Re: Re: Trick or Treat/Ingrid

[Guest guest]

My husband had some " stable Lymph nodes " in the pelvic and abdomen noted in his

July CT scan (8 months from surgery), and I asked the surgeon about them as I

had not read the report until after I left the onc. office, and he told me they

could still be enlarged from the surgery. I made the remark about 8 months

after surgery, and he said " yes, that it was a very traumatic surgery and it

could take up to 3 years for them to become normal again. " Seems like an awful

long time to me.

MA

Re: Re: Trick or Treat/Ingrid

In a message dated 10/29/2005 10:21:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,

lowenco@... writes:

My problem is I think I am feeling at 100 percent. Then I try to do

something and get really down because I am not like I was before the

surgery. I try to do too much and when I get to feeling down I get my

reminder that I am still healing. Just think it will get better in

time. Ingrid

You ARE still healing, Ingrid...please do not overdo!!! Don't they say a

year after major surgery before you are totally healed?? Not sure where I

heard that, but major surgery or illness of any kind takes a major toll on

one's

body...including yours, sweetie!!! LOL

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

,

I wish I could say that I had done something in those

8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

while. I enjoy life a little more but that is about

it.

Len

--- brencolinmom@... wrote:

---------------------------------

Len:

YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

survivor.

[Guest guest]

Len,

Is your bottom-line feeling that, due to your quality o life, just BEING

alive for the past 8 years has not been worth it?

Tough question, I know, but I seriously mean it, and I'm sure we all wonder

about these choices, no?...

Marty

On 10/30/2005 8:15:30 PM, colon_cancer_support wrote:

> ,

> I wish I could say that I had done something in those

> 8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

> while. I enjoy life a little more but that is about

> it.

> Len

>

> --- brencolinmom@... wrote:

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Len:

> YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

> survivor.

>

[Guest guest]

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len

--- Marty and Ellen Grogin

wrote:

> Len,

>

> Is your bottom-line feeling that, due to your

> quality o life, just BEING

> alive for the past 8 years has not been worth it?

>

> Tough question, I know, but I seriously mean it, and

> I'm sure we all wonder

> about these choices, no?...

>

> Marty

>

>

> On 10/30/2005 8:15:30 PM,

> colon_cancer_support wrote:

> > ,

> > I wish I could say that I had done something in

> those

> > 8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

> > while. I enjoy life a little more but that is

> about

> > it.

> > Len

> >

> > --- brencolinmom@... wrote:

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Len:

> > YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

> > survivor.

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Len we take pleasure in the small things in life, not the same as when we

were younger but now and again we see them and appreciate them. You are so

blessed you have your wife at your side - I sure wish my better half was

still with me and could help take care of me. Hugs and prayers Jolene

Re: Re: Trick or Treat/Ingrid

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len

--- Marty and Ellen Grogin

wrote:

> Len,

>

> Is your bottom-line feeling that, due to your

> quality o life, just BEING

> alive for the past 8 years has not been worth it?

>

> Tough question, I know, but I seriously mean it, and

> I'm sure we all wonder

> about these choices, no?...

>

> Marty

>

>

> On 10/30/2005 8:15:30 PM,

> colon_cancer_support wrote:

> > ,

> > I wish I could say that I had done something in

> those

> > 8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

> > while. I enjoy life a little more but that is

> about

> > it.

> > Len

> >

> > --- brencolinmom@... wrote:

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Len:

> > YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

> > survivor.

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jolene,

I feel so sorry for anyone who has lost a spouse and

if someone has to rage a fight against cancer without

a spouse by their side I think it is a special

tragedy. Life is still worth living, no mater how

painful it is, if you have someone to share it with.

If you don't have a spouse, get a partner that will

hold your hand while you barf. and wipe the sweat from

your forehead when you are nearly delirious. I don't

know how you find such a person but maybe this list

will help.

Good Luck and many hugs from me.

Len

--- Jolene Ehret wrote:

---------------------------------

Len we take pleasure in the small things in life, not

the same as when we

were younger but now and again we see them and

appreciate them. You are so

blessed you have your wife at your side - I sure wish

my better half was

still with me and could help take care of me. Hugs and

prayers Jolene

Re: Re: Trick or

Treat/Ingrid

After cancer I lost my sex life, my confidence, my

bowels have been in a constant uproar, I can't take

pleasure in going for a drive any more, I don't build

race cars, or anything like that anymore, I don't

smoke (though I quit that 5 years befor the cancer) I

stopped drinking beer, (it just doesn't tast good) I

can't sit down and enjoy a meal because I can only eat

in small quantities, and I have lost all passion for

winning, leading, providing, dreaming, or anything

like that. My brain has even lost a lot of function

and I can not type as well as I could. The only thing

I have left is a wife who loves me very much and I am

living my life for her. Anything she wants she gets -

though I have to remind her that she has to save

enough to live on when my retirement checks

dissappear.

I don't know if you can judge by that but you my see

my point.

Len

--- Marty and Ellen Grogin

wrote:

> Len,

>

> Is your bottom-line feeling that, due to your

> quality o life, just BEING

> alive for the past 8 years has not been worth it?

>

> Tough question, I know, but I seriously mean it, and

> I'm sure we all wonder

> about these choices, no?...

>

> Marty

>

>

> On 10/30/2005 8:15:30 PM,

> colon_cancer_support wrote:

> > ,

> > I wish I could say that I had done something in

> those

> > 8 years that made all the pain and missery worth

> > while. I enjoy life a little more but that is

> about

> > it.

> > Len

> >

> > --- brencolinmom@... wrote:

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Len:

> > YOur surgery was 8 years ago? Wow. YOu ARE a

> > survivor.

> >

>

>

>

>