Re: OT - family denial

[Guest guest]

...but I have found that kids and the elderly

> are more compassionate with things like this as they ahve no hidden

> agenda.

----wow, good point. Unfortunately, the family members in question

are extremely materialistic/status conscious types. I have found

these types of people to have the hardest time with believing dental

mercury could poison you. I cannot even mention mercury anymore

without this person responding in absolute disgust. The irony of the

whole situation is I have a father with a chemistry background who

gets the whole mercury is bad (and that includes dental amalgams) yet

doesn't get it at the same time. The belief is that once you remove

the amalgams you're cured...or should be.

Thanks for your support, it helps.

Val

[Guest guest]

Sorry Val ,

I have had a similar experience.. Everyone had made their

diagnoses back in the 70s They went with the psychiatric

label and indeed it was purely a label.They showed no

concern for the affects it had on my life. LIke they could not

recognise that I felt like death. I was not making it up and

I could not control it. THey gave no emotional support.. I

was on my own ..

Just try and remember that you are not the illness. If it is

like my experience , people see what they want to see > I

had to go into denial for a few years as for the first 10

years I had no diagnoses at all. It was easier to let them

think what they wanted rather than have to fight.

.. DO not do the denial thing to yourself. Accept you are

very courageous to be doing what you can for yourself. I know

it is very hard to fight when so ill . I have thought of leaving

my family, but I need some of their financial support and I

do deserve that. I stick to the younger folks who do not

compare me so much with the old me. My parents were success

driven and I did not meet their standards. I felt like I

wanted to die and they were still suggesting I needed to

try working in order to get my mind off of things.. YEECHS!!!

Setting time limits is good. And making some connections to

people who are in a similar predicament. Have you tried any

support groups for people with your diagnoses , like

chronic fatigue syndrome. fibro.?? You do not have to go along

with what they may beleive. But maybe you may meet someone

of like minds and that can keep you going , beyond your

needs for family support.

And just to put things in perspective. MY parents are now 87 and

91 and both have had seperate parrallel health problems I have

manifested , I am finding out what to do about it and have

some hope. THey will get progressively worse because they are

so close minded.. And so it goes eh??

And also remember how things go.. in a few years from now

our eccentric lifestyle of carrying around our supplements

will be all the vogue !!!

nanci