When Helpers Don't help

[Guest guest]

This is cross posted from BTVC@...

" I have a daughter that tries to make stuff for me, even though I tell

her, she doesn't listen. I would rather not eat, but mostly I plan on

food I can eat and all is well. "

I have family members that try to cook for me, but they have usually

contaminated it in some way. Then they are frustrated because they

went to all this effort and I won't eat it. I think they are mainly

frustrated because they don't understand that a little can hurt,

and see me as a troublemaking drama queen. It's hardest on my grandmother,

who just can't read labels. I've basically just told her, if it has a

label to read, I can't have it.

People are funny about food. My daughter had a couple of food

sensitivies early on and if I had a nickel for every time someone

asked me can she just have a little? ... oh, just a little won't hurt.....

My favorite though: (she was sensitive to bananas - made her throw up

several times) Well, can she have banana chips? People just don't

give a second's thought to what they are eating or feeding others.

Carol F. responded:

Since it's almost Santa time, I'll make this my last response of the

day and it will sound strict.

Your commitment to a healing diet is your responsibility. The buck

stops before the fork goes into your mouth. If anyone is preparing

food for you they need to know how, otherwise you don't eat it.

BTVC is full of simple and marvelous recipes. Try doing one or two

WITH your daughter to supervise that it is done correctly.

Otherwise firmly refuse and explain that the smallest infraction can

create problems and regressions can last for many days.

I'll bet your family members have favorite foods and would not like

someone else to mess with them.

Be strict! Elaine Gottschall stated that SCD demands " Fanatical

Adherence. " The requirement for strictness is due to the fact that we

are fighting hardy microorganisms that have an amazing ability to

survive. One crumb of the wrong food feeds thousands of harmful

bacteria for a month, and continues the cycle of destruction.

Here is the explanation we use for children about SCD. I your kin are

going to behave like kids maybe they need kid type instructions.

http://www.pecanbread.com/new/Humorous.htm

If you are healthy, fit and strong like your signature implies,than

you will have the courage to take charge.

Now forgive them and smarten them up and a happy holiday to all of them.

I hope I haven't offended you but if it helps you get better, that's OK.

Carol F

SCD 8 years, celiac