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Dear Anyse,

I did not mean it to be provocative, it was just questions I was

asking myself, but I am glad you felt comfortable enough to share your

emotions with us.

I am terribly sorry that your disease has progressed to the point that

it has. It saddens me very much to know that you are in that

situation. I cannot even start to imagine the challenges that you have

went and will still have to go through. I am very happy to hear that

you have a good family to support you. Some people don't even have

that luxury! I think that is the most important thing, to have close

friends or family who genuinely care about your well-being. As for

friends not coming through, I think that most people find out who

their real friends are in a time of crisis... and most people run away

from sick people if they stay sick too long... unfortunately, I am

sure that most people here have found out that the friends they

thought they had were not as good of friends as they assumed they

were. I know it has happened to me more than I care to remember. But I

don't need friends like that, if they cannot support me in my time of

need, whereas I would of done so in theirs, I say good riddance... it

just means that they probably would of ended up stabbing me in the

back in some other way down the road anyway...

I guess what I was trying to relay is to try to keep a positive

attitude as much as you can anyway even though it is terribly hard...

I found that it just makes the days go by faster and better and my own

quality of life is enhanced when I think positive (which I may add is

something that I am guilty of not doing often enough myself) Even on

those days when I don't feel like it I really try... like I said

before, this is just my opinion, and an opinion is like an ass**le...

everybody's got one

I guess in a weird way, I would just like to at least put a small

smile on your face, even if it is for just a second..

I agree with you that it can get depressing to just talk about the

disease. We are all so much more than the sum of just that and I'm

sure everyone here has something special to say about their lives and

dreams, their hobbies and backgrounds. Maybe we should try to organize

something that would be fun and that would take our minds away from

our problems. I'm going to think about this.... your database idea is

a great one.

One thing you and I have in common (well we WILL have in common) is

that I want to be a database programmer myself. I'm almost done with

my bachelors of computer science and maybe you could tell me which

certification I should consider. I used to work on a Human Resources

Information System and I would like to continue on that path, but I

was thinking of getting certified in Oracle. However, I don't want to

pay the exorbitant price of taking the classes. I know I could learn

it on my own if I could find the right materials and self-study

guides. What would you suggest?

Anywho, keep your chin up. I know it is cliché, but that way you're

not looking at your belly but you're looking towards the stars... or

at least towards your ceiling. Gee, mine needs a paint job!

Your are in my thoughts and I hope your feeling well at the time your

reading this message.

You keep in touch as well.

Brigitte