Re: Hello Quick Question and I need to know if I am normal.

[Guest guest]

Hi there,

I had gastric bypass nov. 5 2002 and got pregnant jan. 2004. My

surgeon had told me to wait at least 15 mo. which I dod and he still

freaked out and said I should get an abortion. My regular doc told me

that was ridiculous. I had an absolutly normal pregnancy and a healthy

baby boy Oct. 6 2004. I only gained about 5 lbs. start to finish. I feel

great! I was also so upset when my surgeon told me to abort. Also I'm

still pissed at him for it. Just want to let you know it is totally possible

to have a healthy pregnancy and baby after gastric bypass. You have

to eat healthy of course but we have to anyhow right? If you need to

talk or vent feel free to e-mail me at poohterpie@....

[Guest guest]

virginia, i was in teh same spot...2 months after having RNY and losing 80 lbs i

got pregnant. i was lucky, my surgeon and OB were very supportive. jsut

because of surgery does not mean you will lose the baby. you can have a healty

baby. i've lost 60 lbs since being pregnant (140 lbs total since my surgery in

march) now i'm 24 weeks pregnant. once you have the baby your body will be

going back to loosing weight and it won't be for nothing. you are normal...just

try to give it time and keep trying to talk to your hubby. and then you always

have us to rant and vent too. if the baby is meant to be, it's meant to be...if

you were to miscarry, i twon't be because you " wished " too. good luck and hugs.

aka mom2ben99 (jennilee75@...)

Gastric Bypass-Lap RNY 3/12/04-Dr Dunshee in Topeka Ks.

Baby boy due 2/17/05-Shanndon

original wt. 342/current wt. 206/goal wt. 140

Hello Quick Question and I need to know if I am

normal.

Hey All:

Thanks for all of your posts. I enjoy reading them it makes me feel

part of a group who understands what I am going through.

First me question. Can you get to much B12? I received an injection of

1cc on Friday but I am still taking the sublingual B12. Is that to

much?

Second. I am feeling so many different feelings right now. I was told

that I would most likely miscarry this baby due to the RNY surgery. My

surgeon actually told me this. Second he mentioned something about an

abortion, but I do not believe in them for myself. I know I would not

be able to live with myself if I ever had an abortion. But then Friday

I had an ultrasound by my OB doctor and we could see the enlarged uterus

but there was nothing in it. Now I have been have quite of bit of pain

in my stomach/side area for about a month to 6 weeks now. (My OB thinks

I am only around 6 weeks pregnant). I have already had a miscarriage

where I lost a set of twins and one of the babies was in my falopian

tube. I am wondering if it is possible I am have another tubal

pregnancy. I prayed this weekend to just let me have a miscarriage to

just get it over with, but now I am feeling terribly guilty for praying

for that. I want this baby, but I don't because I am so very scared

that my health will be in trouble and I won't be a good mother to two

kids. I already have a 2 year old daughter whom I love beyond words. I

hope this makes sense. I feel so alone. I want to talk to my husband

but when I try it is like he doesn't really understand. I don't know am

I normal? I am starting to feel a little depressed because I finally

felt like I was taking steps to getting my life undercontrol and then I

findout I am pregnant. Become happy then be told I will probably lose

the baby anyway. I start my weight loss journey at 360 pounds on June

25th, 2004. I have lost 70 pounds and now I feel like all was for

nothing. Anyway thanks for listening/reading.

Virginia-

[Guest guest]

Gosh you need some support girl. All of your feelings are normal.

Wish I could give you a hug.

Who do you have that you CAN talk to? I know your hubby isnt your

first choice. What about family/friends or a counselor in your area.

I would have trouble with all that on my plate. Please be sure to

take good care of yourself.

[Guest guest]

A question for you... how do they diagnose a tubal pregnancy?? Have

they done any tests/diagnostics to be sure you are not in danger of a

tube bursting?? Please tell me the docs know you are in pain,

especially on the side, with a history of a tubal.

What was the ob's recommendation when they didnt see anything in your

uterus??

Is that normal at only 6 weeks as the fetus is so small?? I know they

could see a tiny heart beat at 8 weeks for me. The baby was the size

of a small lima bean.

What are you doing to care for yourself? Hot bubble baths? Warm tea?

Anything to nuture YOU thru this difficult time.

More hugs,

[Guest guest]

i cant believe someone actually suggested you abort the baby because

of the surgery -- your surgeon no less if i remember correctly. i

am not a anti abortionist, rather a pro choice gal, but the someone

who told you that has to be on drugs. that really disturbs me.

from what ive gathered, its the POST OP mom who suffers, not the

baby (what ive learned is that baby takes what it needs!!!) Ive

been preggers since july and didnt know it. looking back, in

august, i was so tired, I didnt want to get out of bed. i

attributed it to lack of protein and fluids and disciplined vitamin

consumption... little did i know!!!

now, im new to all of this as i just found out october 23rd that i

was 17 weeks pregnant, so ive had alot of responses to my worries

that my baby might not endure in a healthy nature because of he

surgery. that was all put to rest soon, esp. after finding this

site AND to my complete surprise, my brilliant surgeon congratulated

me and then we made a plan my nutritionist and my ob on how to eat

right and stay healthy for me and the baby.

good luck!

kimberly

me 33, dh 35 (male factor low morphology)

pcos dx 6/96 guaranteed lifetime fertility problems....

alex born 4/12/00 success! 7 cycles on clomid/glucophage

heartbreaking loss @ 20weeks 10/26/01 severe neuraltube defcts

Cole born 8/4/03 success! 1st cycle repronex/iui after 8 mo clomid

Gastric Bypass surgery 3/9/04 lost 99lbs as of 11/05/04

10/29/04 Shockingly expectant @ 18 weeks & conceived naturally

Amnio 11/2/04 Markers for Trisomy 18 found (Choriod Plexus Cyst)

Still awaiting results from Amnio

EDD 4/3/05

[Guest guest]

Virginia,

I want to respond to the portion where you said your doc found your

uterus enlarged but no baby. I had some bleeding/tissue a week ago

and went in for an ultrasound....they found the yolk sac intact, but

no fetal pole (the beginning of the baby)....I was very upset. (This,

I think, is the same thing you are describing). I went two days

later, and had my actual OB perform the Ultrasound...she did see the

fetal pole and even a heartbeat...but it was very very tiny....so it

is possible that you are just too early in your pregnancy to see the

baby. I'm still very concerned, because I am still just over six

weeks, and I know that a chance of miscarriage is still considerably

high...for all women...not because I'm post RNY.I had my gastric

bypass over 3 years ago, and I no longer see my surgeon (story for

another day), but my primary follows my post op care and she is

thrilled for me. My OB would like for me to see a nutritionist

because of the malabsorption properties of our surgery...but trust

me, I do believe I get enough calories in (20 lb rebound in the last

year and a half sorta convinces me). My labs look great...I don't

know about the B12 part of your question...definately a good one for

your nutritionist or OB. I personally need to make sure I'm not

getting too much calcium...I usually take about 1000 mg more a day in

addition to my prenat. At anyrate, hang in there...what will be will

be. Life always has a way of working itself out. Nice thoughts

heading your way for a healthy happy future.

Kim open RNY 7/17/01 282/150/130