Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 In a message dated 12/8/2005 11:28:16 AM Eastern Standard Time, flipper759@... writes: Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. Narice YOU KNOW IT!!!! I'd give my right arm to be there for you, Narice...am so glad you have such wonderful family and church family.... Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle Caregiver to Glenn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 ((((((Narice)))))) Dang Tuna and his little smelt of a son anyhow!!!!!!!!!!! Yes I am sure they are grieving in their own way and maybe they cant cope with the funeral but dang it all don't they think you and the boys need all the support you can get right now? Those children are their blood!! OH I'm sure the boys would love to be able to have the " excuse " of having to work , heck know one WANTS to go to funerals , but you and the boys arent allowed to have that excuse , why the heck should he ????????? dang that little smelt anyhow!!!!!!!!!! Thank God your family is going to be there, I want you to know that I am their in spirit for yall , and now wrapped your arms around yourself and squeeze tight , thats a hug from me hun Please give one to the boys from me too Luv Deb flipper759@... wrote: My father and brother in-law won't be there. My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 weeks. His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated I really really want to be there but..................................... I can't get off work. He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 I wish for your sake and theirs that they would go. It is very easy to find an excuse not to go to a funeral but they are denying themselves something here. I have never regretted attending a funeral, only those I was unable to get to or excluded from (my parents trying to protect me-not helpful!). Being very united in the grieving makes it easier for everyone to cope. Just my opinion anyway. If I was in your neck of the woods I'd be there but instead I'll be over here and thinking of you all and sending lots of love. If you can bear it it might be worth telling your brother-in-law how much it would mean for him to be there. He may not realise his own importance as an uncle to his brother's sons. Warmest, Fran > > > > My father and brother in-law won't be there. > My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died > of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this > is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 > weeks. > > His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated > I really really want to be there but..................................... > I can't get off work. > He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! > > Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of > their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life > goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. > Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. > Narice > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 We are here for you Narice, in spirit and heart. We love you - donna flipper759@... wrote: My father and brother in-law won't be there. My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 weeks. His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated I really really want to be there but..................................... I can't get off work. He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Family is not made of blood, but of love. Your real family shows itself that way. Sometimes in a strange collection of folks. Sometimes in blood relations. I wish blood relations always loved their family well. I wish you didn't have the added aggrevation. And I wish you weren't 5 hours away from me so that I could be at the funeral. I will be in prayer and spirit. Priscilla A. Savary Executive Director Colorectal Cancer Network PO Box 182, Kensington MD 20895 psavary@... www.colorectal-cancer.net _________ Screening for All. Colon Cancer for None. ProjectMARCH -- rarely in life do you get a chance to make major change or save thousands of lives. March 6, 2006 you can. http://www.colorectal-cancer.net/projectmarch.htm Re: The other shocker We are here for you Narice, in spirit and heart. We love you - donna flipper759@... wrote: My father and brother in-law won't be there. My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 weeks. His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated I really really want to be there but..................................... I can't get off work. He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 If it were all possible I would be there too Narice. Phil could have been my son - he was born in 59 after I turned 18. When I think of that and thought of losing one of my children oh dear, I don't want to go there. Hugs Jolene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 You go get them Deb, better yet lets us B's go gettem. Jolene Re: The other shocker ((((((Narice)))))) Dang Tuna and his little smelt of a son anyhow!!!!!!!!!!! Yes I am sure they are grieving in their own way and maybe they cant cope with the funeral but dang it all don't they think you and the boys need all the support you can get right now? Those children are their blood!! OH I'm sure the boys would love to be able to have the " excuse " of having to work , heck know one WANTS to go to funerals , but you and the boys arent allowed to have that excuse , why the heck should he ????????? dang that little smelt anyhow!!!!!!!!!! Thank God your family is going to be there, I want you to know that I am their in spirit for yall , and now wrapped your arms around yourself and squeeze tight , thats a hug from me hun Please give one to the boys from me too Luv Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Some people can be very callous and rude. I myself have been incredibly stupid about this sort of thing when I was younger. Take comfort in the the people that come to support you. You'll have plenty of time to deal with the callous fools. In time, they may realise how stupid they were. I myself was a bit frustrated by my mom's hospice. My brothers and especially my sister took the bulk of the burden. Hospice did help in some ways and irritated me in others. Many times they wouldn't tell me much about her status and referred me to the doctor. I was very angry that the doctors wouldn't communicate to me at all. The onc's office even had enough nerve to call my sister and bitch at her for not calling me and telling me everything they said to her. They just didn't want to talk to me at all. I was 600 miles away and my sister had her hands full working and caring for my mom overnight. Again, they were callous, stupid fools. Please try to focus on the positives. I believe you will find a lot to be thankful for. There will always be idiots but there will be a lot of angels too. Miracles happen! Cliff H. > > > > My father and brother in-law won't be there. > My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died > of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this > is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 > weeks. > > His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated > I really really want to be there but..................................... > I can't get off work. > He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! > > Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of > their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life > goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. > Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. > Narice > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Phil's Dad has been on the phone to me with lots of support and like I said he was here most of the last 2 weeks. It is not pleasant but it IS understandable. But I can't understand his brother. It doesn't matter my brothers and brothers in-law were all there for me. And you should see my niece she is beautiful!! In a message dated 12/8/2005 2:17:58 PM Eastern Standard Time, jehret@... writes: You go get them Deb, better yet lets us B's go gettem. Jolene Re: The other shocker ((((((Narice)))))) Dang Tuna and his little smelt of a son anyhow!!!!!!!!!!! Yes I am sure they are grieving in their own way and maybe they cant cope with the funeral but dang it all don't they think you and the boys need all the support you can get right now? Those children are their blood!! OH I'm sure the boys would love to be able to have the " excuse " of having to work , heck know one WANTS to go to funerals , but you and the boys arent allowed to have that excuse , why the heck should he ????????? dang that little smelt anyhow!!!!!!!!!! Thank God your family is going to be there, I want you to know that I am their in spirit for yall , and now wrapped your arms around yourself and squeeze tight , thats a hug from me hun Please give one to the boys from me too Luv Deb [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Narice, I wish so much I could be there and give you a hug!!!!! Love, Ingrid > > > > My father and brother in-law won't be there. > My father in-law because of financial and emotional problems (his wife died > of pancreatic cancer) I can pretty well sympathize with him as after all this > is his son and indeed gut wrenching and he has been here most of the last 2 > weeks. > > His BROTHER on the other hand just off handily stated > I really really want to be there but..................................... > I can't get off work. > He works for a Union shop so don't tell me he couldn't get funeral benefits! > > Oh well all 7 of my brothers and sisters my baby niece Sara and most of > their spouses are here and Phil once said they had become his true family.Life > goes on but thanks for letting me vent nonetheless. > Wish my on line family could be here but know you will be in spirit. > Narice > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Jolene, Your sense of humor is great!!! Love you!!! Ingrid > > > > You go get them Deb, better yet lets us B's go gettem. Jolene > > Re: The other shocker > > > > ((((((Narice)))))) Dang Tuna and his little smelt of a son anyhow!!!!!!!!!!! > > Yes I am sure they are grieving in their own way and maybe they cant cope > with the funeral but dang it all don't they think you and the boys need all > the support you can get right now? Those children are their blood!! OH I'm > sure the boys would love to be able to have the " excuse " of having to work , > heck know one WANTS to go to funerals , but you and the boys arent allowed > to have that excuse , why the heck should he ????????? dang that little > smelt anyhow!!!!!!!!!! > Thank God your family is going to be there, I want you to know that I am > their in spirit for yall , and now wrapped your arms around yourself and > squeeze tight , thats a hug from me hun > Please give one to the boys from me too > > Luv > Deb > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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