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Heidi,

thanks. It is very important to me, as well as to Nikki, that I play a very

active role in their children's lives. Nikki really didn't get to have her

grandparents as a very active part of her life when she was younger. Her dad

was in the army til she was 4. We were stationed in El Paso, TX (1500 miles

from home) and Germany. When Nikki was 4, we moved back to Huntsville, AL and

with the exception of 8 months in Texarkana, TX and a year in St. Louis, we have

lived in the Huntsville area. My dad and stepmother live in Huntsville but my

dad was not very kid oriented, especially when Nikki was younger. In all her

life, she has spent only one night with her grandfather and stepmother and that

was because I had to go to Germany for a 3 week long business trip and Nikki was

very upset about me being gone so long. I begged my stepmother to get Nikki one

of the weekends I was gone just to get her mind off missing me. Both my dad and

stepmother raved about how well behaved and easy going Nikki was. She was 13 at

this time, very quite, and very polite and respectful. If the kid had a book to

read, you might not see her for hours, so she really was an easy kid. Anyway,

despite my dad and stepmom saying they enjoyed spending time with Nikki, they

never asked her to spend time with them again and I wasn't going to push her on

them.

My mom and stepdad lived in Davenport, IA (10 hours away) until the summer

before Nikki's senior year of high school. Nikki always loved being with her

Granny and PaPa Ron, but with them so far away, she only got to see them about

twice year. Nikki's dad's dad died when she was only 4, not long after we got

back from living in Germany. His mother adored Nikki and she did babysit her

for several months while I worked when Nikki was a toddler while we were waiting

for her Dad to get housing for us in Germany. After her dad and I divorced,

Nikki didn't get to spend much time with her dad's mom because his new wife

didn't like her - she was very poor and just a simple country woman. Also, she

adored me even after her son and I divorced. She died when Nikki was only 12.

Anyway, Nikki wants her kids to have the kind of grandmother I had growing up.

My brother, sister, and I spent lots of time with MaMa all through our youth and

we all thought she hung the moon. She was a 5th grade school teacher and was

sometimes strict, but we loved her very much and always loved spending the night

with MaMa. I want that for my grandchildren. I want Nana and Papa's house to

be a place they always love to come to. I want them to have memories that they

will treasure and share with their own children one day. Right now Nikki and

live in Birmingham, which is 100 miles away. They want very much to

live in the Huntsville area but they may have to be patient for another year or

two. At least I am not working so spending time with them in B'ham is much

easier for me than it would be if I were still working. I do not want to

intrude in their lives and Nikki has promised me she will tell me if I do become

intrusive. It's very important that I be involved in their lives only to the

level that both Nikki and want me to be involved.

With stopping the pill in January, you could have that second

grandbaby not too long after my first grandbaby is born. I assume and

her new hubby are happy and doing well, also. Isn't it grand to see your

children grow into happy, responsible adults?

take care,

W

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