Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 She is soooo young yet! The fact that she wants to play with other kids or that she is playing with any child is great! Greggory was alot like that at 3 yrs old. ALOT! In fact he really couldn't answer any question at that age. The regular preschool may be hard for her to fit in but I think she will get better at it. The exposure for her will start to show its rewards. But if you think she needs more speech I would press the issue with her IEP team. Hang in there. Jacquie H Second guessing I hate this. 's old classroom wasn't right for her. The teacher was great but she was mimicing the other kids. She was trying to interact and the boys were getting aggressive with her. I had to move her I had no choice. But I don't think the class she's in is right either. When I dropped her off half her class crowded around me peppering me with comments... " I have spiderman shoes " , " my shoes light up " , " Watch me " , " look how far I can kick " ... I never realized how very far behind she is until now. And in the background there she is... my little miricle child. With her diaper hanging out... trying to play a puzzle with another girl but getting the brush off, trying so hard to fit in but how can she with that big sign DIFFERENT hanging over her head in bright lights. Two more weeks with no speech and even then only an hour a week. She needs someone every day. Just putting her in a class with typical kids is not enough. I went to pick her up and what's she doing? Going down the same slide that she goes on every day over and over. She is alone. I ask about her day, I get the big NR. (No response). We go home I try to change her diaper. She gets upset and screams no no no. She starts throwing herself around. She's getting too big I can't hold her the way I use to. I ask her if she wants underwear she says yes. We have friends over, he is wonderful () and a little older than she is. Very verbal and plays well. They have fun. He goes home a couple hours later. She is still dry. We play for another hour. She is still dry. I have her sit on the potty. Nothing. She flushes and then tries to stick her head in the potty so she can watch the water spin. (I pray she doesn't do THAT at school). She gets the once upon a potty tape and book. I set things up. She pees on the couch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 , It sounds like you are an incredible advocate for . She is lucky to have you. I agree with Jacquie that you may want to give it a bit longer. At my daycares, adjustment periods could take anywhere from 2 weeks to three months, and these are relatively NT kids. One child cried and cried all day long every day for three months. He was absolutely convinced that his mother would not pick him up again. But he did adjust, and he is happy and playful. Extra supports may be needed too, such as an aide and peer buddy. I have confidence, though, that you will figure it all out. Have fun tonight! Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 I agree with Maggie. LOL (we must be thinking on the same wave length, Maggie) Maybe an aide to help her stay on task and interact or do whatever would be a good thing for her to help her adjust. Jacquie H Re: Second guessing , It sounds like you are an incredible advocate for . She is lucky to have you. I agree with Jacquie that you may want to give it a bit longer. At my daycares, adjustment periods could take anywhere from 2 weeks to three months, and these are relatively NT kids. One child cried and cried all day long every day for three months. He was absolutely convinced that his mother would not pick him up again. But he did adjust, and he is happy and playful. Extra supports may be needed too, such as an aide and peer buddy. I have confidence, though, that you will figure it all out. Have fun tonight! Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2003 Report Share Posted April 23, 2003 ----- Original Message ----- > But I don't think the class she's in is right either. When I dropped her off > half her class crowded around me peppering me with comments... " I have > spiderman shoes " , " my shoes light up " , " Watch me " , " look how far I can > kick " ... I never realized how very far behind she is until now. Yes, these are difficult moments ... > > And in the background there she is... my little miricle child. With her > diaper hanging out... trying to play a puzzle with another girl but getting > the brush off, trying so hard to fit in but how can she with that big sign > DIFFERENT hanging over her head in bright lights. Two more weeks with no > speech and even then only an hour a week. She needs someone every day. Just > putting her in a class with typical kids is not enough. Well you know, my grade school experience was like this too. I was always sort of an outcast and felt like I had a big sign that said DIFFERENT over my head. I imagine this is hard to observe as a parent. Sometimes I think we as parents fear that others will not see the " miracle " child that we see, not appreciate them for who they are. But, you love and accept her, and *everyone* on this list loves and accepts her, and that's a lot of people to love and support a child. > I went to pick her up and what's she doing? Going down the same slide that > she goes on every day over and over. She is alone. I ask about her day, I > get the big NR. (No response). We go home I try to change her diaper. She > gets upset and screams no no no. She starts throwing herself around. She's > getting too big I can't hold her the way I use to. Oh yes, please SOMEONE tell me how to handle this gracefully? I am fighting the same battle. Right now I know n has a dirty diaper, but I don't want to fight the life and death struggle it will take to change him. He's too big to wrestle! Feeling your pain ... (SAHM in GA) MSN elizabethloht@... n 33, mo, no formal dx Phoebe, 10 wks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 Oh yes, please SOMEONE tell me how to handle this gracefully? I am fighting the same battle. Right now I know n has a dirty diaper, but I don't want to fight the life and death struggle it will take to change him. He's too big to wrestle! Gracefully? LOL I have no idea how to do that. I still have to wrestle Alec down at 60 lbs! ~sigh~ Jacquie H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2003 Report Share Posted April 24, 2003 > > I'm going out for dinner with some of " the girls " one of whose husband is a > new DAN dr in the area that everyone is raving over. They also have an > autistic child. > Have fun! Knowing a DAN Dr. could be good! I have other friends but no one every understands me like you girls do. I > honestly don't know how I could have made it this far without you all. Awww, you'll make us all blush! :-) > > {{Everyone}} Back at cha!! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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