Re: Hate to ask this but....

[Guest guest]

Narice,

When things are calm and he's not being too touchy or sensitive, talk to him

about it. He really may not even realize he's doing it. I catch myself being

that way sometimes too. I don't think it's the chemo as much as I just feel bad

and I'm scared and the closest ones are the most convenient and safe to let

loose on. It's not fair, but I don't think it's really unusual. For myself,

when I realize I'm doing it or have done it, I immediately apologize and tell

him I can't promise I won't do it again, but I'll try to be more aware of how

I'm acting, especially when I'm feeling bad.

flipper759@... wrote:

Does anyone find that chemo makes them agitated or argumentative?

Lately I feel like everything I say to Phil is taken the wrong way and

little stuff drives him crazy. I'm trying but sometimes I feel like I'm the

scapegoat for all the stuff the cancer and chemo makes him feel. I am trying to

understand and I know it is hard but well it still hurts.

Now the bigger question what have you done about it?.

Narice

[Guest guest]

Narice, My husband told me that I would be crabby during infusion

days.

Do you think the Phil may be masking anger . Could this be on the

chemo days when he is most reminded of this cancer?

My husband just stayed away from me on my crabby days. LOL Love,

Ingrid

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> Does anyone find that chemo makes them agitated or argumentative?

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> Lately I feel like everything I say to Phil is taken the wrong way

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> little stuff drives him crazy. I'm trying but sometimes I feel

like I'm the

> scapegoat for all the stuff the cancer and chemo makes him feel. I

am trying to

> understand and I know it is hard but well it still hurts.

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> Now the bigger question what have you done about it?.

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> Narice

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[Guest guest]

Oh Marty you are hysterical! Hope you don't feel too nasty!!

Chemo is nasty and even though I can see the suffering at times I really

can't even imagine what you all go through. I try to remember that and most of

the time I succeed but yesterday I just lost my patience with it. Happens to

all of us I guess.

Narice

In a message dated 10/21/2005 2:58:56 AM Eastern Standard Time,

grogclan@... writes:

YEEESSSSS!!!!!!

Marty

On 10/20/2005 5:49:19 PM, colon_cancer_support wrote:

> Does anyone find that chemo makes them agitated or argumentative?

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> Lately I feel like everything I say to Phil is taken the wrong way and

> little stuff drives him crazy. I'm trying but sometimes I feel like I'm

> the

> scapegoat for all the stuff the cancer and chemo makes him feel. I am

> trying to

> understand and I know it is hard but well it still hurts.

>

> Now the bigger question what have you done about it?.

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> Narice

[Guest guest]

Don't worry Cliff if he gets too out of hand I'll use a frying pan LOL

He came home and slept something like 18 hours so there's the answer but

still discussing it with the doctor.

Narice

In a message dated 10/21/2005 9:54:26 AM Eastern Standard Time,

cliffh@... writes:

My opinion is that the chemo is making him feel cruddy. When you

don't feel your best, it is easy to be crabby. Young kids get to be

a real bear if they are tired or don't feel good.

I'd try to put a little distance between the crab and yourself.

Also, don't let him get away with it. ;-)

Miracles happen!

Cliff H.

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> > understand and I know it is hard but well it still hurts.

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> > Now the bigger question what have you done about it?.

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/21/2005 7:59:37 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

jehret@... writes:

I would agree with Ingrid. Our loved ones pick on their closest loved one

when they have issues with themselves. We are closest and most readily

available. I don't know my hubby did it to me and maybe why he would chase

me away shortly after I got to hospital - didn't want me hanging around

seeing him suffer.. I guess. Sure made me feel bad at the time though. I

know he loved me, he just didn't always know how to show it. Narice and

Donelle be patient with them but is okay to tell them You Hurt my feelings

when you talk to me like that. They have to have some outlet and don't even

realize that they are picking on you specifically. God Bless them and you

too. Being a caretaker is the hardest duty in the world. Take care hugs

Jolene

Thanks, Jolene and Ingrid....said with honest sincerity.

Do we have to be patient EVERY day??? LOL (jokingly)

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Jolene and Ingrid....said with honest sincerity.

Do we have to be patient EVERY day??? LOL (jokingly)

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

Why do you want to borrow my frying pan? Guess what we are having for

dinner Donelle?

Crab cakes from Angelina's in Baltimore YUMMY!!!

Don't worry gang we are stuck together like glue! I think it is our lot in

life to drive each other crazy!! LOL

Narice

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[Guest guest]

I would agree with Ingrid. Our loved ones pick on their closest loved one

when they have issues with themselves. We are closest and most readily

available. I don't know my hubby did it to me and maybe why he would chase

me away shortly after I got to hospital - didn't want me hanging around

seeing him suffer.. I guess. Sure made me feel bad at the time though. I

know he loved me, he just didn't always know how to show it. Narice and

Donnelle be patient with them but is okay to tell them You Hurt my feelings

when you talk to me like that. They have to have some outlet and don't even

realize that they are picking on you specifically. God Bless them and you

too. Being a caretaker is the hardest duty in the world. Take care hugs

Jolene

Re: Re: Hate to ask this but....

In a message dated 10/20/2005 9:33:43 PM Eastern Standard Time,

lowenco@... writes:

In honesty I think he is just upset when he does not feel well. All

you can do is over look this. He probably does not even know he is

hurting the one who is closed to him. Try to over look it and don't

argue back. Love, Ingrid

Yes Ma'am...of course, you are absolutely right!!!

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/21/2005 11:58:07 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

flipper759@... writes:

Thanks, Jolene and Ingrid....said with honest sincerity.

Do we have to be patient EVERY day??? LOL (jokingly)

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

Why do you want to borrow my frying pan? Guess what we are having for

dinner Donelle?

Crab cakes from Angelina's in Baltimore YUMMY!!!

Don't worry gang we are stuck together like glue! I think it is our lot in

life to drive each other crazy!! LOL

Narice

Narice, you hang on to your frying pan....I heard it was all dented up and

fits Phil's head perfectly. I need a huge one, b/c Glenn's got a big head!!!

LOL

How are you getting crabcakes from Angelina's??? Lucky dog, lucky dog!!!

Ohhh, enjoy Narice...I know they will be delicious!!!

Donelle

[Guest guest]

Didn't I tell you Phil IS FROM Baltimore His Dad sends them up mail-order?

And I'm from Silver Spring near Priscilla right up the road from Holy Cross

hospital and not too far from Walter Army base.

The crabcakes are like $9.50 EACH though and he sent 12!!!!

We had 6 last night (Dan missed them as he's at school) and we will have the

other 6 tonight.

I sent you (Donelle) the information Bet Mr. Glenn would like some!!

And you Lake and Land Locked Dwellers those dang things you people call

crabcakes are nothing but stuffing balls!!! You got to have lots of what we

call

" lump meat. "

If you want something good call 1- 800- CRABCAKE (272-2225)

or go to _http://www.crabcake.com/ordering_info.html_

(http://www.crabcake.com/ordering_info.html)

Narice

Narice, you hang on to your frying pan....I heard it was all dented up and

fits Phil's head perfectly. I need a huge one, b/c Glenn's got a big

head!!!

LOL

How are you getting crabcakes from Angelina's??? Lucky dog, lucky dog!!!

Ohhh, enjoy Narice...I know they will be delicious!!!

Donelle

[Guest guest]

I went to a Sukkot dinner on Monday night (a Jewish holiday that celebrates,

among other things, the harvest). It was kosher of course but you have no

idea how delicious kosher can be. Someone used the Barefoot Contessa's

crabcake recipe but substituted imitation crabmeat (which is a fish and alot

less

expensive). They were so good.

patricia

[Guest guest]

My opinion is that the chemo is making him feel cruddy. When you

don't feel your best, it is easy to be crabby. Young kids get to be

a real bear if they are tired or don't feel good.

I'd try to put a little distance between the crab and yourself.

Also, don't let him get away with it. ;-)

Miracles happen!

Cliff H.

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> > Does anyone find that chemo makes them agitated or argumentative?

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> > Lately I feel like everything I say to Phil is taken the wrong

way

> and

> > little stuff drives him crazy. I'm trying but sometimes I feel

> like I'm the

> > scapegoat for all the stuff the cancer and chemo makes him feel.

I

> am trying to

> > understand and I know it is hard but well it still hurts.

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> > Now the bigger question what have you done about it?.

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> > Narice

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/21/2005 2:54:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

flipper759@... writes:

I usually do that too but every once in a while I pull out my frying pan

right Donelle?

Narice

Wonder if Marty's wife, Ellen, needs one too!!?? LOL

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

Ingrid:

I have all of her cookbooks here. I will look it up and send it to you soon.

Love,

In a message dated 10/21/2005 4:23:35 PM Pacific Standard Time,

lowenco@... writes:

, I want, need the recipe for that!! PLEEEEEEEEEEEEZE!!!!!

Ingrid

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> I went to a Sukkot dinner on Monday night (a Jewish holiday that

celebrates,

> among other things, the harvest). It was kosher of course but you

have no

> idea how delicious kosher can be. Someone used the Barefoot

Contessa's

> crabcake recipe but substituted imitation crabmeat (which is a

fish and alot less

> expensive). They were so good.

> patricia

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/21/2005 7:41:49 PM Eastern Standard Time,

flipper759@... writes:

Nah Alaskan crab legs are good but they aren't like blue crabs

O.K. Narice....rub it in...how were the Chesapeake Bay Blue Crabcakes?? LOL

Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

, I want, need the recipe for that!! PLEEEEEEEEEEEEZE!!!!!

Ingrid

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> I went to a Sukkot dinner on Monday night (a Jewish holiday that

celebrates,

> among other things, the harvest). It was kosher of course but you

have no

> idea how delicious kosher can be. Someone used the Barefoot

Contessa's

> crabcake recipe but substituted imitation crabmeat (which is a

fish and alot less

> expensive). They were so good.

> patricia

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[Guest guest]

Thank you , I am Hoping and Praying that you feel well real

soon. Ingrid

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> > I went to a Sukkot dinner on Monday night (a Jewish holiday

that

> celebrates,

> > among other things, the harvest). It was kosher of course but

you

> have no

> > idea how delicious kosher can be. Someone used the Barefoot

> Contessa's

> > crabcake recipe but substituted imitation crabmeat (which is a

> fish and alot less

> > expensive). They were so good.

> > patricia

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[Guest guest]

My friends and I were so disappointed when we went to this new restaurant in

town called the Blue Crab. Went there hoping to get some good crab legs and

the closest thing to crab they had were crab cakes. A bit pricey too. Is

just a bar really. Have to huge long bars with TVs etc. A GI hang out with

pool tables. We won't go there again. Jolene

Re: Re: Hate to ask this but....

sniff sniff , I am not land locked I am completely surround by water (

Michigan here ) however I havent had any crabcakes since I was 17yrs old

and

that was in Alabama were my Cajun Aunt made them from scratch , we also had

a HUGE crab boil too .

Dang now I am hungry and Joe dont like seafood

Deb

flipper759@... wrote:

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