Guest guest Posted April 25, 2005 Report Share Posted April 25, 2005 , I honestly have given up on getting any better or having a normal life and I know she has too. She has given up and nothing I can say or do will changer her mind. She wont listen to her husband or even the children when they ask her to please try to find help somewhere. I know I am spilling out my guts here, but I honestly have no one to talk to about it. Her husband told me that he has had all he can take and wants to move out and he will stay there and raise the kids. He has tried his best to get thru to her about seeking help and finding another dr instead of the one who knows nothing about the pancreas and only gives her pain medicine. This is causing the kids harm and really hurting them. My grandaughter said to me that we cant just leave Mom like she is, what are we going to do? The shcool has called in a counseler from a local mental health center for the youngest and also put him on medication. This no longer just effects her, it is effecting the children so badly and I dont think she realizes it or even wants too. I tried to tell her what it was doing to them...she just sat there and didnt even answer me. My grandaughter says she does not want to stay there this summer and wants to come over here. She called me last night and said to me that they are fighting again. I just dont know what to do anymore. I have tried so hard for so long that I am really worn out at it. I dont know what else to do. I do so hate to see it effecting the kids like that tho. This battle has been going on for over 7 years for her and it seems like there will never be a happy ending or even a ending except a bad one. I dont know what is really and truly going to happen to . I dont have any answers, I have begged, pleaded, got mad, yelled and I cant get thru to her and I guess the kids cant either. It is a vicious circle that has no end. Sorry to be telling all of this but as i said I have no one to share it with here and it seems to really be building up in me. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2005 Report Share Posted April 25, 2005 Jean, I am so sorry it has come to this...I have read your posts regarding your daughter for as long as I've been on this site, and it has upset me for everyone's sake, especially the childrens'. As well as being upset over her attitude and how it is affecting everyone, it has angered me also, especially when she has children that need her. For a child to be on medication (I'm assuming it is antidepressants), well to me if it has stemmed from your daughter's noncompliance in trying to help herself, it is something that need not have happened....and above all else, my heart goes out to you for you can do nothing else but grieve what could have been, and what was many years before. Maybe this is the course her life needs to take to get her to wake up and do something about herself, and if this means that she has to move out, whilst her husband take care of the children, with you helping and being there for his support, then so be it. It can't be any worse for the kids than what they are going through now. Eventually it might shake your daughter up to getting the help she needs. Can her husband have her admitted to an institution to get help with her depression? If this is possible, they might be able to help treat her CP also whilst she is in there. Geez, I hope it works out for you, and you already send me emails personally, but if you ever want another shoulder to cry on, you can write me, or ask for my phone number or give me yours... Regards, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2005 Report Share Posted April 26, 2005 Hi I was just wondering whether some antidepressnts or changing them and some counselling from a pain clinic might help .If somone is suffering from depression they cant snap out of it even if they wanted to. Anoher thing that may well help is if lisa can express one nice thing that she would like to do eg that she would enjoy it may be as simple as a walk in the park something where she can take her mind of her pain and or even a movie with the kids? Another thing that i found helped mewas a tens unit which helps you take the mind off the pain, what happens is that it disracts you and after 2 weeks or so it actually is cumulative and it prodcues happy endorphins and you start to feel beter and abl to cope, take care debs - -- In pancreatitis , " salliesue_7572 " <salliesue_7572@y...> wrote: > > , > I honestly have given up on getting any better or having a > normal life and I know she has too. She has given up and nothing I > can say or do will changer her mind. She wont listen to her husband > or even the children when they ask her to please try to find help > somewhere. I know I am spilling out my guts here, but I honestly > have no one to talk to about it. > Her husband told me that he has had all he can take and wants > to move out and he will stay there and raise the kids. He has tried > his best to get thru to her about seeking help and finding another > dr instead of the one who knows nothing about the pancreas and only > gives her pain medicine. > This is causing the kids harm and really hurting them. My > grandaughter said to me that we cant just leave Mom like she is, > what are we going to do? The shcool has called in a counseler from > a local mental health center for the youngest and also put him on > medication. This no longer just effects her, it is effecting the > children so badly and I dont think she realizes it or even wants > too. I tried to tell her what it was doing to them...she just sat > there and didnt even answer me. My grandaughter says she does not > want to stay there this summer and wants to come over here. She > called me last night and said to me that they are fighting again. > I just dont know what to do anymore. I have tried so hard for so > long that I am really worn out at it. I dont know what else to do. > I do so hate to see it effecting the kids like that tho. > This battle has been going on for over 7 years for her and it seems > like there will never be a happy ending or even a ending except a > bad one. > I dont know what is really and truly going to happen to . I > dont have any answers, I have begged, pleaded, got mad, yelled and I > cant get thru to her and I guess the kids cant either. It is a > vicious circle that has no end. > Sorry to be telling all of this but as i said I have no one to share > it with here and it seems to really be building up in me. > Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2005 Report Share Posted April 26, 2005 Jean, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I cannot imagine watching one of my children go through this and not being able to get them to get help. Some people are just hard-headed. You would think she would want the relief. I had a freind though who would not seek relief in other ways because she was afraid they would take her pain meds from her. She was afraid she would still hurt and they would not give her anything. I do hope and pray she will get help soon. If not for herself then for her kids. It is hard on children to see a parent suffer. I am getting all the help I can, not only for me but for my children. I did postpone my surgery until June because it would be easier on my children. They will be at church camp while I am having surgery and not facing the end of the year tests at school. I will keep praying for you and for her! Angie in SC " The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything that comes along their way. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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