Re: Making my issues her issues?

[Guest guest]

I worried about it when I was pregnant with my son last time. It seemed like

everytime I flip the chanell Maury had fat babies on. It scared me to death.

But he is almost 4 and he is fine. He is in the 90th percent for height and

weight( hubby is 6'2 and I am 5'9) so he is gonna be tall. Just keep them

busy as they grow. Gymnastics, swimming, any kind of program you can get her to

do. I am worried again with this pregnancy, I feel like its a girl, but she

wasn't laying right at the ultrasound. I am afraid I might be more critical

with a girl. Just take it one day at a time, and love that baby for who she is.

Meridth

Wife to Larry (02/22/02)

Mother to Forrest (01/21/01)

Expecting #2 02/14/05

Gastric ByPass 02/23/04

370/268pg/175 goalweight

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In a message dated 10/10/2004 1:32:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

sanfransteph@... writes:

Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress about your child

inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any of you?

STEPH

**************************

As a parent of a preemie.. I worry that Noah isn't eating enough and growing

enough..

As Toddlers.. it is the parents who can 100% (except going to parties and

grandmas) control WHAT thier child eats.

We don't keep " junk " food here... except for Popcorn.. and Graham crackers

and wheat thins.

I cook healthy most the time.. but also make " comfort " food as well from time

to time...

Yes.. I worry sometimes that my boys will be fat... but I worry more that I

will do the same thing my mother did with me.. " nag.. nag.. nag " and make a

chunky situation into an OBESE situation.

If my boys are hungry.. they can eat... but they will have choices of

appropriate food and snacks.. and hopefully by the time they are in grade

school..

they will make good choices.. ????

K in Ft Lauderdale

mommy to:

Noah 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz - 16.5 inches long

Jonah EDD/C Section date approx November 4, 2004

Gastric Bypass Sugery 12/2/03

http://www.members.aol.com/marykalwite

[Guest guest]

Oh yes!!! And my daughter is only 12 weeks old *sigh*. I've got

boy/girl twins and our son, Ethan, is long and lean, but our

daughter, Aubree, is shorter and a real chunky girl. I love Aubree's

body, it feels so good to see her so round and healthy, but I look at

the rolls on her legs and arms and her round, dimpled bottom and I

worry that she is bound to end up gaining and carrying her weight

like her mother.

Whereas Ethan is a healthy boy, it seem he couldn't care less about

eating and only eats as much as he needs to feel satisfied then

rejects the bottle. Aubree on the other hand hums and mumbles as she

gulps her food, then after eating to (what seems like) complete

fullness, will sigh and hum contentedly while being held and burped,

indicating that she is really enjoying her food. It warms my heart to

know she is so happy at these times, but then there are times when I

get so scared that she will have to endure the things I did while MO.

The babies pediatrician is amazed that at 12 weeks, Aubree is already

in the 75% since twins tend to lag behind singletons in growth for

the first several months. Ethan is in the 50%, which is great in

itself. I know I shouldn't worry about this and just enjoy my healthy

little girl, which I do, but there are definitely those moments...

You're absolutely not alone in this.

Toi

>

> All --

>

> Since we are all women who have battled with our weight, I wonder

if

> I am the only one who stresses about making my issues with weight,

my

> daughters issues. My daughter Kylie is seven months old and I

> constantly stress about how much she eats and how much she weighs.

I

> know I need to get a handle on this before she is old enough to

> realize but at the moment it has been a tough one for me.

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress about your child

> inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any of you?

>

> STEPH

[Guest guest]

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What great thoughts! Although she wasn't premature, I have also

worried that my infant daughter wasn't eating enough. She's 7 mos.

old. She weighed almost 8 lbs. at birth, and now weighs about 16

(30th percentile). She has just started taking more than 4 oz. at

a feeding, which to me seems really low.

My mother constantly reminds me not to be feeding her too much --

and I know I'm not. As a child, I was heavy from day 1, and stayed

that way. But, my mom also tells me that I refused to eat any

fruits or vegetables, and Caroline LOVES her vegetables. So, my

goal for her is to encourage healthy eating habits as she grows.

Every time she eats her serving of veggies, I feel hopeful for her

life to take a healthier path that I did.

What you say is so true -- if they're hungry, let them eat, but make

sure they have healthy choices available.

Regards,

Diane Woodring

Lap RNY - 7/2001

Mom to Caroline Grace -- 3/5/04

Expecting #2 -- EDD approx. 5/15/05

> In a message dated 10/10/2004 1:32:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> sanfransteph@y... writes:

> Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress about your child

> inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any of you?

>

> STEPH

> **************************

>

> As a parent of a preemie.. I worry that Noah isn't eating enough

and growing

> enough..

>

> As Toddlers.. it is the parents who can 100% (except going to

parties and

> grandmas) control WHAT thier child eats.

>

> We don't keep " junk " food here... except for Popcorn.. and Graham

crackers

> and wheat thins.

>

> I cook healthy most the time.. but also make " comfort " food as

well from time

> to time...

>

> Yes.. I worry sometimes that my boys will be fat... but I worry

more that I

> will do the same thing my mother did with me.. " nag.. nag.. nag "

and make a

> chunky situation into an OBESE situation.

>

> If my boys are hungry.. they can eat... but they will have choices

of

> appropriate food and snacks.. and hopefully by the time they are

in grade school..

> they will make good choices.. ????

>

>

>

>

>

> K in Ft Lauderdale

> mommy to:

> Noah 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz - 16.5 inches long

> Jonah EDD/C Section date approx November 4, 2004

> Gastric Bypass Sugery 12/2/03

> http://www.members.aol.com/marykalwite

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Steph,

I TOTALLY can relate to what you are saying. I'm not sure how to get a complete

hold on this feeling. I just keep telling myself that I have to focus on

teaching my daughter how to eat a balanced meal for every meal, to stop eating

when she is full and help her recognize when that is, and making exercise a

daily part of her life. If you get any good advice please pass it on as I could

benefit as well.

A.

Making my issues her issues?

All --

Since we are all women who have battled with our weight, I wonder if

I am the only one who stresses about making my issues with weight, my

daughters issues. My daughter Kylie is seven months old and I

constantly stress about how much she eats and how much she weighs. I

know I need to get a handle on this before she is old enough to

realize but at the moment it has been a tough one for me.

Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress about your child

inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any of you?

STEPH

Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord. -Psalm 127:3

[Guest guest]

Oh yes!!! And my daughter is only 12 weeks old *sigh*. I've got

boy/girl twins and our son, Ethan, is long and lean, but our

daughter, Aubree, is shorter and a real chunky girl. I love Aubree's

body, it feels so good to see her so round and healthy, but I look at

the rolls on her legs and arms and her round, dimpled bottom and I

worry that she is bound to end up gaining and carrying her weight

like her mother.

Whereas Ethan is a healthy boy, it seem he couldn't care less about

eating and he only eats as much as he needs to feel satisfied then

rejects the bottle. Aubree on the other hand hums and mumbles as she

gulps her food, then after eating to (what seems like) complete

fullness, will sigh and hum contentedly while being held and burped,

indicating that she is really enjoying her food.

It warms my heart to know she is so happy at these times, but then

there are times when I get so scared that she will have to endure the

things I did while MO. The babies pediatrician is amazed that at 12

weeks, Aubree is already in the 75% since twins tend to lag behind

singletons in growth for the first several months. Ethan is in the

50%, which is great in itself. I know I shouldn't worry about this

and just enjoy my healthy little girl, which I do, but there are

definitely those moments...

You're absolutely not alone in this.

Toi

>

> Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress about your child

> inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any of you?

>

> STEPH

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/10/2004 7:03:47 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

dianedeforest@... writes:

What you say is so true -- if they're hungry, let them eat, but make

sure they have healthy choices available.

Regards,

Diane Woodring

****************************

I think " starving " a hungry kid can cause binge eating.... it did with me.

I was NEVER allowed desserts, second helpings ( 1st helpings were always so

small), and was always told to do sit ups because my middle was too fat.

So.. whenever I had the chance.. I would Binge... just eat and eat and eat...

Obesity in children is an epidemic here in the US... and one would think

there would be some good studies and stats available..

Children don't have jobs, money, and drive cars. How are they getting so

fat?? Parents have become the classic enablers.

Here.. stop crying and whining... have a cookie.

Eat your vege's... and then you can have some icecream for dessert..

I also tend to think alot of children are just plain old stressed out due to

family situations, school anxiety, and social issues.

Food can be and is comforting... even to the skinny person.

Throw in a child with a genetic tendency and lower metabolism... and there is

a propensity for being overweight.

The greatest freedom that Gastric Bypass has given me... is the ability to

have a cookie or 2...( at least while preggers) enjoy it without guilt and move

on...

I don't need a whole box of cookies anymore.

Speaking of cookies... I really would love some of those bakery chocolate

chip cookies... I have been craving cookies for DAYS!!!!!!!!!!

BTW Diane.. I see you are expecting again??

WTG and Congrats... 14 months apart.. you will be busy lady!!

K in Ft Lauderdale

mommy to:

Noah 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz - 16.5 inches long

Jonah will arrive via planned C Section on November 4, 2004

Gastric Bypass Sugery 12/2/03

http://www.members.aol.com/marykalwite

[Guest guest]

I think we all need to remember that these are babies...... it is so

unhealthy to deny then what they need to eat because we are afraid that they

will get

fat. I dont know about you guys but skinny babies look and usually are sickly.

I have the same problem... except it is with my 8 year old. She picked up my

bad habits before my gastric bypass and she is overweight. I am trying to

break these bad habits by teaching her the right way to treat food. Its all in

habits that we teach them, not what they consume while they are infants or how

heavy they are on the growth charts. All children are different.

Lay off til they get older and loose that baby fat.... which is vital for

their brain development.

Just my opinion

Girl #4 due 2-8-05

[Guest guest]

> BTW Diane.. I see you are expecting again??

> WTG and Congrats... 14 months apart.. you will be busy lady!!

-

Yes, expecting again -- thanks for the good wishes! And, good luck

to you, too -- I see you'll be delivering soon.

I just turned 40, and had read that we only had a 3% change of

conceiving each month. My OB said to go for it as soon as I was

ready, but the sooner the better. So, we started TTC in August, and

it worked!

The funny thing is I have a strange feeling that this is twins. My

dad had a twin sister, my brother has a set of twins, and I feel

like I'm already showing at 7/8 weeks. I have my first OB visit

today, and I'm pretty sure he'll be sending me for an ultrasound

soon, so we'll see -- I'll let you know!

One last note re: the eating: some of my friends have what I think

is a great routine with their kids for evening snacking (No one in

their family has weight issues.) Starting as toddlers, as the kids

would play with their dinner on the plate, the parent would gently

let them know that they had a certain amount of time to finish (10 -

15 minutes or so), and then " the kitchen would be closed " . Now,

they're aged 6 - 10, and the kids seem to understand about eating

primarily at mealtime, and don't even ask for snacks through the

evening -- they know that once " the kitchen has been closed " (for

mom & dad, too), there's no more eating that day.

I see my youngest niece play with her food at every meal, barely

eating any of it, and then filling up on junk in-between. Her

parents do not have weight issues, and at 6 years old she seems to

be of a healthy weight, but I worry for her as she gets older.

Again, thanks for your comments on this topic -- they really hit

home for me.

Regards,

Diane Woodring

Lap RNY - 7/2001

Mom to Caroline Grace -- 3/5/04

Expecting #2 -- EDD approx. 5/15/05

[Guest guest]

I think that children learn from watching what you do,

not just what you say. When your children are old

enough, take them on walks with you. They will enjoy

the time with you and learn to exercise.

I want to teach my children that " everyday, healthy

food " is best and " treats " are not for everyday. I

tell my husband (not a WLSer) that he has to eat

better, for himself and our children. He is working

on it.

I think that fighting the media will be tougher. I

can turn off the t.v., but what about the billboards,

the radio, what happens at friends homes, while

playing with friends and family, etc?

Herlean

--- Axelrod wrote:

> Steph,

> I TOTALLY can relate to what you are saying. I'm

> not sure how to get a complete hold on this feeling.

> I just keep telling myself that I have to focus on

> teaching my daughter how to eat a balanced meal for

> every meal, to stop eating when she is full and help

> her recognize when that is, and making exercise a

> daily part of her life. If you get any good advice

> please pass it on as I could benefit as well.

> A.

>

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B.Sc.1999 - Married to DH, Bill