To Jean

[Guest guest]

Dear Jean,

Don't worry about what's been going on here, and trying to keep up. You've

got too many home concerns to worry about now, and we all know how much

you care about each and every one here. You need to devote your time now

to yourself and whatever needs to be done on the homefront.

I'm really sorry to hear about your husband's stroke and heart problems. It

sounds like now he's resisting any kind of supportive care - wanting you to

take care of him at home, instead of the nursing home. It must be a terribly

difficult decision for you to make, and I know that whatever you decide is ruled

by your best judgement. If the doctor's feel that he would be better off in a

nursing home, other than his own home, I do believe that they can push the

issue to make sure that's where he goes. It must be so very hard for you.

It could be that the different medications that he's taking are causing his

resistence and discontent with everyone else's well meaning advice. I hope

that giving him a day to think about it has brought about a more peaceful

nature and acceptance.

Try not to worry too much about right now......you've got other things to

take care of, and trying to push her when she won't budge in the right

direction would be fruitless for you right now, and just cause you more upset

and stress that you don't need.

I hope that things work out for you, and please let us know how things do work

out, either way. I know you'll probably really need someone to talk to during

this time, and we're always here.

With love, hope and prayers,

Heidi

Heidi H. Griffeth

www.pancassociation.org/anthology#Heidi.html

Bluffton, SC

SC State & SE Regional Representative

Pancreatitis Association, International

www.health.groups.yahoo.com/group/pancreatitis/

Note:  All comments or advice are personal opinion only, and

should not be substituted for professional medical consultation.