Re: 24-25 week check up and up date on my troubles

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In a message dated 9/23/2004 6:36:17 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

londalou27@... writes:

Enough rambling. Thanks for the support and advice and of course " THE

LISTENING EARS " .

~HUGS~ Shalonda

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I am so happy to hear you are making positive changes for you and your babies

future!!!!

While you may have had a temporary lapse in judgement with this guy ( sex

will do that sometimes )... he did give you an amazing gift... a Baby!

Sounds like you have a great support system.. and I am confident you and baby

will do just great!!!!

PS.. love the name you chose!

K in Ft Lauderdale

mommy to:

Noah 10/14/02 - 31 weeker - 3lbs 11 oz - 16.5 inches long

Jonah - C Section scheduled for first week of November!!!!

6 more weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sounds like you are on the right track Shalonda...

Keep your chin up, things will turn around for you

soon, I just know it. Keep focused on that baby boy,

and everything else will fall into place!

Keep us posted...

Meredith S.

--- Shalonda wrote:

> Hello everyone. I went to the doctor this past

> Tuesday for my 24-25

> week check up. My doctor was suprised to see that I

> brought my sis-in-

> law instead of my boyfriend. I explained to her that

> he and I were

> have troubles and that I had decided to leave. He

> doesnt know this

> yet and that when I do tell him I am unsure as to

> how he is going to

> react. So in the meanwhile I am resourcing the very

> best support

> group (my family). She was pleased that I had

> decided to confide in

> her my problems and said that once I am out of my

> current situtation

> my stress levels will most likely even out and even

> if they dont not

> to worry too much because babies thrive on stress. I

> sure hope she is

> right about this because I am really wigging out

> over leaving baby's

> dad.

>

> I have gained another 1.5lbs, making a grand total

> of 9.5lbs total.

> She said that the baby was active and everything

> looked great. We

> talked about the next appointment and doing the GTT

> test. She has

> opted to have me do a fasting blood surgar draw in

> the morning and

> then eat and come back 2 hours for a finger prick. I

> am cool with

> that. I truly love my doctor. She is wonderful.

>

> As for my boyfriend, well he continues to kiss my

> feet trying to make

> amends for the lying and troubles he has put us

> through in the past

> few weeks. But I dont think he has stopped lying. In

> fact I know he

> hasnt. So last week I decided I needed to go. He

> needs time to grow

> up and get his life together and I want to

> concentrate on my baby boy

> not raising a grown man. I have been looking at

> apartments and houses

> in the area of town that I prefer to live in. I have

> also talked to

> my family and close friends and they are going to

> come and help me

> move (a 1 day affair) so that it will be done and

> over with lickity

> split. Then I can begin my healing process.

>

> My mother called his mother to discuss a few things

> with her. (I

> didnt think she even knew I was expecting her son's

> child) To my

> suprise she did know. But not because my boyfriend

> told her, no

> because his sister found out from a friend and told

> their mom. She

> said she has been waiting for him to tell her but

> didnt expect he

> would anytime soon (and here I am due in 3 months).

> His mom told mine

> that he has since he was 13 had a lying problem,

> that she tried when

> he was a boy to get him help but that it didnt work

> and now that he

> is a grown man she cant force him too. She also

> confirmed that he has

> not only 1 other son but 3 daughters as well. She

> said that he denies

> the girls because the mother took them away and

> never gives him any

> information about them. She said that he never keeps

> a job long

> because he gets himself into trouble generally with

> women. All in all

> she doesnt think he will change and she was sorry.

> She said that it

> is very hard for her to talk badly about her own

> child but she doesnt

> know how else to warn people. She even said that she

> tried to warn me

> (I remember some things but I dont remember her

> telling me all this).

> She does want to be a part of the my baby's life and

> said that if

> there was anything that I needed help with to please

> let her know. My

> mother and her are suppose to have lunch to talk

> more in a week or

> so.

>

> Now here I am trying to be strong knowing deep

> inside that I am

> making the right choice for myself and the baby. But

> also emotional

> about the bad choice I made with him. I am trying to

> understand

> myself more so that I can understand why I make such

> bad choices with

> men. I really need to set my standards higher. That

> probably makes me

> sound like such a snob. But I am not. Just deserve

> happiness like

> everyone.

>

> Enough rambling. Thanks for the support and advice

> and of course " THE

> LISTENING EARS " .

>

> ~HUGS~ Shalonda

> EDD 1/6-9/05 with baby boy Malachi

> RNY 9/11/03

>

>

>

>

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LoL.. and here I thought that I had dated all the Liars.. apparently

I missed one LoL

I too made bad men choices.. I look back and think " wtf was I

thinking " I finally found a great guy and I am happy! It took a

LOOOOONGGGG time for me to change MY ways and realize that I was

aiming LOW because I thought it's what I deserved. If I were to go

on Dr. Phil.. he would make me cry and call me names LoL.

My point is this: We all make mistakes, and that's the way we

learn! If you are like me.. you didn't listen to anybody when they

warned you (Oh but I LOVVEE him, I can HELP him) We have to learn by

getting burned!

Just know that you are better than that and both you and your lil

tater tot deserve WAY better.. and it's out there! Stick to your

guns, hold your ground and put him behind you. The best revenge is

succeeding!

Congrats on your new start!

Crystal in Mi

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EXCEPTIONALLY WELL PUT CRYSTAL!!! Except, you missed one liar in Ky.

and I found him- lol

Shoot for the stars and don't take *leftovers*!!! (my mom used to tell

me this and I didn't understand what she meant til a few bad

relationships too late!)