Guest guest Posted October 13, 2004 Report Share Posted October 13, 2004 I totally feel for you. I was 1.5 years out when I got pregnant and it was/is still hard. We made a huge decision to take a drastic step to change our lives. Now there is another huge change on the way and we havn't really even had time to get used to the first one, especially in your case. You may be feeling some depression, and I would think that is totally normal. The pregnancy may continue to feel like a dream for awhile. I am 7 months along and feel him move all around and sometimes I still feel like it isn't real. I get frustrated because I went from 334 to 165/175. Now I am pushing 200 and not able to work out as hard as I was and I am hungry more.......it is hard. WLS is a mentally hard thing to go through then throw pregnany and a new child ontop of that and you have a recipe for a basket case. (Laugh) I think that's why we all come on here. You'll be Ok. Many women have done this before us. We need to just stick together. Hugs, Missie son 2Yrs Post 7 Mnths preggers C-sec set for Dec. 27th It's a Boy!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 Great comments. I am glad I am not alone. The few people I have told that I am pregnant do not understand why I feel like I do. They never will. Joining this group was a very good decision on my part. Thank you and good luck!! GirlFightKungFu@... wrote: I totally feel for you. I was 1.5 years out when I got pregnant and it was/is still hard. We made a huge decision to take a drastic step to change our lives. Now there is another huge change on the way and we havn't really even had time to get used to the first one, especially in your case. You may be feeling some depression, and I would think that is totally normal. The pregnancy may continue to feel like a dream for awhile. I am 7 months along and feel him move all around and sometimes I still feel like it isn't real. I get frustrated because I went from 334 to 165/175. Now I am pushing 200 and not able to work out as hard as I was and I am hungry more.......it is hard. WLS is a mentally hard thing to go through then throw pregnany and a new child ontop of that and you have a recipe for a basket case. (Laugh) I think that's why we all come on here. You'll be Ok. Many women have done this before us. We need to just stick together. Hugs, Missie son 2Yrs Post 7 Mnths preggers C-sec set for Dec. 27th It's a Boy!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 I was the same way. I got pregnant 3 months post op and I know like right away. So I feel like I have been pregnant forever. I am 22 weeks and I am now starting to feel the baby move quite a bit. That has made it more real for me. I have had a very easy pregnancy, and if I hadn't heard the heartbeat at my OB appt then I would have never belived I was pregnant. Give it some time and you will feel more and more maternal. Good luck. Meridth Wife to Larry (02/22/02) Mother to Forrest (01/21/01) Expecting #2 02/14/05 Gastric ByPass 02/23/04 370/268pg/175 goalweight Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 I want the baby, I just feel guilty because I am not excited yet. I am sure that when I feel it kick for the first time or find out what the sex is then I will become more excited. I just wish that I was excited now. I was only 5 weeks pregnant when I found out, so by the time May rolls around I am going to feel like I have been pregnant forever! Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can just relax? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 hey ali, i'm 22 weeks pregnant got pregnant 8 weeks post op), trust me i feel ya! but you are right, once you see teh baby, feel it, ehar it's heartbeat, you will feel better. each night i lay in bed playing with my bundle of joy, pressing on him, feeling him kick and ball up in one position or another...now that hubby's home (he was deployed 3 mnths to the desert) it's even better! once you get further along it will all come together...don't worry. congrats! aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans Gastric Bypass-Lap RNY 3/12/04-Dr Dunshee in Topeka Ks. Baby boy due 2/17/05-Shanndon original wt. 342/current wt. 206/goal wt. 140 Re: guilty I want the baby, I just feel guilty because I am not excited yet. I am sure that when I feel it kick for the first time or find out what the sex is then I will become more excited. I just wish that I was excited now. I was only 5 weeks pregnant when I found out, so by the time May rolls around I am going to feel like I have been pregnant forever! Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can just relax? Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 , My boyfriend just left for a truck driving school. He is going to be gone 6 weeks, then when he is done he'll be on the road driving. He has only been gone a week (and I am going out of my mind without him). Right now, he says he will be home on weekends. He comes back tomorrow. I am also having fears about when the baby comes he won't be able to get home and I will have to do it alone. Although, his sister in law is an ob nurse here at our local hospital, so if I go into labor when she is working, I won't be alone. However, the week that I am due, her daughter is getting married in another state! Hopefully, she will be here if my boyfriend can't. She and one of my boyfriend's Aunts are my support on his side of the family. I think that this pregnancy may be part of what holds her together while her husband is in Iraq, so I really think that this baby has a purpose. Not only is her husband in Iraq, but so is his daughter (her step daughter), so we are on pins and needles, I am sure that you understand if your husband is in the service. On my boyfriends side, we have had many relatives in the army, navy and marines. It can be so stressful. I have heard the heartbeat and had 2 ultrasounds, but I seem to just be waiting for the baby to move or some sign to let me know that it's in there! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 I raised my nephew for 8 years. I brought him home from the hospital. I was 18 at the time. I put everything that I had going on in my little teenage life on hold so that I could do what was right, what I felt I needed to do. He just moved in with his mother when school let out for the summer. I don't regret any of it. I would not be who I am if I didn't do that. I would do it again without batting an eye. I don't have any children, this baby will be my first. I also have reservations about my mate. We haven't been together all that long, we each left someone to be with each other and now I am pregnant. The timing was just not good. We have talked about marriage, but I don't want to get married just because I am having a baby. I told him that. I just want to have a healthy baby, but I feel guilty for not being excited yet. I hope that you are all right and I will get excited. I do have a week by week pregnancy book, what to expect when you are expecting, pregnancy calendars, countdown clocks, and many other things that my sister-in-law gave me. I am just not excited. Have any of you not been able to eat? I have not had any morning sickness or vomiting, but if I smell food, I can't eat it. Especially if I smell meat cooking, it just turns my stomach. I have not been able to eat much and I am so afraid the baby will not get what it needs. I am taking my vitamins, folic acid and I go for vitamin B12 injections monthly. I am also tired all the time. I know that is normal, but I think that it is because I am not eating well. I just can't or I feel sick all the time. I just wish that May would get here so that I can hold and love this baby and I am hoping that when my boyfriend sees it then he will just fall so in love that nothing else matters (except for his kids and grandchildren that he has from his first marriage). I just keep praying for everything to work out. You all are great and I really enjoy being part of this group. Thank you all for your support! Ali Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2004 Report Share Posted October 14, 2004 wow what timing ali. david left for the desert right after i found out i was pregnant (i was 6 weeks along before i found out). hopefully your boyfriend will be with you and i'm glad you'll have a family memeber at the hospital (if baby comes at the right time). we don't have family around, so it's me and david...he gets shipped off, i'm on my own with a 5 year old. lol. i hope everything works out for you. in the mean time, while the bf is gone, you got us for support! take advantage, we don't mind. well, at least i don't. lol aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...) Kay Independent Beauty Consultant http://www.marykay.com/koopmans Gastric Bypass-Lap RNY 3/12/04-Dr Dunshee in Topeka Ks. Baby boy due 2/17/05-Shanndon original wt. 342/current wt. 206/goal wt. 140 Re: guilty , My boyfriend just left for a truck driving school. He is going to be gone 6 weeks, then when he is done he'll be on the road driving. He has only been gone a week (and I am going out of my mind without him). Right now, he says he will be home on weekends. He comes back tomorrow. I am also having fears about when the baby comes he won't be able to get home and I will have to do it alone. Although, his sister in law is an ob nurse here at our local hospital, so if I go into labor when she is working, I won't be alone. However, the week that I am due, her daughter is getting married in another state! Hopefully, she will be here if my boyfriend can't. She and one of my boyfriend's Aunts are my support on his side of the family. I think that this pregnancy may be part of what holds her together while her husband is in Iraq, so I really think that this baby has a purpose. Not only is her husband in Iraq, but so is his daughter (her step daughter), so we are on pins and needles, I am sure that you understand if your husband is in the service. On my boyfriends side, we have had many relatives in the army, navy and marines. It can be so stressful. I have heard the heartbeat and had 2 ultrasounds, but I seem to just be waiting for the baby to move or some sign to let me know that it's in there! Thanks! Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 I can totally understand and relate to your feeling. I just had surgery in July and found out I was pregnant in September. I am also 9 weeks pregnant and have only had one internal ultrasound to rule out ectopic pregnancy but I was only 6 weeks and did not hear the heartbeat. I have an appointment next Sat so I hope to hear the heartbeat at that time. I also feel guilty about being pregnant and had a hard time trying to be happy. Also my only child is 10 and I had not planned to have any more. But now that I have accepted the pregnancy and I am happy about the baby now I worry that I will have as miscarriage. All I can advise is pray, pray and more prayer. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 Well, I hope that you all are right. I have my next ob appt is in a week and a half, then I will be 11 1/2 weeks preggo. Everything has been going well so far. I have not been throwing up, but if I smell food, even bread in the toaster, I cannot eat. I just immediately get sick, so I am worried that the baby is not getting enough nourishment. I don't want an unhealthy baby. I know that this can be typical with pregnancy, but I am not sure since we have all had wls how much I need to worry about. Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2004 Report Share Posted October 15, 2004 I wrote in a journal with my daughter... I found out very early with her. It's weird to read the journal now.. the beginning is just thoughts and feelings of what is going on and the later part I actually start writing " to " her. Helped me! Re: guilty I want the baby, I just feel guilty because I am not excited yet. I am sure that when I feel it kick for the first time or find out what the sex is then I will become more excited. I just wish that I was excited now. I was only 5 weeks pregnant when I found out, so by the time May rolls around I am going to feel like I have been pregnant forever! Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can just relax? Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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