Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Hugs... hang in there it gets better. Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 {{{teresa}}} ellen Going crazzzzzy Zach's in his room again. Screaming. For the last week his behavior has been unbelievably awful. Today I got up, right away he goes to the back door stomping. We go outside. He stands by the door to come inside. We come inside. He starts screaming and stomping, grabbing on me. We eat. We go to the park. He plays in the sand and slides all by himself for a whole 7 minutes. Then he's running for the car and won't come back. Get home, he wants to go outside. Hanging on me, poking at my boobs, dumping the food on the floor then screaming when I take it away, anything on my desk he's grabbing. Playing with the dials on the phone, screams when I take it away. When I play with him on the floor he is throwing his whole body on me and stomping on me and it hurts! I cook dinner, he's standing under my at my feet, grabbing ahold of my shirt stomping screaming. I know one of these days he's going to trip me holding a hot pan. It's like this ALLLLLL DAYYYYYYY LONGGGGGGGGG. He said EAT last night for the first time, and today, he said HOT. I can't take this anymore!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 (((teresa)))) life is pretty friggen rotten sometimes. hope you get a break soon. M.G.mum to Sebastian, 11 kinda quirky(NT) Rowan, 6 extra quirky (ASD) married to and living in Northern Ontario Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 Oh boy have I had days (weeks, months) like this. And I had been at a real loss for a long time on what to do about it. But I have finally found something that is working for us. Essentially, when n begins to push me to my limit by being Obnoxious Boy, or being physically aggressive, or just generally driving me insane ... he gets a 10 minute time-out in his room. See I've been struggling because I realize that most autie behavior, while intolerable, is largely innocent, and I can place him in his room without feeling like I've unjustly punished him. Perhaps he will learn what behaviors are unacceptable, but for now I am happy just to diffuse the tension. n frequently spends the time jumping on his bed, which I think helps him calm down, and more often than not, emerges from time-out a happier person (a temporary affect). Also *I* get a break so that I don't explode, and this makes my day manageable, cuz once I am pushed beyond my limit, it ain't pretty, and I do not parent effectively, sometimes for days. Also, as we all know, when our kids get worked up, it is useful to remove the object of distress. I have come to accept that in most situations *I* am that object. If I cannot decipher or fix what he needs then I become the antagonist. As such, sometimes I think he needs those 10 minutes away from me as much as I need the 10 minutes away from him. Hang in there! {{{{Theresa}}}} (SAHM in GA) MSN elizabethloht@... n 33, mo, no formal dx Phoebe, 11 wks ----- Original Message ----- > Zach's in his room again. Screaming. For the last week his behavior > has been unbelievably awful. Today I got up, right away he goes to > the back door stomping. We go outside. He stands by the door to > come inside. We come inside. He starts screaming and stomping, > grabbing on me. We eat. We go to the park. He plays in the sand > and slides all by himself for a whole 7 minutes. Then he's running > for the car and won't come back. Get home, he wants to go outside. > Hanging on me, poking at my boobs, dumping the food on the floor then > screaming when I take it away, anything on my desk he's grabbing. > Playing with the dials on the phone, screams when I take it away. > When I play with him on the floor he is throwing his whole body on me > and stomping on me and it hurts! I cook dinner, he's standing under > my at my feet, grabbing ahold of my shirt stomping screaming. I know > one of these days he's going to trip me holding a hot pan. > > It's like this ALLLLLL DAYYYYYYY LONGGGGGGGGG. > He said EAT last night for the first time, and today, he said HOT. > > I can't take this anymore!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 It is possible to cook with a child clinging > to your leg or shirt, but it does require extra care. It's also > annoying, but you get used to it and then they stop. HA! This is why the kitchen is *off-limits* to n. After numerous, and I mean numerous, attempts to make the kitchen safe enough for n, I just gave up. Also I can hide in there from him : ) (SAHM in GA) MSN elizabethloht@... n 33, mo, no formal dx Phoebe, 11 wks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 I am so sorry. Some days or weeks or months can be rough. Hang in there. Congrats on the new words. Jacquie H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 ((((())))), How long have you had him on the diet now? Have you pulled anything else from him that maybe he was getting gluten in still from before? Sometimes the kids go through a period of getting worse soon after starting the diet, before they get better. It's described as being like withdrawal since the reaction some kids get from eating some of these foods creates something similar to opiates in their systems. Hang in there!! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 ----- Original Message ----- > n frequently spends the time jumping on his bed, which I > > think helps him calm down, and more often than not, emerges from time-out > a > > happier person (a temporary affect). > > Yes, perhaps the behaviors stem from sensory needs? Yes, I think you may be right. Strangely, it seems like in the last month or two n has decided to become fully autistic. I mean for last 18 months I've thought, well maybe he is and maybe he isn't, then I figured, well he probablly is, etc. But in the last few months he is suddenly lining up everything under the sun (all the vcr tapes face down, then face up, then stand them on end, etc with every object he gets his hand on), when I tuck him in at night I find he is falling asleep with his pillow firmly placed over his body (sensory stuff I imagine), there are others. But he never did any of these classically autie things before. As I've said before, it seems strange to me that it is like he is growing into autism ... (SAHM in GA) MSN elizabethloht@... n 33, mo, no formal dx Phoebe, 11 wks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 when I tuck > him in at night I find he is falling asleep with his pillow firmly placed > over his body (sensory stuff I imagine), He might like a weighted blanket, you know. there are others. But he never did > any of these classically autie things before. As I've said before, it seems > strange to me that it is like he is growing into autism ... > Well, Putter did that too. From two to three is a particularly autie time. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 I thought that sounded odd...as well as the fritos.... Penny Re: going crazzzzzy , Kellogg's corn pops are a no-no on the GFCF diet. I'm trying to dig up my list of store-bought safe foods for you, hopefully can forward it to you this weekend. -BJ in polis, MD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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