Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 In a message dated 9/9/2004 11:26:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time, nowhiners@... writes: My hubby and I are still having big problems. No fighting though cause that's not what we do. Our marriage is basically 2 people who love eachother - don't talk at all, except about the kids, pets, house, or car - working for the common goal. I guess we are roommates!! I feel lonely but haven't exactly figured out what to do. I tried talking with him but nothing changed and he won't go to marital counselling. --------------------------------------- Sounds just like my marriage.. Seriously! I remember it was about 6 months post Noah that dh and I became more " romantic " . It is tough especially when there is some trauma associated with the birth. Right now dh and I are like roommates without 'benefits " due to my PTL issues... and honestly...I am used to not having sex... Perhaps when it happens again.. it will feel all brand new ?? Hang in there... your family is going thru a major adjustment! *************************************************** K in Ft Lauderdale Noah - 10/14/02 (31 weeker - DX of SID ) Jonah - edd 11/18/04 ( currently High Risk Pg.. not WLS related) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Hi All, I've been reading digest when I get to my computer...it actually had dust on it!!!!!! A lot has been happening here. First my best friends father died and she has been devestated and needed some help. Then my father's kidneys failed and we found out he actually only has one kidney. This was a good and bad thing because now he is actually taking care of his diabetes and watching what he eats and even testing his blood sugar. It was very scary. Our oldest son started full time preschool 2 days per week on Tuesday! It's wonderful because I have 6.5 hours alone with baby Jonas and I can nap and clean my house and relax! Baby Jonas is doing well. He is now 11 pounds!!! He is still breastfeeding like a champion and sleeps 4 hours straight at night which I consider a miracle! My hubby and I are still having big problems. No fighting though cause that's not what we do. Our marriage is basically 2 people who love eachother - don't talk at all, except about the kids, pets, house, or car - working for the common goal. I guess we are roommates!! I feel lonely but haven't exactly figured out what to do. I tried talking with him but nothing changed and he won't go to marital counselling. I feel healthy and happy with my sons despite everything. I'm looking forward to things getting on some kind of schedule or normality now that school has started although I am not looking forward to the snow and winter wind that will be coming soon. Big hugs to you all! Chrystal Wife to Jace - together 6 Years! Happy Mommy to - 4 Years Old! Baby Jonas Born August 2, 2004 8 Pounds & 8 Ounces! Zookeeper for 2 big dogs and 6 cats who let me feed them! http://chrystallife.50megs.com/ http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/seeswensonauctions/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Chrystal, Thank you so much for posting! Ole " Mother Hen " was worried about you. I am sorry you and hubby are still having problems, but glad to hear you sounding strong and healthy! Good to hear Jonas is thriving too! Hugs, > Hi All, > > I've been reading digest when I get to my computer...it actually had dust on it!!!!!! > > A lot has been happening here. > > First my best friends father died and she has been devestated and needed some help. > > Then my father's kidneys failed and we found out he actually only has one kidney. This was a good and bad thing because now he is actually taking care of his diabetes and watching what he eats and even testing his blood sugar. It was very scary. > > Our oldest son started full time preschool 2 days per week on Tuesday! It's wonderful because I have 6.5 hours alone with baby Jonas and I can nap and clean my house and relax! > > Baby Jonas is doing well. He is now 11 pounds!!! He is still breastfeeding like a champion and sleeps 4 hours straight at night which I consider a miracle! > > My hubby and I are still having big problems. No fighting though cause that's not what we do. Our marriage is basically 2 people who love eachother - don't talk at all, except about the kids, pets, house, or car - working for the common goal. I guess we are roommates!! I feel lonely but haven't exactly figured out what to do. I tried talking with him but nothing changed and he won't go to marital counselling. > > I feel healthy and happy with my sons despite everything. > > I'm looking forward to things getting on some kind of schedule or normality now that school has started although I am not looking forward to the snow and winter wind that will be coming soon. > > Big hugs to you all! > Chrystal > > Wife to Jace - together 6 Years! > Happy Mommy to - 4 Years Old! > Baby Jonas Born August 2, 2004 8 Pounds & 8 Ounces! > Zookeeper for 2 big dogs and 6 cats who let me feed them! > http://chrystallife.50megs.com/ > http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/seeswensonauctions/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 hey crystal noce to hear from you and glad the baby is doing well and you got jecobi n preschool to have time alone. i'm sorry you and hubby are having " problems " , but it will get better. once you recover and get in the groove of being mommy to 2 and all, hopefully things will change. good luck... thanks for checking in...hugs. aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans I have all your summer care needs...tanning lotion, sunblock, even sunblock for your lips, get yours today! I'm okay... Hi All, I've been reading digest when I get to my computer...it actually had dust on it!!!!!! A lot has been happening here. First my best friends father died and she has been devestated and needed some help. Then my father's kidneys failed and we found out he actually only has one kidney. This was a good and bad thing because now he is actually taking care of his diabetes and watching what he eats and even testing his blood sugar. It was very scary. Our oldest son started full time preschool 2 days per week on Tuesday! It's wonderful because I have 6.5 hours alone with baby Jonas and I can nap and clean my house and relax! Baby Jonas is doing well. He is now 11 pounds!!! He is still breastfeeding like a champion and sleeps 4 hours straight at night which I consider a miracle! My hubby and I are still having big problems. No fighting though cause that's not what we do. Our marriage is basically 2 people who love eachother - don't talk at all, except about the kids, pets, house, or car - working for the common goal. I guess we are roommates!! I feel lonely but haven't exactly figured out what to do. I tried talking with him but nothing changed and he won't go to marital counselling. I feel healthy and happy with my sons despite everything. I'm looking forward to things getting on some kind of schedule or normality now that school has started although I am not looking forward to the snow and winter wind that will be coming soon. Big hugs to you all! Chrystal Wife to Jace - together 6 Years! Happy Mommy to - 4 Years Old! Baby Jonas Born August 2, 2004 8 Pounds & 8 Ounces! Zookeeper for 2 big dogs and 6 cats who let me feed them! http://chrystallife.50megs.com/ http://members.ebay.com/aboutme/seeswensonauctions/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 In a message dated 9/9/2004 11:26:27 AM Eastern Standard Time, nowhiners@... writes: My hubby and I are still having big problems. Chrystal, I did not have husband type feelings for my husband for almost 2 years and thought of him more as a friend and it was very hard on our marraige. He did NOT know I felt this way and I HATED having sex with him because it did not feel right. I had thought about what a divorce would be like but decided to stick it out for the kids sake and TODAY, I could not love him more. Somehow my love for him has rekindled with the trouble from our Tattoo shop having to be moved and the Birth of Emerson but these past 2 months are like old times and I am back in love. I sure hope you can rekindle your love with your hubby too. i think he should try counceling with you, it would not hurt. MAyeb try to go do some things just the 2 of you without kids, like a date, and rekindle that spark. God Bless, Robin Wife to Pup for 15 years Mommy to- and (twin boys, 8 years) and Daughter Madison- age 5 1/2 and new Mommy to- Emerson Roger born July 28, 2004 at 4:11 am 8lbs 7 oz, 20 1/2 inches long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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