Shutdown

[Guest guest]

> Donna talks about a second reason for this in " Exposure

> Anxiety " ...says that the more she felt herself drawn toward someone

> (including family), the more she felt the need to draw a curtain

> between them and her--because exposing her feelings makes her feel

> unsafe. So, the people she cared most for were the ones she could

> show the least affection for...because feeling ANYTHING means

> connecting with self, and she had no real sense of self.

>

You know there is something that I have noticed about Putter that relates to

this statement. When Putter does look at me, he is much more strongly there

than any of my other children. When he lets you make eye contact with him,

it is almost impossible to quit looking. So much more of him seems to be

present in his eyes than in anyone else that I know. Perhaps this is why he

risks it so seldomly? Has anyone else ever noticed this?

Sall

[Guest guest]

When he lets you make eye contact with him,

> it is almost impossible to quit looking. So much more of him

seems to be

> present in his eyes than in anyone else that I know. Perhaps this

is why he

> risks it so seldomly? Has anyone else ever noticed this?

>

> Salli

Oh YES! jenna is like this too...

she does have pretty good eye contact,

when she wants too, but sometimes, she will

come up to me, right in my face and just look

into my eyes, and its like she's trying to tell

me things with her eyes...she will do this for

minutes at a time, and sometimes, she will just

keep looking and then give me the biggest smile

you've ever seen...It makes my heart stop!

nancy who longs for those moments....