At a loss

[Guest guest]

Group,

I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this group.... I

would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots, the glory each of you

have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate newcomers and pre-ops, and those

just receiving insurance approval. Not one soul here has even spoke to me the

few times I did post except in Ohio, who had the RNY. My disappointment

is beyond words. I have felt very " overlooked " for lack of a better word.

Usually I see most of this group respond to almost every one out here....for

some reason except me. Maybe I am just feeling blue right now, but I thought

with getting insurance approval I would have heard something from

someone...Maybe this isn't the group I need. I feel excited for all that I read

about that will be " dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I

am still " new " to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

Just getting my feelings out there....

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the kind words, it helped to lift my spirts.

[Guest guest]

Sheesh! Are we messing up here?

Lynette, please don't take your lack of responses personally. We don't know

you, certainly don't dislike you. I am sorry that you've not been responded

to. I keep thinking that I need to shut up and let others do the talking,

and so I have often chosen not to respond, assuming others would. And I'll

bet some others have done the same.

I am so happy for you having gotten insurance approval. That's a huge hurdle

to have behind you. I promise to look for your name and respond to you for

as long as I'm on this site. One thing you'll experience yourself, after

you've crossed over, is that we get back into our lives after surgery, and

have less and less time for this life-sustaining site. Before surgery, we're

obsessed and on this site all the time. Afterwards we wean ourselves. You

are a welcome and important part of this dialogue. Sorry we didn't let you

feel that.

Please, keep telling us about your path toward this new life. We're here,

even if we're not always paying absolute attention! Fondly, PhillyJude

[Guest guest]

Good luck Terri in Nebraska. Hope the mammo-ultrasound comes out OK. Keep

hanging in there, it'll all work out. My best to you, PhilllyJude

[Guest guest]

Lynnette,

Please do not be discouraged. I am someone who posts more than I should,

I do get some responses, but many times none. As you can see there is

some e-mail bonding that is going on this site. I tend to get sensitive

myself at times and I did have a slow start getting people to even answer

my private E-mail requests for contacts. Several who post a lot totally

ignored my request even when I just asked if I could use information they

put on the main E-mail. I have a friend who is trying to get the surgery

as well, EVERYONE she has E-mailed responded to her!! That really made

me feel overlooked!!!

I have however, met several truly wonderful people who were kind,

considerate and thoughtful. Please keep in mind that there are a lot of

people on this site and sometimes it is overwhelming when you get over a

hundred group e-mails a day!!

I am trying myself to get approved by the insurance company and to finish

my packet. If you E-mail me I will respond.

at bedsoleboyd2@....

Good Luck and keep up those spirits!! :-)

On Sun, 10 Dec 2000 18:39:04 EST Lynnwrks2a@... writes:

> Group,

>

> I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this

> group.... I would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots,

> the glory each of you have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate

> newcomers and pre-ops, and those just receiving insurance approval.

> Not one soul here has even spoke to me the few times I did post

> except in Ohio, who had the RNY. My disappointment is

> beyond words. I have felt very " overlooked " for lack of a better

> word. Usually I see most of this group respond to almost every one

> out here....for some reason except me. Maybe I am just feeling blue

> right now, but I thought with getting insurance approval I would

> have heard something from someone...Maybe this isn't the group I

> need. I feel excited for all that I read about that will be

> " dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I am still

> " new " to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

>

> Just getting my feelings out there....

>

> Lynnette

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynnette,

Please don't feel ignored. I, too, felt the same way for awhile. Sometimes

I still do. But, this is the greatest bunch of people. They certainly

don't mean to make anyone feel left out or unwanted on the list. We all

just get caught up in this exciting life that we have found and occasionally

slip up. Just keep posting and hang in there and if there is anything I can

do to help you, please let me know. If you have insurance approval you are

over the biggest hurdle and on your way. Congratulations and I hope you

will be joining us on the other side soon.

Kay

At a loss

> Group,

>

> I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this

group.... I would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots, the

glory each of you have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate newcomers

and pre-ops, and those just receiving insurance approval. Not one soul here

has even spoke to me the few times I did post except in Ohio, who

had the RNY. My disappointment is beyond words. I have felt very

" overlooked " for lack of a better word. Usually I see most of this group

respond to almost every one out here....for some reason except me. Maybe I

am just feeling blue right now, but I thought with getting insurance

approval I would have heard something from someone...Maybe this isn't the

group I need. I feel excited for all that I read about that will be

" dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I am still " new "

to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

>

> Just getting my feelings out there....

>

> Lynnette

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey I hope you get to do the dance the first week in january that way

I will be down there with ya. lol Keep us posted on when you are gonna be

dancin.

hugs marg1-3-01

[Guest guest]

Lynnette,

Sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I feel that I am a newcomer

myself, I mostly post when I have questions to ask. However I do read

almost every post, but I usually leave the answering to others who have

more experience than I do. Congrats on your insurance approval, I am

scared to death I am going to be turned down; but then I've got alot of

work to do before I even get to that point. Do you have a date yet?

Best of luck.

Bonnie in NC

Lynnwrks2a@... wrote:

>

> Group,

>

> I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this group....

I would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots, the glory each of you

have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate newcomers and pre-ops, and those

just receiving insurance approval. Not one soul here has even spoke to me the

few times I did post except in Ohio, who had the RNY. My disappointment

is beyond words. I have felt very " overlooked " for lack of a better word.

Usually I see most of this group respond to almost every one out here....for

some reason except me. Maybe I am just feeling blue right now, but I thought

with getting insurance approval I would have heard something from

someone...Maybe this isn't the group I need. I feel excited for all that I read

about that will be " dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I

am still " new " to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

>

> Just getting my feelings out there....

>

> Lynnette

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/10/00 7:27:45 PM Pacific Standard Time,

Kedmonds@... writes:

> Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> moment......... -33degrees)

>

>

>

>

Terri

Welcome. First get that ultra sound done and try not to worry. We are here

for you to help you through the process to " the dance " and anything else you

might need. Just try to stay warm.....-33 wind chill, yuck! Reminds me of my

growing up years in Chicago. We lived only 1/2 mile from the lake so it was

extra cold with the wind coming off the lake. I remember the thick blue wool

pants my mother made me wear under my dress ( we had to wear dresses back in

them " olden " days). Do you have any snow now?

Joni

" Sleepless in Seattle "

MGB 12/22/00

232/150/132

[Guest guest]

Hi Terri!!! Welcome to the group.

You have got my Prayers!!! :-)

I hope to dance January myself../

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 03:26:35 -0000 Kedmonds@... writes:

> Hi

>

> I'm new to this group too. I have posted only a couple of posts and

> had just a few respond. But I figured as time went on and I posted

> more, I'd get more " into the group " . I had my physical last week. My

>

> Mammogram came back with some problems, so I have an ultrasound

> scheduled for this week <praying that all is well there>, then I

> hope

> to get really moving. I hope to send my letter to Dr R this week -

> was waiting on the blood test results as I didn't know my

> Cholestral,

> etc... Ya'll make me want to HURRY and get this done!!

> I'm hoping to be able to do THE DANCE in January or February.

>

> In all honesty, I cant wait to become a " reg " so that I know what

> some of you all are talking about!!! I mean, stink meters, and poop

> stories <G> and the general friendships.

>

> Hang in there

>

> Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> moment......... -33degrees)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

PhillyJude,

I really appreciate your e-mail. I no longer feel ignored. I am just a

bit crazy.. You know that we all need comforting and being new is scary

in itself. I meant for that post to be sent privately, as a comfort that

she is not alone thinking her thoughts and being " overly sensitive " . We

probably all have issues with acceptance. I did not mean you. The

people I spoke of I do not see much on here any more. My kids are

driving me crazier than I seem to already be!! I meant to respond to Flo

privately as well...

Oh well, call it tiredness... I am anxious to dance as well... I do

not take the silence personally, well maybe sometimes, but then I get

over it and get a reality check!! There are a LOT of e-mailers on this

group and it can be overwhelming for the post-ops. We are really a bunch

of " needful things " at times in our frenzy to get the surgery.

Please don't be worried and know you are not one of the people I spoke

of. I am sure I probably e-mailed them at a bad time. You are great and

I can't wait to read your progress reports. I guess I am living

vicariously through you post-ops. I am looking forward to experiencing

it for myself!!!

I have never felt so accepted and really understood as I have on this

e-group. Just ignore my outbursts.

I am really proud of your progress!!!

Hugs :-)

On Sun, 10 Dec 2000 23:07:39 EST Judyh1022@... writes:

> , Sorry to hear you ever felt ignored. If you still need

> contacts,

> please let me know. I'll gladly be one for you. Sometimes, there

> are so

> many postings, I just delete them all cause I don't have time to

> read them.

> If I ignored you, that was how. This is a great group, the greatest

> really,

> and please don't take anything like that personally. Just try

> again. Peace.

> PhillyJude

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

, you're not crazy. Or if you are, I *really* understand that kind of

crazy. Glad you put your feelings out there (even if it was by mistake). Hope

the neglect feels less personal now.

Love,

Sperb

>>> bedsoleboyd2@... 12/10/00 09:25PM >>>

PhillyJude,

I really appreciate your e-mail. I no longer feel ignored. I am just a

bit crazy.. You know that we all need comforting and being new is scary

in itself. I meant for that post to be sent privately, as a comfort that

she is not alone thinking her thoughts and being " overly sensitive " . We

probably all have issues with acceptance. I did not mean you. The

people I spoke of I do not see much on here any more. My kids are

driving me crazier than I seem to already be!! I meant to respond to Flo

privately as well...

Oh well, call it tiredness... I am anxious to dance as well... I do

not take the silence personally, well maybe sometimes, but then I get

over it and get a reality check!! There are a LOT of e-mailers on this

group and it can be overwhelming for the post-ops. We are really a bunch

of " needful things " at times in our frenzy to get the surgery.

Please don't be worried and know you are not one of the people I spoke

of. I am sure I probably e-mailed them at a bad time. You are great and

I can't wait to read your progress reports. I guess I am living

vicariously through you post-ops. I am looking forward to experiencing

it for myself!!!

I have never felt so accepted and really understood as I have on this

e-group. Just ignore my outbursts.

I am really proud of your progress!!!

Hugs :-)

On Sun, 10 Dec 2000 23:07:39 EST Judyh1022@... writes:

> , Sorry to hear you ever felt ignored. If you still need

> contacts,

> please let me know. I'll gladly be one for you. Sometimes, there

> are so

> many postings, I just delete them all cause I don't have time to

> read them.

> If I ignored you, that was how. This is a great group, the greatest

> really,

> and please don't take anything like that personally. Just try

> again. Peace.

> PhillyJude

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Marg,

You bet I will. I will be dancing in the streets if I get approved in

time to dance in Jan!!! I have bugged the Insurance company and really

put on my sad pitiful face for them. They probably will approve me just

to free up their phone lines!!! Its kind of a cosmic thing, we all are

dancing together at different times!!! Dr. R better have a fresh pair of

dancing shoes by the time I get there!!! We are going to be like Fred

and Ginger!!! Oh No!!! I think I just dated myself and forgot the

corsage!!! I may never go out with myself again, nah, I will be dating

myself for a long time I think!!!

Hugs, and Prayers :-)

Where are you anyway? I am in Alabama.

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 01:07:46 EST mmhammy@... writes:

> Hey I hope you get to do the dance the first week in january

> that way

> I will be down there with ya. lol Keep us posted on when you are

> gonna be

> dancin.

> hugs marg1-3-01

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Terri,

Let our support and friendship be your warmth. We could melt a glacier.

We are sending out our Prayers and thats gotta count for something.

Imagine us up this late (or early) and reaching out to comfort you during

this stressful time, Dear girl, it does not get any better than this.

Just picture MGB people all over the U.S holding hands and praying for

you and everyone out there who needs our prayers. What a beautiful

Christmas picture!!! we are singing " We Are The World " also... :-)

We got you covered,

Hugs and Prayers,

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 01:37:59 EST jonigra@... writes:

> In a message dated 12/10/00 7:27:45 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> Kedmonds@... writes:

>

>

> > Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> > moment......... -33degrees)

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

> Terri

> Welcome. First get that ultra sound done and try not to worry. We

> are here

> for you to help you through the process to " the dance " and anything

> else you

> might need. Just try to stay warm.....-33 wind chill, yuck! Reminds

> me of my

> growing up years in Chicago. We lived only 1/2 mile from the lake so

> it was

> extra cold with the wind coming off the lake. I remember the thick

> blue wool

> pants my mother made me wear under my dress ( we had to wear dresses

> back in

> them " olden " days). Do you have any snow now?

>

>

> Joni

> " Sleepless in Seattle "

> MGB 12/22/00

> 232/150/132

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well Lynnette, I am so sorry. I am not a big poster, but I do read all the

posts. I wish I had replied to you though. Please do not give up on us.

We don't mean to ignore anyone. Give us another chance and tell us where

you are in your journey. Are you looking for the MGB? If so I would be

glad to be a contact if you need one. I had my MGB on 9/29/00. Love ya,

Betty in Western NC

At a loss

>Group,

>

>I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this

group.... I would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots, the

glory each of you have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate newcomers

and pre-ops, and those just receiving insurance approval. Not one soul here

has even spoke to me the few times I did post except in Ohio, who

had the RNY. My disappointment is beyond words. I have felt very

" overlooked " for lack of a better word. Usually I see most of this group

respond to almost every one out here....for some reason except me. Maybe I

am just feeling blue right now, but I thought with getting insurance

approval I would have heard something from someone...Maybe this isn't the

group I need. I feel excited for all that I read about that will be

" dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I am still " new "

to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

>

>Just getting my feelings out there....

>

>Lynnette

>

>

[Guest guest]

Terri,

I have a real stupid reply to your last paragraph and please do not take me

at all seriously. If you are living in -33 degree wind chill weather, you

do not want this surgery. I am in Western North Carolina and our lows at

night are usually low 40's right now and I am FREEZING. I have always been

hot natured and loved cold weather. But since surgery, my feet just plain

get cold.

Now listen, that is not a reason for not having surgery. Just a lighter

note. We wish you all the luck in the world. If you do not have all your

contacts, let me know by private email. bettyjohn@... Love to

ya. Betty

Re: At a loss

>Hi

>

>I'm new to this group too. I have posted only a couple of posts and

>had just a few respond. But I figured as time went on and I posted

>more, I'd get more " into the group " . I had my physical last week. My

>Mammogram came back with some problems, so I have an ultrasound

>scheduled for this week <praying that all is well there>, then I hope

>to get really moving. I hope to send my letter to Dr R this week -

>was waiting on the blood test results as I didn't know my Cholestral,

>etc... Ya'll make me want to HURRY and get this done!!

>I'm hoping to be able to do THE DANCE in January or February.

>

>In all honesty, I cant wait to become a " reg " so that I know what

>some of you all are talking about!!! I mean, stink meters, and poop

>stories <G> and the general friendships.

>

>Hang in there

>

>Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

>moment......... -33degrees)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Terri,

Good luck on your mammogram. I am going to see my Doctor tomorrow

(12/12/00). I am 33. I'm not sure if I will need a mammogram or not. (If

anyone knows, please let me know!) Reading all of these messages does make

you want to hurry!! I can't wait to understand it all. It is al that I

think about now.

I will be praying for you that all is well.

Dedee

Re: At a loss

> Hi

>

> I'm new to this group too. I have posted only a couple of posts and

> had just a few respond. But I figured as time went on and I posted

> more, I'd get more " into the group " . I had my physical last week. My

> Mammogram came back with some problems, so I have an ultrasound

> scheduled for this week <praying that all is well there>, then I hope

> to get really moving. I hope to send my letter to Dr R this week -

> was waiting on the blood test results as I didn't know my Cholestral,

> etc... Ya'll make me want to HURRY and get this done!!

> I'm hoping to be able to do THE DANCE in January or February.

>

> In all honesty, I cant wait to become a " reg " so that I know what

> some of you all are talking about!!! I mean, stink meters, and poop

> stories <G> and the general friendships.

>

> Hang in there

>

> Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> moment......... -33degrees)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynette,

Darling, did we over-look you? You know as a post op, I rarely find the time to

read all the post that come in my mail everyday.. somedays I have over 200 to

run through, and I may only answer posts that are directed to me..

Please forgive me for not congratulating you.. and by all means welcome to our

club!!! My name is Trudy, you've probably undoubtedly read a bunch of my

babble. Please note I will look for your posts in the future, and honestly try

not to ignore you anymore. What can I say you must have just snuck through !!!

Hugs,

Trudy

Post op 11-3-00

339/309/145

At a loss

Group,

I rarely post, but read everyday. I WAS so enthusiastic about this group....

I would read all the encouraging mail, the trouble spots, the glory each of you

have shared, etc. I read as you congratulate newcomers and pre-ops, and those

just receiving insurance approval. Not one soul here has even spoke to me the

few times I did post except in Ohio, who had the RNY. My disappointment

is beyond words. I have felt very " overlooked " for lack of a better word.

Usually I see most of this group respond to almost every one out here....for

some reason except me. Maybe I am just feeling blue right now, but I thought

with getting insurance approval I would have heard something from

someone...Maybe this isn't the group I need. I feel excited for all that I read

about that will be " dancing " or those with approval that have been waiting. I

am still " new " to this egroup, but AM discouraged.....

Just getting my feelings out there....

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Welcome Terri,

Brrrr... and I thought it was cold here in Indiana.. LOL

Trudy

Re: At a loss

Hi

I'm new to this group too. I have posted only a couple of posts and

had just a few respond. But I figured as time went on and I posted

more, I'd get more " into the group " . I had my physical last week. My

Mammogram came back with some problems, so I have an ultrasound

scheduled for this week <praying that all is well there>, then I hope

to get really moving. I hope to send my letter to Dr R this week -

was waiting on the blood test results as I didn't know my Cholestral,

etc... Ya'll make me want to HURRY and get this done!!

I'm hoping to be able to do THE DANCE in January or February.

In all honesty, I cant wait to become a " reg " so that I know what

some of you all are talking about!!! I mean, stink meters, and poop

stories <G> and the general friendships.

Hang in there

Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

moment......... -33degrees)

[Guest guest]

That's a definate " ditto " from me too.

Trudy

Re: Re: At a loss

Terri,

Let our support and friendship be your warmth. We could melt a glacier.

We are sending out our Prayers and thats gotta count for something.

Imagine us up this late (or early) and reaching out to comfort you during

this stressful time, Dear girl, it does not get any better than this.

Just picture MGB people all over the U.S holding hands and praying for

you and everyone out there who needs our prayers. What a beautiful

Christmas picture!!! we are singing " We Are The World " also... :-)

We got you covered,

Hugs and Prayers,

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 01:37:59 EST jonigra@... writes:

> In a message dated 12/10/00 7:27:45 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> Kedmonds@... writes:

>

>

> > Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> > moment......... -33degrees)

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

> Terri

> Welcome. First get that ultra sound done and try not to worry. We

> are here

> for you to help you through the process to " the dance " and anything

> else you

> might need. Just try to stay warm.....-33 wind chill, yuck! Reminds

> me of my

> growing up years in Chicago. We lived only 1/2 mile from the lake so

> it was

> extra cold with the wind coming off the lake. I remember the thick

> blue wool

> pants my mother made me wear under my dress ( we had to wear dresses

> back in

> them " olden " days). Do you have any snow now?

>

>

> Joni

> " Sleepless in Seattle "

> MGB 12/22/00

> 232/150/132

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/11/00 3:34:10 AM Eastern Standard Time,

bedsoleboyd2@... writes:

> I think I just dated myself and forgot the

> corsage!!! I may never go out with myself again, nah, I will be dating

> myself for a long time I think!!!

>

U R to funny!!!! I am in hendersonville NC. I think I will be finally doing

something for me, I am gonna spend lots of time with me doing the excercise

thing lol. I just cant wait til january lol. hugs marg 1-03-01

[Guest guest]

Terri,

If I am not mistaken the mammogram is required for anyone who should be

having one anyway. Your family history and the doctor's opinon are what

decides it, I think. After a certain age it is required. Just ask if

the Dr. would normally have told you that you needed one.

sbb

On Mon, 11 Dec 2000 09:43:35 -0500 " The Dunn's "

writes:

> Hey Terri,

>

> Good luck on your mammogram. I am going to see my Doctor tomorrow

> (12/12/00). I am 33. I'm not sure if I will need a mammogram or

> not. (If

> anyone knows, please let me know!) Reading all of these messages

> does make

> you want to hurry!! I can't wait to understand it all. It is al

> that I

> think about now.

>

> I will be praying for you that all is well.

> Dedee

> Re: At a loss

>

>

> > Hi

> >

> > I'm new to this group too. I have posted only a couple of posts

> and

> > had just a few respond. But I figured as time went on and I posted

> > more, I'd get more " into the group " . I had my physical last week.

> My

> > Mammogram came back with some problems, so I have an ultrasound

> > scheduled for this week <praying that all is well there>, then I

> hope

> > to get really moving. I hope to send my letter to Dr R this week -

> > was waiting on the blood test results as I didn't know my

> Cholestral,

> > etc... Ya'll make me want to HURRY and get this done!!

> > I'm hoping to be able to do THE DANCE in January or February.

> >

> > In all honesty, I cant wait to become a " reg " so that I know what

> > some of you all are talking about!!! I mean, stink meters, and

> poop

> > stories <G> and the general friendships.

> >

> > Hang in there

> >

> > Terri <----about to FREEZE in Nebraska (wind chill at the

> > moment......... -33degrees)

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Bonnie,

Thanks for the reply, makes me feel better. I don't have a date set, but

will surely let the group know when I do!! Thanks again.

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Kay,

Cant wait to say " post-op " . Thanks for the encouragement.

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Sonya,

Thanks for the insight. I will try not to be such a discourage " wart " . Best

to you!!

Lynnette