Re: Now I know why you call it a roller coaster ride....

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I know in my head that as they set goals etc, it will get hard for him but

now I am second guessing myself. Is it fair to make a 2 1/2 do all these

things instead of being home playing and being 2??

Does he play properly? Putter was going nowhere at home. And with autism

the younger the better. Kids with the earliest interventions are most

likely to be able to blend in later. At least that is what the evidence

suggests.

Salli

[Guest guest]

It IS a roller coaster ride, and some days just make you sick to your

stomach. Try to remember what a good mother you are by getting

services so early. Of course he will not be happy at school all the

time, but early intervention makes such a difference. Vent all you

like--it's what we're here for. And you're not having a pity party.

You're just talking about your feelings.

Maggie

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Salli,

Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense LOL...No

doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it LOL...He does love to

be outside and check things out, play in the sand but its just pile and dump,

pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that he is happy when he is doing

that KWIM? Today I was all excited because I thought I could hear him playing

with matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my horror, he is lining them

up..never done that before

I know in my head its the right thing but my heart isn't listening very well on

the bad days....

Up and down I guess

Thanks!

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller coaster

ride....

I know in my head that as they set goals etc, it will get hard for him but

now I am second guessing myself. Is it fair to make a 2 1/2 do all these

things instead of being home playing and being 2??

Does he play properly? Putter was going nowhere at home. And with autism

the younger the better. Kids with the earliest interventions are most

likely to be able to blend in later. At least that is what the evidence

suggests.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Ok !!

I've been where you are, and only a few months ago. If you have time, go

back to the archives and check out some of my posts from around mid to late

October. You could have almost cut and pasted mine, and I think the other

w/ Jake. (Have we heard from her lately?). Believe me, it's really

the BEST thing you can do. has just bloomed like a rose in

springtime. He went from no language to speaking in full sentences. From

crying every morning when he knew he was going to school to running for the

school bus. From shaking his head " no " and making grunting/growling sounds

and actually tearing up when we mentioned his teacher's name or any of the

kids in his class to asking for them when he goes to bed. Not every child

progresses like this, obviously, but now I'm thinking, what if my heart had

won, and I hadn't sent him? Where would we be today? Certainly not where

we are now, that's for sure.

{{{KAREN}}}

ellen

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster ride....

Salli,

Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense LOL...No

doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it LOL...He

does love to be outside and check things out, play in the sand but its just

pile and dump, pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that he is

happy when he is doing that KWIM? Today I was all excited because I thought

I could hear him playing with matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my

horror, he is lining them up..never done that before

I know in my head its the right thing but my heart isn't listening very

well on the bad days....

Up and down I guess

Thanks!

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster ride....

I know in my head that as they set goals etc, it will get hard for him

but

now I am second guessing myself. Is it fair to make a 2 1/2 do all these

things instead of being home playing and being 2??

Does he play properly? Putter was going nowhere at home. And with

autism

the younger the better. Kids with the earliest interventions are most

likely to be able to blend in later. At least that is what the evidence

suggests.

Salli

[Guest guest]

And we appreciate you, too!

Maggie

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Oh, I remember going through the pulling up grass phase. We were

at a friend's farm, outside in the yard, and he started pulling. I asked

her if that was okay, and she said, " How much can a fourteen month old

pull up? " Little did she know.

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I laugh a little bit about how Cheyenne lines things up. She has gone as

far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore that is?

Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up. Sometimes they will line up

but they don't want to stay for very long. It's all quite interesting to

watch.

She has started playing with toys normally. It never dawned on me that she

lined things up until one day she just lined up everything, the touchy feely

books on the floor, her stuffed ducks on the TV, the piggies..... She isn't

as quarky as the other ones so I often wonder what the deal is with her.

Anyway, I have noticed that she doesn't really play with anything (except

her ducks and books) on her own unless someone engages her. Dakota is good

for that. He is always right in someones face. I think he has been good

for Savannah. LOL! She used to sit and stare, totaly zone out and you

could yell in her ears or smack her and she would stay zoned. It was really

disturbing. Nothing could reach her. It was like she just totaly lost

touch with the world. Dakota is always in her face making her read to him

or play with him with his moose or something. If it wasn't for Dakota

forcing interaction out of her I think we would still have that zoning

problem. He is like built in therapy. LOL!

When Dr Fry told us that he felt we were doing just fine with her and he

wouldn't recommend any outside services I thought he was nuts. He told us

just to keep doing what we were doing. All we did was give her Dakota for a

brother. LOL! Anything else that we did I can't remember. I think I just

did what I felt she needed without thinking consciencely about it.

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller coaster

ride....

> > Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense LOL...No

> doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it LOL...

>

> Oh, I think I understood you. I felt much the same way. A very laid back

> mom was I.

>

> He does love to be outside and check things out, play in the sand but its

> just pile and dump, pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that he

is

> happy when he is doing that KWIM?

>

> Putter was a veritable ray of sunshine. Give him some grass to pull up

and

> his mama nearby and his life was set.

>

> Some children with autism are so overwhelmed by the confusing sensory

> problems that they are very very unhappy, and I think it is much more

> obviously easy to treat them. But Putter was quite quite happy and I

hated

> to make him unhappy especially as he had such severe separation anxiety.

>

> Today I was all excited because I thought I could hear him playing with

> matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my horror, he is lining them

> up..never done that before

> >

> >

> Ah, I remember coming downstairs to find Putter creating color coded

trains.

> It gave me a cold feeling in the pit of my stomach because it was so very

> different from the way my other children played.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hmmm....

Depends.

First you would have to wait a year or two until the little person wants to

react with his or her brother. Then you need one of those in your face

personalities. Doesn't work otherwise. Savannah and Cheyenne are actually

able to ignore all their other siblings, well, except maybe Dalton when all

he is doing is screaming. Dakota you can't ignore. He won't let you. And

if you try he will make Oobi and shove Oobie in your face.

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller coaster

ride....

> Funny about the guinea pigs! I'm glad Cheyenne has Dakota. Do ya think

> I should give a baby brother or sister as next year's bday gift?

>

> Maggie

>

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[Guest guest]

far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore

that is?

> Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up. Sometimes they will

line up

> but they don't want to stay for very long. It's all quite

interesting to

> watch.

> Georga

AH...the visual on that is just too funny!!!

I could picture jenna doing this, if she wasn't

so afraid of any kind of animal...

thanks for the laugh!!!

nancy

[Guest guest]

> far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore

> that is?

> > Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up.

Oh, dear, Georga, I remember when our cat had kittens and how hard poor

Putter tried to line those kittens up!

It does NOT work.

Salli

[Guest guest]

The one time she did this I wish I had had a camera to take a picture. I

bought this little wooden bench at the thrift store that the back rest of

the bench says " time out " . She lined piggies up on that. It was really

cute.

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller coaster

ride....

> far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore

> that is?

> > Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up. Sometimes they will

> line up

> > but they don't want to stay for very long. It's all quite

> interesting to

> > watch.

>

> > Georga

> AH...the visual on that is just too funny!!!

> I could picture jenna doing this, if she wasn't

> so afraid of any kind of animal...

> thanks for the laugh!!!

> nancy

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

LOL!

Kittens are much more uncooperative than piggies.

Georga

Re: Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster ride....

>

> > far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore

> > that is?

> > > Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up.

>

> Oh, dear, Georga, I remember when our cat had kittens and how hard poor

> Putter tried to line those kittens up!

>

> It does NOT work.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That's great Dakota is giving her therapy for free.

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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De: Jor'gha HaQ

Enviado el: Sábado, 26 de Abril de 2003 11:44 a.m.

Para: parenting_autism

Asunto: Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster ride....

I laugh a little bit about how Cheyenne lines things up. She has gone

as

far as to line up the PET guinea pigs. Do you know what a chore that

is?

Sometimes piggies don't want to be lined up. Sometimes they will line

up

but they don't want to stay for very long. It's all quite interesting

to

watch.

She has started playing with toys normally. It never dawned on me that

she

lined things up until one day she just lined up everything, the touchy

feely

books on the floor, her stuffed ducks on the TV, the piggies..... She

isn't

as quarky as the other ones so I often wonder what the deal is with her.

Anyway, I have noticed that she doesn't really play with anything

(except

her ducks and books) on her own unless someone engages her. Dakota is

good

for that. He is always right in someones face. I think he has been

good

for Savannah. LOL! She used to sit and stare, totaly zone out and you

could yell in her ears or smack her and she would stay zoned. It was

really

disturbing. Nothing could reach her. It was like she just totaly lost

touch with the world. Dakota is always in her face making her read to

him

or play with him with his moose or something. If it wasn't for Dakota

forcing interaction out of her I think we would still have that zoning

problem. He is like built in therapy. LOL!

When Dr Fry told us that he felt we were doing just fine with her and he

wouldn't recommend any outside services I thought he was nuts. He told

us

just to keep doing what we were doing. All we did was give her Dakota

for a

brother. LOL! Anything else that we did I can't remember. I think I

just

did what I felt she needed without thinking consciencely about it.

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster

ride....

> > Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense

LOL...No

> doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it

LOL...

>

> Oh, I think I understood you. I felt much the same way. A very laid

back

> mom was I.

>

> He does love to be outside and check things out, play in the sand but

its

> just pile and dump, pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that

he

is

> happy when he is doing that KWIM?

>

> Putter was a veritable ray of sunshine. Give him some grass to pull

up

and

> his mama nearby and his life was set.

>

> Some children with autism are so overwhelmed by the confusing sensory

> problems that they are very very unhappy, and I think it is much more

> obviously easy to treat them. But Putter was quite quite happy and I

hated

> to make him unhappy especially as he had such severe separation

anxiety.

>

> Today I was all excited because I thought I could hear him playing

with

> matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my horror, he is lining

them

> up..never done that before

> >

> >

> Ah, I remember coming downstairs to find Putter creating color coded

trains.

> It gave me a cold feeling in the pit of my stomach because it was so

very

> different from the way my other children played.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I wonder what we would have to pay him in if he knew he should be charging.

LOL!

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster

ride....

> > Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense

LOL...No

> doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it

LOL...

>

> Oh, I think I understood you. I felt much the same way. A very laid

back

> mom was I.

>

> He does love to be outside and check things out, play in the sand but

its

> just pile and dump, pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that

he

is

> happy when he is doing that KWIM?

>

> Putter was a veritable ray of sunshine. Give him some grass to pull

up

and

> his mama nearby and his life was set.

>

> Some children with autism are so overwhelmed by the confusing sensory

> problems that they are very very unhappy, and I think it is much more

> obviously easy to treat them. But Putter was quite quite happy and I

hated

> to make him unhappy especially as he had such severe separation

anxiety.

>

> Today I was all excited because I thought I could hear him playing

with

> matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my horror, he is lining

them

> up..never done that before

> >

> >

> Ah, I remember coming downstairs to find Putter creating color coded

trains.

> It gave me a cold feeling in the pit of my stomach because it was so

very

> different from the way my other children played.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Since he is so good you probably you'd have to pay him big. Don't let

other families found out about him. If you weren't so far away I'd love

to hire him

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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De: Jor'gha HaQ

Enviado el: Sábado, 26 de Abril de 2003 08:35 p.m.

Para: parenting_autism

Asunto: Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster ride....

I wonder what we would have to pay him in if he knew he should be

charging.

LOL!

Georga

Re: Now I know why you call it a roller

coaster

ride....

> > Sorry I typed fast and was upset so I don't think I made sense

LOL...No

> doesn't " play " like a 2 yr old so now that you mention it

LOL...

>

> Oh, I think I understood you. I felt much the same way. A very laid

back

> mom was I.

>

> He does love to be outside and check things out, play in the sand but

its

> just pile and dump, pile and dump. I guess what I was thinking is that

he

is

> happy when he is doing that KWIM?

>

> Putter was a veritable ray of sunshine. Give him some grass to pull

up

and

> his mama nearby and his life was set.

>

> Some children with autism are so overwhelmed by the confusing sensory

> problems that they are very very unhappy, and I think it is much more

> obviously easy to treat them. But Putter was quite quite happy and I

hated

> to make him unhappy especially as he had such severe separation

anxiety.

>

> Today I was all excited because I thought I could hear him playing

with

> matchboxes in his room so I rush in and to my horror, he is lining

them

> up..never done that before

> >

> >

> Ah, I remember coming downstairs to find Putter creating color coded

trains.

> It gave me a cold feeling in the pit of my stomach because it was so

very

> different from the way my other children played.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

ROFL!

----- Original Message -----

> I laugh a little bit about how Cheyenne lines things up. She has gone as

> far as to line up the PET guinea pigs.