Re: Wanting some major advice about career change! (long) >>Katny

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Kathy,

THANK YOU so much for the warning.......I have been afraid of that as

well. The phone doesn't ring much.....but it seems when it does, it

rings ALOT! And then sometimes I am tied up on the phone for

awhile......and I wonder.....well, what if the phone wakes the baby

up, etc. I have thought about that and I can see how it would be

difficult. Plus, I don't handle stress very well at all. I am a very

organized person and I have a routine and I like things done just a

certain way and my boss is that way too. So.....I am a bit concerned.

That is one reason why I have hoped I could find something where I

could work from home......and not worry with lugging the baby up here

every day.....I work full-time......Mon-Fri from 8am-5pm.........the

whole thing just has me worried and my stomach is in knots. I am

soooo torn about what to do......Grrrhhh!!! Why can't life be easy

and why can't we be wealthy so I can just stay home! Geeez!!!!!! I

only worked part time until our son was 3 years old......now we make

more money but seem to have less free money to spend.......PLUS when

he was little, my mother in law kept him for awhile....but she works

now....so that's out of the question.....I just don't know what to

do....I wish I had the patience to stay home and take care of a few

children......I had thought of that too....but then you don't know if

you will get paid by the parents, etc......so.....it's such a tough

decision.......thanks for your feedback and thanks all of you for

letting me vent.......any advice is GREATLY listened to and

appreciated!

Terri in Texas

15 weeks pregnant and stressin over this

> > > Terri,

> > >

> > > I'm lucky, I'm self-employed and can be home with mine when

> he/she

> > is born,

> > > yet I also have an office but can take him/her to work. So, I

> know

> > it puts

> > > you in a spot. I don't know what kind of relationship you have

> > with your

> > > boss, but keep in mind, they want what's best for THEM and The

> > Company. So.

> > > . position it that way.

> > >

> > > Talk with your boss that you have been working on preparing for

> the

> > care of

> > > your newborn and you are really torn because the care you have

> been

> > > researching in your area just isn't what you expected - despite

> > affordable.

> > > Ask him, Do you have any idea what day care costs today? Then

> tell

> > him you

> > > found a wonderful solution that would allow you to continue

doing

> > your job

> > > that he expects you to do and you found care that would be

ideal

> > for your

> > > newborn. Tell him you'd like the opportunity to come back to

> work

> > as soon

> > > as possible after your newborn and since you have a private

> office

> > would he

> > > object (on a trial basis (emphasize) to having your baby there

> > while you

> > > work?

> > >

> > > How can he say no to that? You've given the insinuation that

you

> > want to

> > > work, it wouldn't even hurt to tell him how much you value your

> job

> > there.

> > > Tell him, if it doesn't work out, you will resort to plan B and

> > select one

> > > of the care facilities you were looking into, but it was not

your

> > first

> > > choice and not at all affordable. But if you had to, somehow

> you'd

> > make

> > > ends meet.

> > >

> > > See what he says. You did tell him a trial basis. And that

> leaves

> > the door

> > > open for him to have to approach you and tell YOU its not

working

> > out - then

> > > at least you bought yourself some time and hopefully it will

work

> > out till

> > > your ready to part ways.

> > >

> > > Hope this helps.

> > >

> > >

> > > ~Sandy (Buffalo, NY)

> > > RNY Dr.Caruana - 5/21/03

> > > 330/198

> > > Expecting #1 - 3/17/05

> > > 14 Weeks