Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 I hate this. 's old classroom wasn't right for her. The teacher was great but she was mimicing the other kids. She was trying to interact and the boys were getting aggressive with her. I had to move her I had no choice. But I don't think the class she's in is right either. When I dropped her off half her class crowded around me peppering me with comments... " I have spiderman shoes " , " my shoes light up " , " Watch me " , " look how far I can kick " ... I never realized how very far behind she is until now. And in the background there she is... my little miricle child. With her diaper hanging out... trying to play a puzzle with another girl but getting the brush off, trying so hard to fit in but how can she with that big sign DIFFERENT hanging over her head in bright lights. Two more weeks with no speech and even then only an hour a week. She needs someone every day. Just putting her in a class with typical kids is not enough. I went to pick her up and what's she doing? Going down the same slide that she goes on every day over and over. She is alone. I ask about her day, I get the big NR. (No response). We go home I try to change her diaper. She gets upset and screams no no no. She starts throwing herself around. She's getting too big I can't hold her the way I use to. I ask her if she wants underwear she says yes. We have friends over, he is wonderful () and a little older than she is. Very verbal and plays well. They have fun. He goes home a couple hours later. She is still dry. We play for another hour. She is still dry. I have her sit on the potty. Nothing. She flushes and then tries to stick her head in the potty so she can watch the water spin. (I pray she doesn't do THAT at school). She gets the once upon a potty tape and book. I set things up. She pees on the couch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 In a message dated 4/23/03 6:36:14 AM Eastern Daylight Time, myfishruleWJG@... writes: > And in the background there she is... my little miricle child. With her > diaper hanging out... trying to play a puzzle with another girl but getting > the brush off, trying so hard to fit in but how can she with that big sign > DIFFERENT hanging over her head in bright lights. How blessed she is to have someone who even thinks about her in such a loving compassionate way.The world is so very hard on children at times. The Grammas & Keion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 Sorry . That really sucks :-( Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 Ok, I sent this one from Yahoo, now it's got Mark's name. I bet you all first thought we had a new dad! Sue ----- Original Message ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 Thanks Gals. This will be the third week. No aid but I have someone going in on Friday to see what is going on. Everyone says she is doing " just fine " but does that mean she isn't causing trouble or that she is indeed " just fine. " Her teacher seems to be able to read when she's stimming on a toy and they disappear so that's great. I just worry that she could be doing so much better with the right supports. She usually has a communications book and we talk about her day that way. Today they had a puppet show and her teacher didn't have time to write. She asked me this morning if she told me anything and apologized about not writing. I said it was ok but that she just isn't like the other kids she won't say I did this or that. I need to set things up like show her the art project and say what did you do at arts and crafts today? Then when she sees the project she'll say " I colored " - " I painted " . I'm going out for dinner with some of " the girls " one of whose husband is a new DAN dr in the area that everyone is raving over. They also have an autistic child. I have other friends but no one every understands me like you girls do. I honestly don't know how I could have made it this far without you all. {{Everyone}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 , I love hearing about 's progress, she reminds me very much of my at that age. I think she is in the perfect setting now! I agree with Jacquie that you should give her (and classmates) some time to adjust to the new setting. You might want to call an IEP meeting and have specific socialization goals and supports added into her school services. You can request a peer buddy be provided (where the teacher actually identifies one or two " outgoing " kids to interact with ). Last summer attended a YMCA day camp with NT kids his age (he was 4.5 then). I observed for two days, both days I came home very upset because he just refused to participate and was content to be off by himself. I realize now that he needed extra supports there, i.e. a teacher to facilitate the interaction, that it was not going to happen on its own in a short amount of time. Good luck and keep us posted! -BJ in polis, MD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 How many days has been in the new class, ? It's going to take time. Time for the kids in the class to adjust to a new kid, time for her to feel safe and comfortable there, time for her to adjust to the place and start showing what she's really capable of to these new people. The transition is going to really SUCK. Try not to doubt your decision too much in these early days while she struggles through the transition. Try (and I know it's hard) to reserve judgement until a couple weeks have passed. THAT;s when you'll really be able to tell if this is going to work or not. >I ask about her day, I get the big NR. (No response). NEVER talked about his day at school until this year. What I finally did was ask the teachers what the kids did that day and then ask him pointed questions: " You painted today. What colours did you paint? " Even now, I barely get any response from him when I ask about his day, unless something happened that he considered HUGE - and he's almost 7, and quite verbal. It's like if something is in the past, he's truly just forgotten about it, even if the past was only hours ago. He only seems to think in one direction -- forward. " How was your day? " " Can we stop and get a treat? " " Sure. What was the best part of school? " " I'm going to play playstation when we get home. " and on and on.... It sucks. Don't give up, ok? Give the class a chance. She may very well surprise you yet. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 > I hate this. 's old classroom wasn't right for her. The teacher was > great but she was mimicing the other kids. She was trying to interact and > the boys were getting aggressive with her. I had to move her I had no > choice. What a shame. You don't want her learning that though. It's no fun. > > But I don't think the class she's in is right either. When I dropped her off > half her class crowded around me peppering me with comments... " I have > spiderman shoes " , " my shoes light up " , " Watch me " , " look how far I can > kick " ... I never realized how very far behind she is until now. Does she have an aide? The social stuff is so so hard. Some kids are naturally gregarious and some NT kids are not though, so not all NT kids are going to clamour like that, but yes, I know what you mean. It's hard to see them with thier peers sometimes. > > And in the background there she is... my little miricle child. With her > diaper hanging out... trying to play a puzzle with another girl but getting > the brush off, trying so hard to fit in but how can she with that big sign > DIFFERENT hanging over her head in bright lights. Two more weeks with no > speech and even then only an hour a week. She needs someone every day. Just > putting her in a class with typical kids is not enough. Why isn't she getting more speech? And why the break with no speech? Yuck. No, being in a typical class is not enough. It helps but it isn't enough. She has to have supports in place to make it work. It's so frustrating sometimes trying to get what they need. The more you work with them, the earlier you do, the better the long term outcome. I hate all the politics and money that go into this stuff. > > I went to pick her up and what's she doing? Going down the same slide that > she goes on every day over and over. She is alone. I ask about her day, I > get the big NR. (No response). Does she have a communication book? Do you connect with the teacher daily? How are you supposed to know anything? Ugh. We go home I try to change her diaper. She > gets upset and screams no no no. She starts throwing herself around. She's > getting too big I can't hold her the way I use to. I ask her if she wants > underwear she says yes. > > We have friends over, he is wonderful () and a little older than she > is. Very verbal and plays well. They have fun. He goes home a couple hours > later. She is still dry. We play for another hour. She is still dry. I > have her sit on the potty. Nothing. She flushes and then tries to stick her > head in the potty so she can watch the water spin. (I pray she doesn't do > THAT at school). She gets the once upon a potty tape and book. I set things > up. She pees on the couch. Ugh ugh ugh. Sigh. Hang in there. ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 Great minds think alike, Jacquie. Or maybe very tired ones? Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 LOL.....they can be great and tired.....right? Jacquie H Re: Second guessing Great minds think alike, Jacquie. Or maybe very tired ones? Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 In a message dated 4/24/03 8:48:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time, penny@... writes: > I really wish we all did live closer. > Jacqui would LOVE to play with ! > Where do you live again? would love to play with Jacqui too. She loves all little girls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 Damn rollercoaster. I really wish we all did live closer. Jacqui would LOVE to play with ! Penny :-D Second guessing I hate this. 's old classroom wasn't right for her. The teacher was great but she was mimicing the other kids. She was trying to interact and the boys were getting aggressive with her. I had to move her I had no choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 Hi BJ! Penny :-D Re: Second guessing , I love hearing about 's progress, she reminds me very much of my at that age. I think she is in the perfect setting now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2003 Report Share Posted April 25, 2003 : You are so great with , I do hope you realize that. There may not be a perfect placement for her, well, you probably do realize THAT! Don't give up on this one too fast though. Keep on observing and seeing if you can come up with ways to fit her environment to her needs. I have great faith that you can do it. You are our idea woman! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2003 Report Share Posted April 26, 2003 thanks Salli. Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2003 Report Share Posted April 26, 2003 In a message dated 4/26/03 5:34:39 PM Eastern Daylight Time, penny@... writes: > Going on vacation any time soon? > Sometime in July but only as far as New York State. There's got to be a way for all of us to meet up sometime. Maybe we could all write a talk show host and tell them how this list has changed our lives? Maybe we should all do a poll to find out where the biggest number of us are. If I'm ever out on the Pacific coast I'll be sure to call though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2003 Report Share Posted April 26, 2003 Las Vegas... Going on vacation any time soon? Penny :-D Re: Second guessing In a message dated 4/24/03 8:48:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time, penny@... writes: > I really wish we all did live closer. > Jacqui would LOVE to play with ! > Where do you live again? would love to play with Jacqui too. She loves all little girls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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