Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 This may have nothing to do with what your going to experience. Just letting you know my personal experience of having a sister that is two years older than me and a sister that is seven years older than me.. Growing up my sister who was seven years old than myself and me fought pretty frequently.. Weren't that close.. She didn't want her younger sister around, etc. My sister that was two years older than me and myself were very close all though still had the sibling rivalry occasionally. Now that we are older though ALL of us are very close.. Just my two cents... Holly Welshans Open RNY 12/10/03 land resident In a message dated 8/21/2004 8:49:40 AM Eastern Daylight Time, OSSG-pregnant writes: Thanks Helen, , Tara and Merdith, and anyone else I may have overlooked for the warm welcome! The main things that I am concerned with are the age difference between my son and this baby...he will be 3 months shy of turning 6 when this baby is born. Those of you who mentioned that you have 5 yr olds, do you worry about this? I have heard that such a big age difference affects the closeness of the children...I don't know if this is true or not, but I do know my son is so excited to be getting a sibling, he can hardly stand it! He says he wants it to be a sister... I just hope they will be close. Anyway, on the other hand, I have also heard that its a good thing to space them 5 years, that way each child has had the chance to be the baby. My friend spaced her children 5 years for this reason and they seem to be fine. I was just wondering what your thoughts would be? My other question/ concern is that I had a DS, and I am just wondering how a DS pregnancy varies from an RNY pregnancy. I take it most ppl here had an rny(?) but I'm just wondering if anyone here had the DS also? Thanks so much! Meredith S. 8 wks pg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 My Mother had 8 of us. My 2 sisters are 20 and 21 years older than I am and had moved out and had kids of there own by the time I and my younger brother were born but we are alls till very, very close. Not as close as me and my brother who are 22 months apart or my brother who is 7 years older than me but still very close. I think alot of it is how you are raised together and get along together. I think siblings should always be involved with each other no matter what the age gap in between. Not forced though, that would just make the wedge bigger but if they are taught to want to help and be ther for their sibling, as I tell my kids, THEIR BABY with Emerson and they love it so much. thinks it is a great deal to have Emerson in his bouncy seat while he gives him a bottle for me I hope and pray they all stay close and I am going to try my best to make it so. God Bless, Robin Wife to Pup for 15 years Mommy to- and (twin boys, 8 years) and Daughter Madison- age 5 1/2 and new Mommy to- Emerson Roger born July 28, 2004 at 4:11 am 8lbs 7 oz, 20 1/2 inches long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 I was almost 16 when baby #6 was born.. and moved out 2 years later... While we had plenty of contact..it wasn't the same relationship that my other sisters and brothers had while living with the youngest. However.. now that he is older (17) we are much closer then when he was little. I have more of an idea of what goes on his life.. but while he was in gradeschool.. I was clueless.. as I had my own bad marriage issues and party lifestyle to deal with. I think as we ( my brothers and sisters) all got older and entered into adulthood.. we really began to appreciate one another.. and do keep in contact almost daily with email.. IM's.. and weekend phone calls... For my family.. the internet has been a great tool in keeping us all connected.. *************************************************** K in Ft Lauderdale Noah - 10/14/02 - 31 weeker Jonah - edd 11/18/04 ( currently High Risk Pg.. not WLS related) Open RNY - 12/02/03 262/200/someday maybe in the 120's?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Meredith S. I have a soon to be 10 yr old boy and a soon to be 2 year old boy. I couldn't have prayed for 2 kids to love each other more. The 10 year old corrects/chastises me for making the baby mind. When I smacked the baby's hand one (knee jerk reaction as he was going for an unplugged outlet), my older son put his finger in my face and said in a deep, teeth gritted voice, " DONT YOU EVER SMACK HIM AGAIN! " it wasn't funny (well, still isnt funny) but I am so very happy, glad and proud of the fact he loves his baby brother so much. They play together (HotWheels, Game Boy etc) and just love each other so much. I learned after having his PKU and first set of shots NOT to take the older one with me. He cried harder than the baby and then dared me to ever get him another shot. lol Anyway, their relationship is totally up to them, although there are many ways you can foster a warm and loving one. I think when mine get a little older, I am gonna be in trouble. Neither will tell on the other about who did what I'm certain! lol SHeila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2004 Report Share Posted August 22, 2004 I can relate to you. I also have half twin brothers who are older than me. The visited every other weekend, but it always felt like it was " them " and " me " . I always concidered myself an only child. Its not much fun either...I would love to have had a sibling. --- SapphyreSunn wrote: > I agree with this because you could have your kids > and they might only be two to three years apart and > they could be the best of friends or they could hate > each other and then when they get older and are > adults they may become very close. My mom and her > sister are ten years apart and when my mom had me > and got married her sister was only ten years old > but they are the best of friends now and are always > talking to each other. My mom also has five > brothers and the only one she really talks to is the > oldest. So i think it just depends on the child. > Then again some syblings may be close when they are > younger and then drift apart when they get older. I > on the other had have two half brother and a half > sister but i was pretty much and only child becuase > they all lived with their mothers and i lived with > my dad and mom so as far as i am concerened i dont > have any syblings. I try to stay in contact with > them but i just dont think they really want anything > to do with me now. > > homebizmomfla@... wrote:I was almost 16 when > baby #6 was born.. and moved out 2 years later... > While we had plenty of contact..it wasn't the same > relationship that my other > sisters and brothers had while living with the > youngest. > > However.. now that he is older (17) we are much > closer then when he was > little. > I have more of an idea of what goes on his life.. > but while he was in > gradeschool.. I was clueless.. as I had my own bad > marriage issues and party > lifestyle to deal with. > > I think as we ( my brothers and sisters) all got > older and entered into > adulthood.. we really began to appreciate one > another.. and do keep in contact > almost daily with email.. IM's.. and weekend phone > calls... > > For my family.. the internet has been a great tool > in keeping us all > connected.. > > > > > *************************************************** > K in Ft Lauderdale > Noah - 10/14/02 - 31 weeker > Jonah - edd 11/18/04 ( currently High Risk Pg.. not > WLS related) > Open RNY - 12/02/03 > 262/200/someday maybe in the 120's?? > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. > -Psalm 127:3 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2004 Report Share Posted August 22, 2004 I am the youngest of six. My oldest brother is 16 yrs older--- literally old enough to be my father. Our family is pretty close though. Even though with six we kinda grew up in pairs, we all are able to talk and enjoy each other's company now. My sister that is 2 yrs older than I, and the one I grew up with, is the closest to me. But as we got older, I grew closer to the others. But during my growing up years they were off in apartments, getting married, joining the navy and traveling---stuff I couldn't relate to as a kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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