Guest guest Posted September 25, 2001 Report Share Posted September 25, 2001 Oh Karina *HUG* If there is anything positive about this...it is that you will have yourself checked more regularly and rigorously than the rest of us who think ourselves immortal. If you do (God forbid) develop the very beginnings of this disease, it will hopefully be detected and checked in its infancy. And even if it isn't...I know a lot of happy healthy people walking around today who had breast cancer. Dov's mother did, many years ago. She still has to be checked out every year, and she had a mastectomy on one side (I think only one side) but she's alive, well, free of the disease, and she wasn't one who suspected it might be there. I have at least two other friends who have been free of cancer for many years now... enough years to feel hopeful. You have a LOT going for you, don't let it get you down. Ruthie > Apologies if this comes through twice - it crashed half-way through. > > I went to the family history clinic today (asked to be referred after > my aunt got breast cancer for the 2nd time and died), and to my > surprise and horror they have decided that my family probably has a > breast cancer gene. > > I didn't suspect this at all - they always say it is so rare - but > basically it means I have a 25% chance of having the gene (and if my > mother has it, my chances increase to 50%). > > Those who carry the gene have a 50-80% chance of developing the > disease - which is just SO high. > > I'm really scared now. > I am healthy and happy and woke up this morning worrying about what > to do with my job and other silly matters, and now I am suddenly > sitting here with a 1/5 chance of contracting a deadly disease. > I don't worry about dying, we all will at some point, but I don't > want my babes to grow up without their mummy. > > Oh God. I'm crying again now. So sorry. > > Karina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2001 Report Share Posted September 25, 2001 I'm really scared now. > I am healthy and happy and woke up this morning worrying about what > to do with my job and other silly matters, and now I am suddenly > sitting here with a 1/5 chance of contracting a deadly disease. > Karina ((((((((((((more hugs Karina)))))))) There is nothing I can say that will reassure you or stop you feeling bad, but what you have just said means that you have 4/5 change of *not* contracting it... I hope this means you will get lots of screening, etc. Remember that people who do get cancer have good survival rates after treatment, I have a close friend and a SIL who are very much alive and living normal lives after cancer treatment. I think all of us mums want to live to see our children grow up - so you are not alone in your fears... lots of love Barbara (wearing my pink ribbon) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2001 Report Share Posted September 26, 2001 Karin, first of all, big hugs. Secondly you say one in five chance of getting breast cancer, that means a four in five chance of not getting it. Also if your doctors are aware of the possibility they will screen you much more than if they were not aware of it. If they catch it early enough then the chances of it being cured are very good. Most people die from cancer because they don't get symptoms checked out until it is too late. I know it is easy for me to say but just keep thinking of the more positive aspects of this news. ((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))) Francesca ((((((((((9 I'm scared > Apologies if this comes through twice - it crashed half-way through. > > I went to the family history clinic today (asked to be referred after > my aunt got breast cancer for the 2nd time and died), and to my > surprise and horror they have decided that my family probably has a > breast cancer gene. > > I didn't suspect this at all - they always say it is so rare - but > basically it means I have a 25% chance of having the gene (and if my > mother has it, my chances increase to 50%). > > Those who carry the gene have a 50-80% chance of developing the > disease - which is just SO high. > > I'm really scared now. > I am healthy and happy and woke up this morning worrying about what > to do with my job and other silly matters, and now I am suddenly > sitting here with a 1/5 chance of contracting a deadly disease. > I don't worry about dying, we all will at some point, but I don't > want my babes to grow up without their mummy. > > Oh God. I'm crying again now. So sorry. > > Karina > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2001 Report Share Posted September 26, 2001 Karina (((((((((hugs)))))))) - I don't have much to say that everyone else hasn't said already, except that if you know of the risk, you will check for it more often and then if you *do* get it, you have an excellent chance of it being cured, because you'll have caught it early. Thinking of you, Vicki Portman http://www.plushpants.co.uk I'm scared > Apologies if this comes through twice - it crashed half-way through. > > I went to the family history clinic today (asked to be referred after > my aunt got breast cancer for the 2nd time and died), and to my > surprise and horror they have decided that my family probably has a > breast cancer gene. > > I didn't suspect this at all - they always say it is so rare - but > basically it means I have a 25% chance of having the gene (and if my > mother has it, my chances increase to 50%). > > Those who carry the gene have a 50-80% chance of developing the > disease - which is just SO high. > > I'm really scared now. > I am healthy and happy and woke up this morning worrying about what > to do with my job and other silly matters, and now I am suddenly > sitting here with a 1/5 chance of contracting a deadly disease. > I don't worry about dying, we all will at some point, but I don't > want my babes to grow up without their mummy. > > Oh God. I'm crying again now. So sorry. > > Karina > > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2001 Report Share Posted September 26, 2001 Hugs Karina Does the place where you have your tests done have a support nurse or counsellor? I'm sure that they will have had many others in their care who have had to come to terms with news like this and might be able to help you sort out how you feel. They would be someone you could be very open about your fears with when you might not want to say some of the things to people who are close to you who are also trying to understand what it means. Liz Goudie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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