re: bleeding- Crystal

[Guest guest]

Crystal,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. The US techs hate

giving sad news and most OB-GYN's want to tell their patients face-to

face or at least over the phone. Speaking as a L & D/ER RN with 15 years

of experience, what you are telling us doesn't sound good. I don't

want to be the bearer of bad news, but when you describe the " grayish

material " that is usually what the embryo looks like at this stage.

you said " I wentt o the bathroom, and started bleeding heavily and

passed a bunch of grayish clumps. " As an OB RN, this is usually fetal

tissue that we send for pathology, but seeing as how I didn't see it

for myself, I don't want to dash any hope you have. Many women bleed

slightly throughout their pregnancy and everything is fine.

We (I as a Christian) have been told over and over and over " if it's

meant to be, it will happen. " This is so hard to have no control over

this part of your own body.

Again, I have repeated to many, many women on this list, as GBP we are

low on iron, folic acid and usually B12. Some of the residents at work

(Ob residents) have recently been doing sudies where they have

compiled major data about the correclation of low B12,folate and iron

levels being a major factor in miscarriages. If you havent done so,

please get these levels checked.

It sounds like the grayish material may have been the " products of

conception " . Many women have alot of pain when they pass these

products and a few don't have anything more than some sl abdominal

pain/ Some bleed alot, others bleed little.

I have never coped with a pregnancy loss, but having infertility

issues for over 2 years makes me feel a *loss* every time I went to

use the restroom and saw the bright red bleeding. Some bleeding in pg

is normal. Bright red means its fresh, bew bleeding. Darker, brownish

blood means its old blood.

The way the tech acted after you passed the " grayish clumps " leads me

to believe that she may not have seen anything after the US and didn't

want to be the bearer of bad news.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I cant imagine how

scared and nervous you are right now.

God is in control of everything in our lives, whether one is religious

or not. I honestly feel that if someone has a miscarriage, something

wasn't genetically right with the baby and God took it home early to

save it and it's family members anguish later on.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers Crystal.

If you have any other questions, please email me directly as I don't

have the opportunity to read in the group as a whole.

*hugs*

Sheila