Wanting some major advice about career change! (long)

[Guest guest]

Hi ya'll....

OK.....here's the situation......I work full time and attend college

part time. I have just 3 classes left until I complete my bachelors

degree. I have been attending college part time off and on for

probably a total of 7 years.....It's about time I graduate. I turn

40 in November. My baby is due in mid February.......here's the deal

though.....I work full time in an office. I am seriously thinking

about asking my boss if I can bring my baby to work....I work for a

small company and have a huge and private office.....no walk-in

customers......it's all phone contact with our customers.....I see no

reason why I would not be able to do this....BUT, he MIGHT say NO...I

have to prepare myself for that possibility.......I don't earn what I

feel I am worth (but then again, who does, right)? I know that once I

complete my degree, I would be more marketable but we live in a small

town about an hour from Austin (Texas). I do NOT want to commute

having a newborn. So....I have a couple of choices......I can hope

and pray my boss will let me bring baby to work.....or I can put the

baby in daycare (which is my last resort)....but it costs more than

we can afford on our current salaries, or I can find a career where I

can work from home and earn the same income, or more.....I'd like to

pursue a career in sales....like medical sales, pharmaceutical sales,

something where I can earn a nice salary....BUT....not sure if I am

marketable being PREGNANT right now.....so....what should I do? I am

thinking of talking to my boss next week about bringing baby to work.

If he says " no " ....then I guess I need to start looking for another

job.....there is no way we can afford daycare on my current

income.....I like my job....it's pretty low stress, only 10 min. from

my house and I have been here almost 2 years now.....BUT we have no

benefits.....when I go to the doc, I do not get paid, etc. and I am

not sure if I will be paid while on maternity leave either....another

issue I need to discuss with my boss next week.......anyway, if any

of you have any advice or know of companies that hire people to work

from home, I would LOVE to talk to you........feel free to email me

here on the board or privately: terri_wilkes@...

Sorry this is so long but I really do need some help here.......

Hugs to all

Terri Wilkes

EDD: 3-1-05

[Guest guest]

Terri,

I'm lucky, I'm self-employed and can be home with mine when he/she is born,

yet I also have an office but can take him/her to work. So, I know it puts

you in a spot. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your

boss, but keep in mind, they want what's best for THEM and The Company. So.

.. position it that way.

Talk with your boss that you have been working on preparing for the care of

your newborn and you are really torn because the care you have been

researching in your area just isn't what you expected - despite affordable.

Ask him, Do you have any idea what day care costs today? Then tell him you

found a wonderful solution that would allow you to continue doing your job

that he expects you to do and you found care that would be ideal for your

newborn. Tell him you'd like the opportunity to come back to work as soon

as possible after your newborn and since you have a private office would he

object (on a trial basis (emphasize) to having your baby there while you

work?

How can he say no to that? You've given the insinuation that you want to

work, it wouldn't even hurt to tell him how much you value your job there.

Tell him, if it doesn't work out, you will resort to plan B and select one

of the care facilities you were looking into, but it was not your first

choice and not at all affordable. But if you had to, somehow you'd make

ends meet.

See what he says. You did tell him a trial basis. And that leaves the door

open for him to have to approach you and tell YOU its not working out - then

at least you bought yourself some time and hopefully it will work out till

your ready to part ways.

Hope this helps.

~Sandy (Buffalo, NY)

RNY Dr.Caruana - 5/21/03

330/198

Expecting #1 - 3/17/05

14 Weeks

[Guest guest]

-Sandy,

You are awesome! Thanks so much for your input!!!!!!!!! I love your

choice of words.....on a trial basis is key.....and " would he object "

and all of the other stuff you said is just awesome....I just need to

practice!! Thanks for the tips..........Of course if I could find

a position where I could work from home, it would be even better!!! I

am still hoping they give me some pay while on maternity leave

too.....if they don't, I might be looking to leave anyway.....I

cannot be 6-8 weeks without any pay......I will have a c-section and

possible hysterectomy at the same time....that will take some

recovery time! Wish me luck!

Terri in Texas

15 wks pregnant

-- In OSSG-pregnant , " Sandy Mangani " <smangani@a...>

wrote:

> Terri,

>

> I'm lucky, I'm self-employed and can be home with mine when he/she

is born,

> yet I also have an office but can take him/her to work. So, I know

it puts

> you in a spot. I don't know what kind of relationship you have

with your

> boss, but keep in mind, they want what's best for THEM and The

Company. So.

> . position it that way.

>

> Talk with your boss that you have been working on preparing for the

care of

> your newborn and you are really torn because the care you have been

> researching in your area just isn't what you expected - despite

affordable.

> Ask him, Do you have any idea what day care costs today? Then tell

him you

> found a wonderful solution that would allow you to continue doing

your job

> that he expects you to do and you found care that would be ideal

for your

> newborn. Tell him you'd like the opportunity to come back to work

as soon

> as possible after your newborn and since you have a private office

would he

> object (on a trial basis (emphasize) to having your baby there

while you

> work?

>

> How can he say no to that? You've given the insinuation that you

want to

> work, it wouldn't even hurt to tell him how much you value your job

there.

> Tell him, if it doesn't work out, you will resort to plan B and

select one

> of the care facilities you were looking into, but it was not your

first

> choice and not at all affordable. But if you had to, somehow you'd

make

> ends meet.

>

> See what he says. You did tell him a trial basis. And that leaves

the door

> open for him to have to approach you and tell YOU its not working

out - then

> at least you bought yourself some time and hopefully it will work

out till

> your ready to part ways.

>

> Hope this helps.

>

>

> ~Sandy (Buffalo, NY)

> RNY Dr.Caruana - 5/21/03

> 330/198

> Expecting #1 - 3/17/05

> 14 Weeks

[Guest guest]

Terri,

I also worked in a small office. Most of our work is also through the

phone. I was bringing my baby back and forth for a while but let me

tell you it's not as easy as you think. I thought I would do just

fine. We are not that busy so what was the big deal.. well... I had

to make sure my baby wasn't crying when the phone rang. Then I had to

feed him every 3 hours it was very hard on me. I finally told my boss

I would be a temp so to speak because it was too much for me. So now

I just fill in when they need me and I still bring my baby but let me

tell you it isn't easy. If you do this good luck to you.

Kathy

> > Terri,

> >

> > I'm lucky, I'm self-employed and can be home with mine when

he/she

> is born,

> > yet I also have an office but can take him/her to work. So, I

know

> it puts

> > you in a spot. I don't know what kind of relationship you have

> with your

> > boss, but keep in mind, they want what's best for THEM and The

> Company. So.

> > . position it that way.

> >

> > Talk with your boss that you have been working on preparing for

the

> care of

> > your newborn and you are really torn because the care you have

been

> > researching in your area just isn't what you expected - despite

> affordable.

> > Ask him, Do you have any idea what day care costs today? Then

tell

> him you

> > found a wonderful solution that would allow you to continue doing

> your job

> > that he expects you to do and you found care that would be ideal

> for your

> > newborn. Tell him you'd like the opportunity to come back to

work

> as soon

> > as possible after your newborn and since you have a private

office

> would he

> > object (on a trial basis (emphasize) to having your baby there

> while you

> > work?

> >

> > How can he say no to that? You've given the insinuation that you

> want to

> > work, it wouldn't even hurt to tell him how much you value your

job

> there.

> > Tell him, if it doesn't work out, you will resort to plan B and

> select one

> > of the care facilities you were looking into, but it was not your

> first

> > choice and not at all affordable. But if you had to, somehow

you'd

> make

> > ends meet.

> >

> > See what he says. You did tell him a trial basis. And that

leaves

> the door

> > open for him to have to approach you and tell YOU its not working

> out - then

> > at least you bought yourself some time and hopefully it will work

> out till

> > your ready to part ways.

> >

> > Hope this helps.

> >

> >

> > ~Sandy (Buffalo, NY)

> > RNY Dr.Caruana - 5/21/03

> > 330/198

> > Expecting #1 - 3/17/05

> > 14 Weeks

[Guest guest]

You'll do great! Just remember to look out for #1 & #2! *wink* You are

the most important.

Let us know how it goes! I'll be anxiously awaiting.

~Sandy