no mail and a comment of concern

November 21, 2004

I really like this list and have found a few women with some things in

common, but I cannot keep up with it.40-50 emails a day is just too much

when I work 40-50 hours outside the home and have a child and house to

take care of with a DH that travels a lot. Not that I am looking for

sympathy because many of you have it harder than I do and I don't know

how you can keep up either. I don't want to leave completely, so if its

OK I will just go no mail and then when I have time I can read some

message on the web site. Although I will not change for a few days

since I am sure what I say next will get me some comments.

There is one thing that I have been wanting to post and I have written

an email several times in my head and once before that I let set to give

me time to think it over first. I don't want this to be taken the wrong

way, but I am concerned for some of the women on this list. I honestly

believe they need help (a therapist specifically). The reason is some

of the posts that seem obsessed with weight, more so than is healthy. I

am just concerned that some of you may go to the other extreme of weight

issues (anorexia), I have seen this happen. One of my friends locally

is finally getting the help she needs, after she has dropped beyond a

safe weight and has many issues eating. It's a fine line between being

worried about gaining the weight back and so obsessed that you go the

other direction. I am not saying anyone here is that way, because you

cannot tell from a few emails, but I have see some signs that lead to me

concern. Please if you even think you are obsessed with your weight

(such as weighing daily at this point!) or even if you don't talk to

someone you trust and get help.

OK off my soap box and I didn't say this lightly, I see a therapist

myself to deal with my eating and other issues. Although I am in no

danger of going to the other extreme, I am in danger of a failed WLS; I

stopped losing at 4 months and didn't get pg until 10 months so that

wasn't the reason. I personally think every one who has WLS should be

required to spend the first year afterwards in therapy to help deal with

the issues that gat you there and the issues that come up as you are

losing. But that is a personal decision.

Tricia - 10/23/03 WLS 296/218pg/150, ADHD

Married to Tony (9/28/61) on 8/26/95

mommy to Alyssa 11/12/99 ADHD, ODD

and ?? due 06/07/05

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