Jean re:

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It just breaks my heart to hear how has spiraled downward into

such a pit of despair. I can understand how she must be feeling.

This disease is so very cruel and tries to take away every speck of

who we are. I think your writing to her doctor is a very good idea.

It is not against the HIPPA laws for you to talk with her physcian.

If you wanted to make an appt to see him/her you can and you can tell

him every thing. It does not break any laws for him to listen to you.

However, it IS against the law for him to tell you anything about her

health or treatment plan. That is if the guy even has a plan.

As I had mentioned earlier, may have unwittingly become addicted

to her pain meds and may feel that is her only avenue. She has given

up on everything in her life and I know how that feels. I wish there

is something I could say or do to make her understand that her life

is worth fighting for. Someone, I have fogotten who, had mentioned

having an intervention. Those have been very useful in helping a lot

of people break the habit of whatever negative behavior they have

gotten into. You will need to gather all her friends and family

members and first make it absolutely clear to her that you are all

their because you love her and want her to come back to the world.

It has been proven to be succesful as long as there is specific

directions given on how to change and that she understand those

directions and the treatment needs to be set up in a way that she can

start quickly.

To legally commit someone you have to speak to somebody in social

services for your state. It is harsh, they will pick her up much

like a criminal and take her to a phyciatric hospital for treatment.

I have seen this done first hand and although it was very traumatic,

I dont think that person would still be alive to this day had

something drastic not been done, and that was over 25 years ago. I

know it sounds terrible butit may be the only way to get her to put

an end to this downward spiral. Her husband, her legal next of kin,

can have her committed.

Sometimes one can get so down that they can even imagine life any

other way. I dont know what kind of meds she is taking but strong

narcotics can enhance any depression making it feel even more dark

and hopeless. It is a viscous cycle for some, but every med deos

have its side affects. Narcotics work with our own body chemistry,

communicating with the nerves and nuerotransmitters telling our brain

we dont feel the pain. These same nuerotranmitters are the same ones

that tell us when we feel sad or happy. For some it can be a double

edged sword a paradox if you will.

I wish I lived closer I would come to personally and tell her

that she is worth the fight and the money issues will work out some

how. Pay it like a car payment, people do that all the time and life

is certainly a lot more valuable then any automobile I've ever seen.

Please let me know if there is anything I could do and go see that

doctor. Maybe he would make a house call.

Warmly,