Re: Trying again after a miscarriage (Kelli)

November 6, 2004

Hi Kelli...

First...I'm SOOOOOOO sorry to hear about your loss. Going through a

miscarriage is so very painful...mostly emotionally. I found out on July 19th

that

we were pregnant with our first. I had a miscarriage on July 23rd. I still

have days that are tough. You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this

time.

Second...talk to your OB/GYN to see what he/she suggests about waiting. I

think most doctors have different ideas about that. I was surprised, frankly,

after our miscarriage when my ob/gyn told me we could pretty much start

trying right away. I think the only reason he said that was because of my

" AMA "

(advanced maternal age). I turned 37 in September and he knows I'm kind of

against the clock here. HOWEVER...it turned out that I ended up having to

wait 3 months to try again because I found out via my prenatal labs that I had

lost my immunization against rubella. Right after the miscarriage I had to

get the immunization and therefore had to wait. In all honesty, I was totally

bummed at first about having to wait. In retrospect, I'm so glad I had to.

Emotionally I needed time to grieve for my baby. I needed time to " get

things in order " and get my body back into better shape. I've been working

hard

at that and feel that I'm finally ready to be pregnant. We started trying

this cycle (I ovulated 2 days ago), so hopefully in a couple of weeks I'll have

good news of a BFP to share with everyone.

I guess the bottom line is to talk to your ob/gyn and take the time you need

to be physically and emotionally ready for another pregnancy.

Love and peace and positive thoughts coming your way...

Melody

Surgeon: Dr. Clayton, River Falls Hospital, River Falls, WI

Surgery Date: 04/30/02

Highest Weight: 298 lbs.

Today's Weight 160 lbs (although my lowest was a year ago at 144 lbs...and

that ticks me off)

Mom to angel: 7/23/04

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