Feeling a little blue.....

November 25, 2000

Hi everyone,

Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving. As a relatively new postop (7-1/2

weeks) I was quite pleased with my dad. I had a little of everything and was

quite satisfied.

There was some discussion on the lists previously about how much we miss our

parents who are gone. I echo that especially in the next few weeks. My 40th

birthday was on Thanskgiving day last year - yes that makes me 41 today. My

mother had been in the hospital since 11/15, having been diagnosed with

necrotizing fascitis ( a flesh-eating bacteria) which started in her groin

and rapidly spread to her abdomen. She had 5 surgers over the course of the

next 8 days. The day before Thanksgiving we found out she had lots of blood

clots in her right leg which we were hoping would not travel to her lungs.

No such luck. On Thanksgiving night they put in a Greenfield filter which

" hopefully " keeps clots from moving to the lungs. Once again - no such luck.

I spent most of 11/26 last year with her - even though when she would wake

up she would tell me to go home to be with my children or " didn't I have

something better to do " . I left the hospital about 6:00 on Friday evening,

said good-bye and " I love you " and that was the last words I ever got to say

to her. She was put on a ventilator the next morning after having stopped

breathing and she died a week and a half later never having come off the

ventilator or been allowed to regain consciousness. I miss her so terribly

especially today on my birthday. My children (ages 5 and 4) are trying very

hard to make today special as is my husband and my father. I know however

she is in heaven looking down on my and smiling. She would be so pleased

with my success so far. (To further make this time of year difficult my

husband lost his father a week ago today.)

As for my success - I went into clinic in a loose size 26 jeans. Today I am

wearing 22s that fit nicely - and that is with " only " 23 pounds which is

considered " slow " by the charts. I also bought a dress today for the

holidays which is a size 20! I am quite pleased with my progress - even

though of course I would take faster!

The moral of my story if there is one is to especially at this time of year

be thankful for the family you have - and the family that you have lost. I

thank God every day for my mother even though sometimes I don't quite

understand why she is not here. Take care of yourselves and your family - we

never know how long they will be with us!

on

MGB 10/04/00

Preop 275

-23 pounds in 7 weeks

November 25, 2000

on,

I am so proud of you and don't even know you. You are doing good. Loosing

23 lbs is a great accomplishment and there is more to come... I am new and

don't know anything... I just took the 1st step and filled out the form.

I know I have alot to still do. So thanks for the encouragement. I too

lost my mother 7 years ago and it is just like yesterday. There is just

something about mothers... They love you when no one else does. Just

remember her love and it will keep you warm and unafraid.

Sincerely

Connie Moseley

Feeling a little blue.....

> Hi everyone,

>

> Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving. As a relatively new postop (7-1/2

> weeks) I was quite pleased with my dad. I had a little of everything and

was

> quite satisfied.

>

> There was some discussion on the lists previously about how much we miss

our

> parents who are gone. I echo that especially in the next few weeks. My

40th

> birthday was on Thanskgiving day last year - yes that makes me 41 today.

My

> mother had been in the hospital since 11/15, having been diagnosed with

> necrotizing fascitis ( a flesh-eating bacteria) which started in her groin

> and rapidly spread to her abdomen. She had 5 surgers over the course of

the

> next 8 days. The day before Thanksgiving we found out she had lots of

blood

> clots in her right leg which we were hoping would not travel to her lungs.

> No such luck. On Thanksgiving night they put in a Greenfield filter which

> " hopefully " keeps clots from moving to the lungs. Once again - no such

luck.

> I spent most of 11/26 last year with her - even though when she would

wake

> up she would tell me to go home to be with my children or " didn't I have

> something better to do " . I left the hospital about 6:00 on Friday

evening,

> said good-bye and " I love you " and that was the last words I ever got to

say

> to her. She was put on a ventilator the next morning after having stopped

> breathing and she died a week and a half later never having come off the

> ventilator or been allowed to regain consciousness. I miss her so

terribly

> especially today on my birthday. My children (ages 5 and 4) are trying

very

> hard to make today special as is my husband and my father. I know however

> she is in heaven looking down on my and smiling. She would be so pleased

> with my success so far. (To further make this time of year difficult my

> husband lost his father a week ago today.)

>

> As for my success - I went into clinic in a loose size 26 jeans. Today I

am

> wearing 22s that fit nicely - and that is with " only " 23 pounds which is

> considered " slow " by the charts. I also bought a dress today for the

> holidays which is a size 20! I am quite pleased with my progress - even

> though of course I would take faster!

>

> The moral of my story if there is one is to especially at this time of

year

> be thankful for the family you have - and the family that you have lost.

I

> thank God every day for my mother even though sometimes I don't quite

> understand why she is not here. Take care of yourselves and your family -

we

> never know how long they will be with us!

>

> on

> MGB 10/04/00

> Preop 275

> -23 pounds in 7 weeks

>

November 25, 2000

Dear ,

Thank you for your very touching e-m. May your mother's memory be a blessing to

you always.

We also lost several relatives at Thanksgiving time, so I know how you feel.

Maybe we can temper the sadness of their absence by rejoicing in their spirit.

All the best to you, and congrats on the continued success,

Jon in Tuscaloosa

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving. As a relatively new postop (7-1/2

> weeks) I was quite pleased with my dad. I had a little of everything and was

> quite satisfied.

>

> There was some discussion on the lists previously about how much we miss our

> parents who are gone. I echo that especially in the next few weeks. My 40th

> birthday was on Thanskgiving day last year - yes that makes me 41 today. My

> mother had been in the hospital since 11/15, having been diagnosed with

> necrotizing fascitis ( a flesh-eating bacteria) which started in her groin

> and rapidly spread to her abdomen. She had 5 surgers over the course of the

> next 8 days. The day before Thanksgiving we found out she had lots of blood

> clots in her right leg which we were hoping would not travel to her lungs.

> No such luck. On Thanksgiving night they put in a Greenfield filter which

> " hopefully " keeps clots from moving to the lungs. Once again - no such luck.

> I spent most of 11/26 last year with her - even though when she would wake

> up she would tell me to go home to be with my children or " didn't I have

> something better to do " . I left the hospital about 6:00 on Friday evening,

> said good-bye and " I love you " and that was the last words I ever got to say

> to her. She was put on a ventilator the next morning after having stopped

> breathing and she died a week and a half later never having come off the

> ventilator or been allowed to regain consciousness. I miss her so terribly

> especially today on my birthday. My children (ages 5 and 4) are trying very

> hard to make today special as is my husband and my father. I know however

> she is in heaven looking down on my and smiling. She would be so pleased

> with my success so far. (To further make this time of year difficult my

> husband lost his father a week ago today.)

>

> As for my success - I went into clinic in a loose size 26 jeans. Today I am

> wearing 22s that fit nicely - and that is with " only " 23 pounds which is

> considered " slow " by the charts. I also bought a dress today for the

> holidays which is a size 20! I am quite pleased with my progress - even

> though of course I would take faster!

>

> The moral of my story if there is one is to especially at this time of year

> be thankful for the family you have - and the family that you have lost. I

> thank God every day for my mother even though sometimes I don't quite

> understand why she is not here. Take care of yourselves and your family - we

> never know how long they will be with us!

>

> on

> MGB 10/04/00

> Preop 275

> -23 pounds in 7 weeks

>

November 26, 2000

,

What a very touching post. My parents are both 74 yrs. old and even though in

fairly good health, I can feel them slipping away from us a little farther each

year. My sis and I try to plan all our holidays around them, for we feel each

one may be their last...

Just remember your mother may be gone here on earth, but she will always

be with you!! She is only a thought away, and always in your heart!

Hoping that this holiday season is a happy one for you with all kinds of fond

memories.. And enjoy all your family that is still here physically around you.

Together in shared experiences and bonded in faith,

Trudy