Re:Mothering, My Labor, and marriage woes - LONG!

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Chrystal,

I replied to you separately after I approved your post this morning

and just replied off the top of my head, so my reply isn't under your

post. I will send it separately to your email, *just in case* the

little one keeps you too busy from coming in here to check the

messages! lol

Being a L & D RN and *knowing* and *seeing* the very thing you

described, is what made me think about a VBAC, oh for about a half a

nanosecond!

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Chrystal,

I am so sorry about the experience that you went through.

Unfortunately, this IS the reason I chose not to even try VBAC, even

though " it is and can be done successfully blah blah blah. "

I am just so thankful that you are out of the hospital w/ Jonas and

that you didn't have to leave him there. The cuts and bruising (on you

both) will heal over time, but the deeper feelings you have toward

your hubby may take a while. He didn't have to go through it, he was

just a witness and if he is a good hubby, he felt and still feels

horrible for *making* you feel as if you had no other choice but to

VBAC. Perhaps from this point on in your marriage, he will let you

make your OWN decisions and let you deal with the outcome. It truly

makes me mad and I dont even know either of you. He sounds so

controlling and domineering like my ex hubby perhaps?

On the other side of the coin, a trip to CA would be great for you

(would for me!) just to get away, give your self a break from hubby

and visit with your family may just be what you need. I do think you

need to voice your anger at your hubby in a constructive way though so

he knows how and where you stand (if not already). It may get to the

point you should seek antidepressants or medication if you truly think

you are having some PP depression.

Again, (((((((speaking from MY OWN experience)))).... cut me everytime!

Best wishes to you and Jonas!!

HUgs (gentle)

Sheila