/02

EDD 2/1/05

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Hi . I can answer #2, sore breasts are textbook preggo issues.

Mine were sore until recently, the aerolas, sp?, are darker &

bumpier--still waiting for boobies to grow though:-(

#3 Hmmm, why is he doubting your word? & being unsympathetic? &

talking about his sex life w/ ex? Esp the latter, it's in very poor

taste. Every pregnancy, & even subsequent pregnancies in the same

woman, are different. Maybe he feels rejected, but that's no excuse,

does he recall " in sickness & in health " ?

Best of luck trying to train him. Sorry for my over the top reply,

it's just if my dh ever mentioned anything about hanky panky with an

ex, they'd be a shoe flying in his direction---playing!

WlsMomma

21 weeks, 2 days

> 2. I am 15 wks along and my breasts are achey all the time. They

> even hurt to sleep on. I had breast redux surgery 2 years ago, do

> you think this might aggrevate the normal sorness that comes with

> pregnancy?

>

> 3. My husband (who has 4 kids from a previous marriage) thinks that

> all my aches, tiredness, sore breasts, etc. are all just a ploy that

> I have created to avoid sex with him. He claims his ex-wife never

> had these issues. Is there a book any of you recommend for him to

> read? We make love 4-5 times a week, so it's not like he's not

> getting any, but the feeling that he believes I am lying about my

> discomfort is taking the joy out of pregnancy. I don't feel

> comfortable telling him about what I am feeling because I don't want

> the looks and the " so, does this mean I'm not getting any " comments.

>

> Thanks all for listening.

>

>

> Open RNY 4/01

> TT/Breast redx 9/02

> EDD 2/1/05

[Guest guest]

> 1. my discharge has been kind of yellowish-green. but the

> color has me concerned. Any thoughts? any color besides clear or

whitish is usually indicative of an infection. Is it malodorous? I'd

get it checked asap so you aren't walking around with an untreated

infection if thats what it may be. Has your hubby had any itchiness or

Discharge too? It may be something that you both need treated for.

check it out asap!

>

> 2. I am 15 wks along and my breasts are achey all the time. I

didn't have breast recon- but my boobs KILLED me from week 6 to week

20! Warm showers were my liefsaver!

>

> 3. You make love 4-5 times a week, and he's griping??? Man, I think

I'd have be having some major issues with that. Mine was so sweet and

thoughtful and considerate of me, and we only had sex like 4 times in

9 months. Tell him you AREN " T his ex-wife and all women are different.

Sorry, but he sounds like a jerk to me.

Best wishes with everything!

Sheila L & D RN

[Guest guest]

Welcome . I am newer here, TTC since last month, but had a boy

pre-WLS so can share my experience from him.

>>>1. **A BIT ICKY** For the last week or so, my discharge has

been kind of yellowish-green. I'm not showing any symptoms of

bladder or yeast infection (frequent urination, burning, itching,

etc), but the color has me concerned. Any thoughts?<<<

I think I would give the OB a call about this. It could be an

indication of something happening, or if not their response will put

your mind at ease =)

>>>2. I am 15 wks along and my breasts are achey all the time.

They even hurt to sleep on. I had breast redux surgery 2 years ago,

do you think this might aggrevate the normal sorness that comes with

pregnancy?<<<

My breasts hurt just thinking about being pregnant. If you had a

breast redux that means you were chesty to begin with. That may

have something to do with it. I was a D cup when I got preggo with

Sammy and had to wear a bra to sleep. I got some soft sports bras

that kept everything tight all night. It might help.

>>>3. My husband (who has 4 kids from a previous marriage) thinks

that all my aches, tiredness, sore breasts, etc. are all just a ploy

that I have created to avoid sex with him. He claims his ex-wife

never had these issues. Is there a book any of you recommend for

him to read? We make love 4-5 times a week, so it's not like he's

not getting any, but the feeling that he believes I am lying about

my discomfort is taking the joy out of pregnancy. I don't feel

comfortable telling him about what I am feeling because I don't want

the looks and the " so, does this mean I'm not getting any "

comments.<<<

Yes. The book I recommend is " Get off my A$$ " by ! Just

kidding. I bet that your hubby just has a selective memory about

what his ex did and did not tolerate when she was preggo. That was

a LONG time ago! You are just coming out of the first trimester he

has a long way to go. The second trimester was the best for me,

intamacy wise. I remember my hubby didn't get it at all the first

trimester, and he is getting it 4-5 times a week? He is a lucky

man. He may have to get creative about satasfying his needs. You

might want to visit some of the " Naughty " stores online and order

him somthing to use. I have the exact opposite problem. My hubby

complains that he is going to get dehydrated because we are doin it

so much TTC! They are NEVER happy!

Good luck and congrats!!

Jeanette in IL

Lap RNY 5-9-03 264/145/135??

Mommy to Sammy 10-23-00

TTC since 7-04