Re: Making my issues her issues? ()

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it is nice to know someone else is in my shoes... but sad that our mom's are the

same, for our kids sake- good luck )

Ted Shepherd wrote:I am with you here . I am

having the same

problem with my mom always feeding my son. I get so

upset when I hear her say, " would it make it better if

I gave you a cookie? " or bringing him happy meals even

if she doesn't know if he has alrady had lunch...that

type of thing. It makes me crazy. My grandmother is

the same way and always tells me that she loves to see

him eat. I am always onto them about this but they

think they are older and know better...They both

treated me the same way where every occassion was made

better by food. Any activity we did, there was food

present. Get this...one day my mom said, he wanted me

to make him 2 sandwiches and I told him no, that was

to much. So I made him a dagwood sandwich with 3 pcs

of bread and thats all she said she would let him

have. In her mind she is helping. BUT giving a 5 yr

old a sandwich with 3 pcs of bread, and Im sure

chips...Its a neverending battle for me. I know if I

had his pediatrician tell my mom that he is eating to

much her reaction would be, well, what does he know

about it? Every kid is different, and drs don't

everything. She always knows better.

Another thing that bugs me, at my sons school they

sell ice cream mon-thurs, and then sell popcorn on

friday. I do not want my son having ice cream at

school everyday, but how do you tell a kindergartener

that you can't have ice cream, when all the other kids

are??? Its nice to know I am not alone in this.

I wish I knew what to tell you , but I am in

the same boat. Its frustrating...

Meredith S.

--- heather sterling

wrote:

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> i have a major problem with it! my daughter, who is

> 6, has a weight problem already- due to my mother!

> she is doing the same thing to her, that she did to

> me. give me whatever i wanted to eat, and as much as

> well! madison is a good eater (like she wouldn't be

> coming from me) ha-ha. she will eat 2 helpings of

> dinner foods- meat, veggies, whatever... then ask

> for dessert after EVERY meal, and my mother gives it

> to her!! EVERY MEAL, ladies... lunch & dinner,

> everyday! unfortunetly with my work schedule, my

> husband's work schedule, and his school schedule, i

> must rely on my mother for help in keeping her. no

> daycare is open till 11 pm at night, nor would i

> want her in one. so i am forced to fight with her

> almost every day, about food issues and my daughter!

> no matter what i say, she is right, and knows best-

> after all she raised 5 healthy children, and i was

> the only and am the only one with a weight issue,

> which is a " mental " thing- in her eyes, and maybe it

> is... but my daughter has

> the same " mental " problems i had and will be having

> gastric bypass by the time she is in her 20's... if

> this keeps going the way it is. madison is a big

> girl, all the way around, and at almost 7, she

> weighs 80 pounds, and stands as tall as a 9 year

> old... (compared to the height chart at her

> pediatricians office) so she has height to her

> advantage, as i do... (i am 5' 9) but when i topped

> out at 355 pounds, 5' 9 is not tall enough!!! i

> needed to be 10'..... but still... almost 100

> pounds and not even

> 7!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what the

> heck am i supposed to do. my father totally agrees

> with me, and has tried talking to my mother, as my

> brothers, and my husband- she won't hear that she is

> doing anything wrong... after all if she want two

> helpings of broccolli, with cheese sauce, why not?

> it is a vegetable! or two helpings of mashed

> potatoes- they are made with skim milk, so why not?

> candy everyday- a little wont hurt, just 1 or 2

> pieces... after a meal is ok....

> oatmeal cakes, they are good for you they have

> oatmeal in it.... better than cake!

> WHATEVER!@!!!!!!@@@#$%$#@! this is my delima....

> and my mother's way of thinking.

>

> ok, that's it... sorry this is sooo long, but this

> subject touches me so much- and frustrates me. i am

> done venting, thanks for listening to it. )

> ~

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> sanfransteph wrote:

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> All --

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> Since we are all women who have battled with our

> weight, I wonder if

> I am the only one who stresses about making my

> issues with weight, my

> daughters issues. My daughter Kylie is seven months

> old and I

> constantly stress about how much she eats and how

> much she weighs. I

> know I need to get a handle on this before she is

> old enough to

> realize but at the moment it has been a tough one

> for me.

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> Does anyone else have this problem? Do you stress

> about your child

> inheriting your weight issues? Any advice from any

> of you?

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> STEPH

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> Children are a blessing, and a gift from the Lord.

> -Psalm 127:3

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