Re: Visiting Preschools ... or ... The Autie Magnet

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Debbie, I cannot tell you how that story touched me. It was beautiful.

Utterly beautiful.

Jacquie

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Oh Debbie you brought tears to my eyes.

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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-----Mensaje original-----

De: weya

Enviado el: Jueves, 01 de Mayo de 2003 07:13 a.m.

Para: Parenting_Autism

Asunto: Visiting Preschools ... or ... The Autie

Magnet

I already posted about the aftermath of visiting some of the preschool

classrooms. But some very touching events occurred while I was visiting

too. Grammas, your concerns about Keion knowing/showing love made me

think of the interactions I had with 2 little boys while I was

observing. In my mind, they were examples of children unable to

interact appropriately but making the effort to connect in any way they

can ... the friendliness of a child coming through in very small or odd

gestures.

First touching event occurred with a little boy named . He was

playing with an alphabet puzzle in the 2nd classroom I visited. He was

a bit older (4-5?) and clearly autistic ... trilling, finger flicking,

and more entranced by the holes in the R, P, O, Q, etc than the letters

themselves. The teacher introduced him to me and I said " Hi " ...

and got no response from him. Jordan has taught me that just because

there is no response, does not mean they didn't hear you or they are

ignoring you. So I happily moved on to the little chair against the

wall to be unobtrusive and observe. I happened to be sitting to 's

back.

A good five minutes, abruptly twirls to face my direction, comes

running at me trilling and stops just inches from me. He flicks his

fingers at me, makes a good deal of sounds at me, and holds eye contact

for gee, a good minute which is a long time. I decide this is 's

greeting and so I respond with a big smile and a cheerful " Hi " . He

holds the gaze for a couple long seconds longer and then runs back to

his puzzle.

Another 2 minutes go by while busily takes letters out and puts

them back after examining the holes. He twirls again and takes a

running leap into my arms (good thing I have good reflexes, lol). I

give him a big hug, to which he arches his back and just hangs from my

arms, lovely autie hug. He chirps and trills happily as he hangs from

me. Finally I say, " , you need to stand up straight ... so you

don't fall. " He straightens and runs back to his puzzle. He plays

another minutes before repeating the running hug with a huge smile. I

had made a friend.

Soon after that 2nd hug, it was time for gym, so I moved on to the 3rd

classroom.

In the 3rd classroom, I watched 8-9 little boys and girls doing art

projects for mother's day. After they cleaned up, the teacher declared

it was time to go outside to play. A little white blonde boy went

running for the door ... he was clearly eager to go outside. The

teacher gently redirected him twice as he tried to open the door to head

down the hall ... telling him he must wait until everyone has coats on.

Cameron, comes up with a solution to an intolerable wait ... he finds

himself a toy train and lays himself on the floor beside my chair,

pressing his face against the floor and watches the wheels turn as he

slowly rolls the train in front of his face. Ahhh, I have seen this

before, I think to myself.

Shortly after, the teacher calls to Cameron that it's time to go, and he

eagerly gets up to take the teacher's hand for the walk down the hall to

the door outside. He pauses for a second after taking the teacher's

hand, and then silently reaches his other hand out and takes mine.

Clearly, he has just invited me to come to outdoor playtime. I take his

hand and stand. The teacher asks me to hold another little girl's hand

instead, " If you want to hold a hand, could you hold hers instead? " I

tell her, " I didn't take his hand, he took mine " with a smile. But I

help out by holding the other little girl's hand instead (teacher told

me she was a runner so I gladly helped). Cameron goes off with the

teacher and spends outdoor time running around by himself, perfectly

happy (of course). But again, it seemed that I had made a friend.

It was interesting to me that in two of the three classrooms, the

autistic children were somehow drawn to me. Maybe because I understood

their attempts to interact and responded positively rather than by

withdrawing from strange behavior? But what made them want to interact

with me in the first place? I don't know. But those two little boys

touched me deeply in such small ways. They are part of the positives

that I'll remember from those classroom visits.

Jordan has taught me it's the small gestures that show he loves me. My

son is very affectionate by nature, so he's not cold to me. But neither

is he like my daughter who will say, " Oh Mom, I love you. " His

affection is shown in small smiles, his teasing nature, his desire to be

cuddled, the fact that he seeks me out when he is upset, and the very

rare hug or kiss.

Okay, I'm waxing poetic now, so I'll just leave it here. I just needed

to share those 2 little boys with all of you. :-)

Debbie with twins

- Jordan (ASD) 2.5yo

- (NT) 2.5yo

[Guest guest]

When we

> visited the preschool, she was so funny ... " Bor ME???? " she kept

> asking. " Yes, , for you! " " Hooray!!!! " she cheers.

Awww, that just stole my heart : )

(SAHM in GA)

MSN elizabethloht@...

n 33, mo, no formal dx

Phoebe, 11 wks

[Guest guest]

>>Here in PA at age three children revieve services threw the local intermediate

unit until they go to kindergarten but those services are paid for by the school

district which reimburses said Intermediate Unit.<<

,

thanks and I think you are right. From my reading last night it appears that the

funding comes from 2 different pools (all of which are tax dollars) Being an

accountant, I should have thought of the money angle lol. is only 2 1/2

so I do want to ask if there will be changes coming when he turns 3. No one has

said however I have not asked. I know my case manager mentions each meeting

(when she has to state the parents rights) that his records will be given to the

school district when he starts school. thanks ladies for bringing this up!! I

love to be informed and I HATE surprises, LOL

Warm Regards

& ASD 11/25/00 in Maine

Re: Visiting Preschools ... or ... The Autie

Magnet

In a message dated 5/2/03 5:25:58 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jbsmom@... writes:

> I am guessing the answer is #2. I must have misunderstood if that is the

> federal law. Where would I look to get this information? Thanks for

> bringing this up, I sure don't want to be giving people wrong information

>

He may be part of the school district but you don't know it. Here in PA at

age three children revieve services threw the local intermediate unit until

they go to kindergarten but those services are paid for by the school

district which reimburses said Intermediate Unit.

Clear as mud?