Re: What is your empathy quotient?

[Guest guest]

I think my score was a 67? When I was younger, I wanted to save the

world, hence the major in social work.

Maggie

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[Guest guest]

22 :-|

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[Guest guest]

>

> I got a 45.. I thought I'd be lower, as I get older, I seem to get

> more blunt and cynical.

>

But true empathy means understanding how people work, NOT assuming that they

will do thiings that they will not do. That perhaps is the error in the

whole test and the error that people make when they assume that empathy is

sympathy. It ain't. Sympathy is weaker and feebler and not worth a whole

lot really. Empathy is truly understanding where someone is coming from,

the good AND the bad, and being able to predict with some reliabilty and

warmth and understanding what people want and need.

You can be fairly cynical, i.e., have low expectations of your fellow man,

based on experience, but still be quite empathetic.

Surely the best counsellors would function that way?

Salli

[Guest guest]

> >

>

> But true empathy means understanding how people work, NOT assuming

that they

> will do thiings that they will not do. That perhaps is the error

in the

> whole test and the error that people make when they assume that

empathy is

> sympathy. It ain't. Sympathy is weaker and feebler and not worth

a whole

> lot really. Empathy is truly understanding where someone is coming

from,

> the good AND the bad, and being able to predict with some

reliabilty and

> warmth and understanding what people want and need.

>

> You can be fairly cynical, i.e., have low expectations of your

fellow man,

> based on experience, but still be quite empathetic.

>

> Surely the best counsellors would function that way?

>

> Salli

True Salli, I suppose I can empathize, meaning I understand how they

feel..and yet not really care? LOL

Kerri