Guest guest Posted September 23, 2001 Report Share Posted September 23, 2001 Ruthie wrote: > I am all dressed up for a " do " which is sad by nature, but uplifting > at the same time. > We have donated a room in Yeshaya's old grammar school (the one DH is > chairman of)... it's the room used as a synagogue/place of religious > study. It is in memory of our son Uri who died tragically in a car > crash in January 1996<snip> > Yeshaya, in the meantime, is languishing on Tavya's living room couch > In Jerusalem. He has a rotten cold and has lost his voice, ) Last night at midnight > (2 a.m. his time) I found myself talking him through on the phone, the > technical intricacies of putting on an electric kettle to make himself > a hot drink..something he had never, till then, had occasion to do for > himself!!! Dear me, spoilt brat.>>>>>>>>>>>> Sorry Ruthie I am sat here laughing at the thought of you talking him through making a hot drink. Let me hope that my 3 will not be on the phone to me at midnight asking me how to do it - you must have more patience than me - I would not have been so understanding. What a lovely idea of a room in memory of your son, I hope you do enjoy the ceremeny (SP?) although I am sure you will spend some of the time remembering your son. My friend who died aged 29 leaving two sons about the same age as my two eldest has two things - one is a trophy at school which is presented to a reception pupil who has been " a good friend to others " and a bench in ASDA in York, where she used to work, it bears a sign saying it is in memory of her. She was a wonderful friend to everyone and is still sadly missed 2 years later. Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2001 Report Share Posted September 23, 2001 Sorry Ruthie I am sat here laughing at the thought of you talking him > through making a hot drink. Let me hope that my 3 will not be on the > phone to me at midnight asking me how to do it - you must have more > patience than me - I would not have been so understanding. Well I did feel a bit sympathetic for Yeshaya away from home and feeling so lousy. The last thing I wanted to do was upset him to the extent that he would say " I hate it here, I want to come home. " (As my friend's son Mark has done to her..she is at her wits end what to do with him next.) We are prepared to put up with a bit of settling in problems as he grows up and has to fend for himself for the first time in his life, just so he settles in and is happy there. > What a lovely idea of a room in memory of your son, I hope you do > enjoy the ceremeny (SP?) although I am sure you will spend some of > the time remembering your son. I was absolutely bowled over at the attendance. There must have been at least 300 people there. A lot of the attendees wanted to pay their respects to DH, as chairman of the school, back in 1983 he pulled it back from the brink of closure (we were down to 30 boys then and an entire school yr was missed out as no one wanted to send their boys to it) and turned it into a thriving success. At that time I was very involved with the school too; I used to make the boys school leaving parties in my back garden etc, but as it grew bigger I couldn't cope with the numbers any longer. The beautiful silvery plaque, with text in Hebrew and English, was very moving too. The English quotation, which I chose, was: " Some people fulfil their destiny in seventy years, others in twenty-five. " There were four wonderful and moving speeches, including DH's. Afterwards there was a wonderful reception, and I felt quite a celebrity, and quite a fraud too, as I didn't feel deserving of all the fuss. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2001 Report Share Posted September 23, 2001 How lovely Ruthie. It must be wonderful to have something like this, and only something you can do some years after the event, when your feelings are a little less raw than very soon after his death. Hope Yeshaya is better soon! Hannah a moving ceremony We have donated a room in Yeshaya's old grammar school (the one DH is chairman of)... it's the room used as a synagogue/place of religious study. It is in memory of our son Uri who died tragically in a car crash in January 1996. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2001 Report Share Posted September 23, 2001 on 23/09/01 07:57 PM, ruthie@... at ruthie@... wrote: > The English quotation, which I chose, was: " Some > people fulfil their destiny in seventy years, others in twenty-five. " What a wonderful quote to use to celebrate Uri's life. Jenni x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2001 Report Share Posted September 23, 2001 > > > The English quotation, which I chose, was: " Some > > people fulfil their destiny in seventy years, others in twenty-five. " > > What a wonderful quote to use to celebrate Uri's life. > > Jenni x Thanks . I owe that quote to a Rabbi whose public lecture I go to listen to every week, he's wonderful. He once told us how he once attended the mourning of a 15 yr old girl, immensely brave and talented, who had died after a long and unpleasant illness. At the " shiva " (the 7 days of mourning) no one knew what to say to the grieving parents, until the father said " I'm not sad, she lived her short life in doing good deeds. Some people fulfil their lives in 70 yrs, she fulfilled hers in 15. " I always remembered that as being appropriate to Uri too. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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