Guest guest Posted December 16, 2000 Report Share Posted December 16, 2000 In a message dated 12/17/00 5:19:23 AM Eastern Standard Time, MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes: > Hi guys, > I need an opinion from any of you that have already > danced at Durham Regional. I am scheduled to go in a > couple of weeks. My husband will be taking me in the > morning and then going to the office. I have an angel of > a little girl who is almost 12. She and I are very close > and she wants to spend the day with Mom. I know the > surgery takes 30-45 minutes but how long are you in the > recovery room? Do you spend the rest of the day sleeping > when you come back to your regular room? I would love to > have her with me because I'm sort of nervous. I know she > would sit there quietly and read but I hate the thought > of her being there alone or at least being stuck there > with me when all I want to do is sleep. Of course there > is always a slight possibility of complications and that > would be awful for her to be around. I'm definately > leaning towards no but I'd love the opinions of > experienced neutral parties. > Thanks, > Elaine > > > Hi, Elaine: I suspect you're going to have a lot of feedback on this question, so here's my .02 worth. I apologize up front for the preachiness of it. 1. Your husband ought to consider taking the day of your surgery off from work, maybe even the next few days. If he can't, do you have a friend or a family member that could do this? This is major surgery, involving anesthesia, and you will perhaps not be up to your usual level of energy for a couple of weeks (unless you're Osler, who's the original Bionic Woman). There are several major adjustments coming down the road for you following this surgery, and you might be best served to anticipate some of the negative ones, just in case. The potential to be overwhelmed with a liquid diet and all the other changes is huge. I needed my husband's help extensively after surgery, especially in the hospital. I wasn't ready to drive for a week, I was tired and weepy, I had a full day's worth of diarrhea. That's not everybody's experience, but if you read these lists on a regular basis, you know that a good percentage of postops did NOT jump up from their beds singing " The Sound of Music " ! I thought I was prepared, too...Jeez, I did nothing but read these lists 24/7, call postops, write down what I thought would be happening, yada yada yada, but NOTHING fully prepares you for what it feels like when it's actually happening to you. This is a time for YOU, Elaine. You need to be selfish during this time, and ask for the help you need in getting through this surgery. You've suffered with this problem of morbid obesity, and now you're taking this step to get your medical issues resolved, once and for all. This is not a walk in the park, despite the short time of surgery. You are exchanging one chronic condition - morbid obesity - for another - rearranged innards. It's a delicate time 2. I can't think of anybody who didn't emerge from this surgery groggy and in discomfort. The discomfort passed for me in about four hours, but I wouldn't have wanted my 10-year-old daughter in the same TOWN with me, much less in my hospital room. Because of the risk of complications, I'd say that this is not a situation for a child AT ALL. Can you imagine how devastating it would be for a child to be alone with her mother in a hospital room if a leak (or other complication) were to occur after surgery? You'd hardly be equipped to explain to her what's going on, there would be no one there to look after her - it would be a nightmare for all concerned, but especially your daughter. Please do yourself a favor - treat yourself and this surgery with the respect you (and it) deserves. This is not like having a mole removed. Sorry for the offensive tone of this post. I mean it only for the best. Blair MGB 8/9/00 275/225 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2000 Report Share Posted December 17, 2000 Blair, I beg your doggone pardon. I intend to leap out of bed and not only sing the entire soundtrack of Sound of Music, but dance it as well. Some people sure are wimps. Knoxville Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2000 Report Share Posted December 17, 2000 Sharon... Would you paleeez' have some one there video tape that for me??? 'Cause I wanna see it, for real!! LOL< Trudy Re: Elaine from Blair Blair, I beg your doggone pardon. I intend to leap out of bed and not only sing the entire soundtrack of Sound of Music, but dance it as well. Some people sure are wimps. Knoxville Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2000 Report Share Posted December 17, 2000 Blair, Your opinion is duly noted and I agree that it would be terrible for her if something went wrong which is one of the reasons I have decided against it. As for the rest,my husband and friends know I will call if I need them. My husband wuld only get on my nerves and I have a couple of girlfriends on the same street only a minute or two away. Elaine > In a message dated 12/17/00 5:19:23 AM Eastern Standard Time, > MiniGastricBypass (AT) egroups (DOT) com writes: > > > > Hi guys, > > I need an opinion from any of you that have already > > danced at Durham Regional. I am scheduled to go in a > > couple of weeks. My husband will be taking me in the > > morning and then going to the office. I have an angel of > > a little girl who is almost 12. She and I are very close > > and she wants to spend the day with Mom. I know the > > surgery takes 30-45 minutes but how long are you in the > > recovery room? Do you spend the rest of the day sleeping > > when you come back to your regular room? I would love to > > have her with me because I'm sort of nervous. I know she > > would sit there quietly and read but I hate the thought > > of her being there alone or at least being stuck there > > with me when all I want to do is sleep. Of course there > > is always a slight possibility of complications and that > > would be awful for her to be around. I'm definately > > leaning towards no but I'd love the opinions of > > experienced neutral parties. > > Thanks, > > Elaine > > > > > > > > Hi, Elaine: > > I suspect you're going to have a lot of feedback on this question, so here's > my .02 worth. I apologize up front for the preachiness of it. > > 1. Your husband ought to consider taking the day of your surgery off from > work, maybe even the next few days. If he can't, do you have a friend or a > family member that could do this? This is major surgery, involving > anesthesia, and you will perhaps not be up to your usual level of energy for > a couple of weeks (unless you're Osler, who's the original Bionic > Woman). There are several major adjustments coming down the road for you > following this surgery, and you might be best served to anticipate some of > the negative ones, just in case. The potential to be overwhelmed with a > liquid diet and all the other changes is huge. > > I needed my husband's help extensively after surgery, especially in the > hospital. I wasn't ready to drive for a week, I was tired and weepy, I had a > full day's worth of diarrhea. That's not everybody's experience, but if you > read these lists on a regular basis, you know that a good percentage of > postops did NOT jump up from their beds singing " The Sound of Music " ! > > I thought I was prepared, too...Jeez, I did nothing but read these lists > 24/7, call postops, write down what I thought would be happening, yada yada > yada, but NOTHING fully prepares you for what it feels like when it's > actually happening to you. > > This is a time for YOU, Elaine. You need to be selfish during this time, and > ask for the help you need in getting through this surgery. You've suffered > with this problem of morbid obesity, and now you're taking this step to get > your medical issues resolved, once and for all. This is not a walk in the > park, despite the short time of surgery. You are exchanging one chronic > condition - morbid obesity - for another - rearranged innards. It's a > delicate time > > 2. I can't think of anybody who didn't emerge from this surgery groggy and > in discomfort. The discomfort passed for me in about four hours, but I > wouldn't have wanted my 10-year-old daughter in the same TOWN with me, much > less in my hospital room. Because of the risk of complications, I'd say that > this is not a situation for a child AT ALL. Can you imagine how devastating > it would be for a child to be alone with her mother in a hospital room if a > leak (or other complication) were to occur after surgery? You'd hardly be > equipped to explain to her what's going on, there would be no one there to > look after her - it would be a nightmare for all concerned, but especially > your daughter. > > Please do yourself a favor - treat yourself and this surgery with the respect > you (and it) deserves. This is not like having a mole removed. > > Sorry for the offensive tone of this post. I mean it only for the best. > > Blair > MGB 8/9/00 > 275/225 > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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