Re: mothers! was MIL/favouritism (sorry v long)

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 03/09/2001 11:56:39 GMT Daylight Time,

csl@... writes:

> After thinking it thru I'm not sure if we have a relationship worth

> redeeming if she is not willing to see me as an adult in my own right

> with my own valid opinions and lifestyle.

> Am I being unreasonable?

> sorry this has been so long - I'm just beginning to try and put my

> thoughts in order after a few intense and stressful months

>

>

You are quite right, sometimes things are best left alone. Like you, I dont

think my DH can ever have a relationship with his mother, theres just too

much to say, too much hurt over the years. She really ended any love that DH

may have had for her, when she said that I wasnt good enough for her son!!

Heres a list of the things she has doe to her son, that he has never once

brought up in an arguement:-

1. When DH was 14, she began having affairs, causing DH's Dad a great deal of

distres,, which DH had to witness. She flaunted her relationships, even

bringing the men home!

2. During the divorce of my DH's m & d, she assured my DH that he would be

living with her. When in court, she turned round (my DH was there!), and

said " I dont want him, you have him! "

3. She went off and got married, invited all her friends and family, except

my DH (her son!!)

She now has the audacity to be upset because her picture is not in our sons

album, despite never bothering to visit!

How mean and nasty can people be? The weird thing is, these nasty people

think they are in the right, and think us nice people are the nasty ones!!

AAAHHHHH....... thats all I have to say!

[Guest guest]

I was right, your MIL *does* sound like a woman with a lot of

problems! (that's being polite).

Ruthie

You are quite right, sometimes things are best left alone. Like

you, I dont

> think my DH can ever have a relationship with his mother, theres

just too

> much to say, too much hurt over the years. She really ended any

love that DH

> may have had for her, when she said that I wasnt good enough for her

son!!

>

> Heres a list of the things she has doe to her son, that he has never

once

> brought up in an arguement:-

>

> 1. When DH was 14, she began having affairs, causing DH's Dad a

great deal of

> distres,, which DH had to witness. She flaunted her relationships,

even

> bringing the men home!

>

> 2. During the divorce of my DH's m & d, she assured my DH that he

would be

> living with her. When in court, she turned round (my DH was

there!), and

> said " I dont want him, you have him! "

>

> 3. She went off and got married, invited all her friends and

family, except

> my DH (her son!!)

>

> She now has the audacity to be upset because her picture is not in

our sons

> album, despite never bothering to visit!

>

> How mean and nasty can people be? The weird thing is, these nasty

people

> think they are in the right, and think us nice people are the nasty

ones!!

>

> AAAHHHHH....... thats all I have to say!

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I was right, your MIL *does* sound like a woman with a lot of

problems! (that's being polite).

Ruthie

You are quite right, sometimes things are best left alone. Like

you, I dont

> think my DH can ever have a relationship with his mother, theres

just too

> much to say, too much hurt over the years. She really ended any

love that DH

> may have had for her, when she said that I wasnt good enough for her

son!!

>

> Heres a list of the things she has doe to her son, that he has never

once

> brought up in an arguement:-

>

> 1. When DH was 14, she began having affairs, causing DH's Dad a

great deal of

> distres,, which DH had to witness. She flaunted her relationships,

even

> bringing the men home!

>

> 2. During the divorce of my DH's m & d, she assured my DH that he

would be

> living with her. When in court, she turned round (my DH was

there!), and

> said " I dont want him, you have him! "

>

> 3. She went off and got married, invited all her friends and

family, except

> my DH (her son!!)

>

> She now has the audacity to be upset because her picture is not in

our sons

> album, despite never bothering to visit!

>

> How mean and nasty can people be? The weird thing is, these nasty

people

> think they are in the right, and think us nice people are the nasty

ones!!

>

> AAAHHHHH....... thats all I have to say!

>

>

>

>

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