Re: Yeshaya's results

[Guest guest]

This all looks very very positive - well done on getting this far and good

luck to you all on the next stage. 16 is still very young, so this could be

just what Y needs.

Anneliese

Re: Yeshaya's results

> Ruthie

>

> From what you said about the Yeshivah it sounds like you are pretty

sure

> it's the best thing for him and that Yeshaya is starting to think

that too,

> guess best thing is that he does get refused that 6th form place

(hope you

> don't mind me saying that!). It certainly sounds like he's just

not ready

> for 6th form which is 'fair enough' and that he would really

benefit from

> the 'time out' and maybe return to studying in a year or so when

he's more

> mature.

>

> Jenni

We have had another long talk with him on the subject, this time

specifically on whether he can have access to our house here whilst

in yeshivah and if so, how much. ie. NOT to sleep here rather than

in Yeshivah dorms, as it will look snobby and superior, not to bring

crowds of guys here, but yes to using the washing machine/dryer, and

to chill out occasionally. It will all be built on trust, we told

him, if after the first term Rabbi M says the use of our house is

affecting his ability to integrate, we will withdraw privileges. It

was a very productive talk, but the most amazing thing was, at the

end of it, I said to him: " Yeshaya one thing. Do you still want us

to ask if you can get into sixth form? " He paused a couple of beats,

then said " no. "

I thought " WOW! " but Dh played devils advocate/reverse psychology and

said " don't make any hasty decisions, think it over... "

I think he has more or less made his mind up now. I have had a

chat with Rabbi M too, he will make sure he settles in. Also several

yeshivah students (some from his hated old grammar school) came for

Sabbath lunch today, all helping to make him feel part of the place.

Ruthie