Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting Candidates

[Guest guest]

Sorry, as stupid as Jeff has been at times I don't think he is quite as bad as

Lou.

Jacquie H

Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting Candidates

> Oh goody! Can I submit my sister's ex?? PLEASE??? I think he and Lou

> sound like twins.

>

Please. No one else has responded to this interesting idea. I know that BJ

and probably have a couple of good candidates. Others surely do too!

Remember, boyfriends do count too.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> Sorry, as stupid as Jeff has been at times I don't think he is quite as

bad as Lou.

>

And he is not an EX! Now we could start up another award for Worst Husband.

However, I will leave running that award to someone else.

Salli

[Guest guest]

LOL....but he was an exboyfriend! I have a terrible cold today. I think it is

affecting what little brainpower I have left. ugh.

Jacquie H

Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting

Candidates

> Sorry, as stupid as Jeff has been at times I don't think he is quite as

bad as Lou.

>

And he is not an EX! Now we could start up another award for Worst Husband.

However, I will leave running that award to someone else.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Ex-boyfriends count???

Hmmmm.......

Then again, that is one story I am not sure I am up for rehashing....This is

the crap that give Jerry Springer topics for shows.

Georga

Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting

Candidates

> > Oh goody! Can I submit my sister's ex?? PLEASE??? I think he and Lou

> > sound like twins.

> >

>

> Please. No one else has responded to this interesting idea. I know that

BJ

> and probably have a couple of good candidates. Others surely do

too!

>

> Remember, boyfriends do count too.

>

> Salli

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well, that is all that I have going on...now...just general stupid man

things.

Well, some of them are general stupid things but that is a different

story and most of it doesn't bother me anymore because it is just his

personality, there are extinuating circumstances, and I am used to it all.

LOL! I really wouldn't trade my husband in on another model. (Yes, Missy,

even if I was being offered Jeff Corwin)

My ex was a real winner. LOL!

7 years of my life down the toliet.

I met this guy when I was 15, was with him until I was 21. We were supposed

to get married. Manipulitive, abusive pathalogical liar. It was bad. It

got to the point that I let everything he said go through one ear and out

the other. He lied to me from day one about little things like the first

time he had sex (said he was 9, told me a couple years later that he lied

about it where I would be impressed. Explain that logic please). He used

to pull crap like coming over with some of his moms lipstick on him and her

perfume to see how I would react if I thought he had been with someone else.

At one point he was supposed to have had a vas done where he knew if I got

pregnant it wasn't his and that I was cheating on him. At the end of

everything after it got really bad he couldn't even have the balls to break

up with me like a freaking normal person. He had to concoct some off the

wall plot. His sister picked me up from work, told me he was in the

hospital. My friend and I called every hospital in the area and he wasn't

there (he told me his mom told them not to release any info. Ton of

bullshit because a mutal friend of ours had been sitting at the table with

him at the time he was supposed to have been in the hospital). He told me

that he had AIDS and it was all my fault because I had been screwing around

on him (well, I had been, sort of. It was with and, honestly, the way

that I seen it, obviously my ex didn't see it this way, the relationship was

already over) and all this other crap. He spent two weeks stalking me after

that. At one point through all this he had even held a gun to my head and

threatened to kill me.

Such a charming man, huh?

I really don't think he would have been such an asshole if he had had the

common sense to cut the apron strings. He had his mom shoved so far up his

ass it wasn't funny. She was really a manipulitive bitch. She encouraged a

lot of this horrible behaviour from him and told him it was ok to act like

that.

I found out a few years later that his nephew () shot his own father

and was in juvinile detention and that the next day his sister (s mom)

was picked up and in prison for selling cocain. I really seen this coming

with . No one paid any mind to him, he was screaming for attention, he

was overweight because the only thing he could control was food (eating

disorder), there was a lot of domestic violence in his house, a lot of drug

use, ect.

That entire family is a bunch of loons.

Really glad that I didn't hang around to find out what was going to happen

next.

Georga

Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting

Candidates

>

> > Sorry, as stupid as Jeff has been at times I don't think he is

> quite as bad as Lou. >

>

> LOL...same here. Some of the horror stories I've read here make me

> incredibly grateful to only have the occasional garden variety male-

> type jerkiness going on...

>

> Raena (occasional female-type jerk)

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

OMG Georga. I think your ex and Lou are the best candidates for this

award. Wow.

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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De: Jor'gha HaQ

Enviado el: Jueves, 24 de Abril de 2003 07:19 p.m.

Para: parenting_autism

Asunto: Re: Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now

Accepting Candidates

Well, that is all that I have going on...now...just general stupid man

things.

Well, some of them are general stupid things but that is a

different

story and most of it doesn't bother me anymore because it is just his

personality, there are extinuating circumstances, and I am used to it

all.

LOL! I really wouldn't trade my husband in on another model. (Yes,

Missy,

even if I was being offered Jeff Corwin)

My ex was a real winner. LOL!

7 years of my life down the toliet.

I met this guy when I was 15, was with him until I was 21. We were

supposed

to get married. Manipulitive, abusive pathalogical liar. It was bad.

It

got to the point that I let everything he said go through one ear and

out

the other. He lied to me from day one about little things like the

first

time he had sex (said he was 9, told me a couple years later that he

lied

about it where I would be impressed. Explain that logic please). He

used

to pull crap like coming over with some of his moms lipstick on him and

her

perfume to see how I would react if I thought he had been with someone

else.

At one point he was supposed to have had a vas done where he knew if I

got

pregnant it wasn't his and that I was cheating on him. At the end of

everything after it got really bad he couldn't even have the balls to

break

up with me like a freaking normal person. He had to concoct some off

the

wall plot. His sister picked me up from work, told me he was in the

hospital. My friend and I called every hospital in the area and he

wasn't

there (he told me his mom told them not to release any info. Ton of

bullshit because a mutal friend of ours had been sitting at the table

with

him at the time he was supposed to have been in the hospital). He told

me

that he had AIDS and it was all my fault because I had been screwing

around

on him (well, I had been, sort of. It was with and, honestly, the

way

that I seen it, obviously my ex didn't see it this way, the relationship

was

already over) and all this other crap. He spent two weeks stalking me

after

that. At one point through all this he had even held a gun to my head

and

threatened to kill me.

Such a charming man, huh?

I really don't think he would have been such an asshole if he had had

the

common sense to cut the apron strings. He had his mom shoved so far up

his

ass it wasn't funny. She was really a manipulitive bitch. She

encouraged a

lot of this horrible behaviour from him and told him it was ok to act

like

that.

I found out a few years later that his nephew () shot his own

father

and was in juvinile detention and that the next day his sister (s

mom)

was picked up and in prison for selling cocain. I really seen this

coming

with . No one paid any mind to him, he was screaming for

attention, he

was overweight because the only thing he could control was food (eating

disorder), there was a lot of domestic violence in his house, a lot of

drug

use, ect.

That entire family is a bunch of loons.

Really glad that I didn't hang around to find out what was going to

happen

next.

Georga

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Candidates

>

> > Sorry, as stupid as Jeff has been at times I don't think he is

> quite as bad as Lou. >

>

> LOL...same here. Some of the horror stories I've read here make me

> incredibly grateful to only have the occasional garden variety male-

> type jerkiness going on...

>

> Raena (occasional female-type jerk)

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Tina's ex, who thought a burned out house was a good

enough place to visit with his son and who continually

threatens to give up his parental rights.

Salli's ex, of course.

Oh, and a guy from my hometown, whose nickname was

'Diamond Eddy' because he divorced and married 3 women

in one year.

Hmm, I'll give it some more thought. Thankfully, I

haven't any personal experience in this area.

Tuna

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, 4, NT

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[Guest guest]

This is a good candidate too. I am feeling pretty lucky now.

Cecilia from Perú, mom to Dessirée (05/07/99)

Lovely husband

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Enviado el: Jueves, 24 de Abril de 2003 06:47 p.m.

Para: parenting_autism

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Candidates

oh oh me me...My sister's ex is a real winner.....

Stayed out drinking all weekend and then came home and told my sister

that he had hit a 7 yr old girl on her bike and that he had spend the

weekend sitting with the parents at the hospital while they waited to

see if their daughter would live.........

10 minutes before his son's 5th birthday, he tells my sister that he was

walking to the store to get something (1/2 block) and doesn't come back

until very late...Son cries during party....Ex tells my sister that she

is crazy, son didn't even notice that I was gone (Ex thought all the

company had left, I was in the bathroom and heard the whole thing...told

my sister that he started feeling ill walking to the store so he decided

not to come back so the guests wouldn't get ill)

Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting

Candidates

> Oh goody! Can I submit my sister's ex?? PLEASE??? I think he and Lou

> sound like twins.

>

Please. No one else has responded to this interesting idea. I know

that BJ

and probably have a couple of good candidates. Others surely do

too!

Remember, boyfriends do count too.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Qualifying question. Does the perpetrator still qualify if they have

exhibited some reform (maintained for five or more years) and growth

after an extensive period of reprehensible behavior?

[Guest guest]

>>Qualifying question. Does the perpetrator still qualify if they have

exhibited some reform (maintained for five or more years) and growth

after an extensive period of reprehensible behavior?<<

Wow I don't know but I would love to heard about such a person.

Warm Regards

& ASD 11/25/00 in Maine

Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now Accepting

Candidates

Qualifying question. Does the perpetrator still qualify if they have

exhibited some reform (maintained for five or more years) and growth

after an extensive period of reprehensible behavior?

[Guest guest]

I'll join your husband in kicking his ass! I'm sorry you went through

all that.

Maggie

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[Guest guest]

Wow Tina, he sounds like a real jerk!! Now that they are divorced, does he see

the children or pay support? Some people I will never understand but that is

just like My sister's ex, nothing has ever been his fault. Someone caused it to

happen to him. Too bad My nephew has learned that crap. He stood up and swore at

school (he is 12)... " Well if they hadn't pissed me off, I wouldn't have had to

do it " Nice

>>Heexpected me to bail him out because he'd " found God. " yeah right.<< Didn't

know God was lost LOL. I hate when people think that excuses everything!!

Warm Regards

& ASD 11/25/00 in Maine

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Candidates

> oh oh me me...My sister's ex is a real winner.....

>

> Stayed out drinking all weekend and then came home and told my

sister that he had hit a 7 yr old girl on her bike and that he had

spend the weekend sitting with the parents at the hospital while they

waited to see if their daughter would live.........

>

That's pretty damned bad. I don't know if I can top it or not.

My sister's ex has yet to acknowledge his youngest son's birthday. He

turned 15 this March. He doesn't deny paternity he just doesn't

acknowledge the child exists because he " doesn't like him. "

Out of the 15 years they were married he worked a total of 7. He had

so much time off without pay that they couldn't afford to pay the

house payment. What does he do? He decides he wants to be a body

builder and buys lots of protein drinks from the health food store

(read: outrageously expensive) with his credit card. My sister is

counting every penny trying to keep the house and he takes the credit

card and goes and buys himself steak dinners at a restaurant to help

him " bulk up " .

Sis is working a full-time job and going to school. They can't afford

a sitter but she can't leave the kids with him because she would come

home after 8 hours of work and the kids would still have the same

diaper on! When they got older and didn't take bottles he would fix

food for himself but not them. Sis would leave a bowl of cereal for

each of them on the counter and 3 small glasses of milk so they could

fix their own breakfast. He wouldn't even pour the milk for them.

After almost 12 years of this crap, she started working 3 jobs to buy

a new house. For 2 1/2 years they lived with my parents while she did

this. He worked 4 months during that time. She got the mortgage in

her name alone and told him he wasn't moving in with her and the

kids. He tried to choke her to death. She had bruises all over her

neck. He got thrown in jail. He called me collect and told me it was

her fault. She cheated him out of a house he worked so hard for. He

expected me to bail him out because he'd " found God. " yeah right.

When the divorce was final she ended up with a $4000 credit card

bill. He filled out the form and forged her name. She had no idea he

had the card at all. The judge told her that since they were married

at the time she was finacially responsible.

And the reason I think he sounds like Lou is because he honestly

doesn't understand why he got thrown in jail. It's not his fault. All

the money problems aren't his fault either. He needed the satellite,

the shopsmith, the 63 Mustang, etc. etc. etc.... After all,

they " gave " him a credit card. They shouldn't have done that if he

couldn't afford to make the payments.

Tina

[Guest guest]

What a nightmare!!

I am so glad you both got out of those destructive relationsships. It

certianly shows your strenght!

I will sit quietly and not complain about my dh, and his annoying

habits..at least for a few days.

Libby

> LMAO!

> And remember this is the short version. LOL! The entire family is

full of

> nutjobs.

>

> Leggs was talking about how her ex stole from boxcars...my ex broke

into his

> uncles house next door while they were on vacation and stole their

VCRs and

> some other stuff because he was pissed off that his uncle was

holding up the

> inheratance on the property that he was supposed to get from his

grandmother

> when she died. I still don't know if that has been settled. He

wanted the

> house and land for whatever reason when he was given a huge chunk

of the

> land and he never did anything with it. I still don't understand

what all

> that was about.

>

> Oh, other things...guy was a total control freak. One example, when

I was

> living with him he did something to the phone where you needed a

special

> chip to use it so I could never use the phone. Dinner had to be on

the

> table when he got home from work, didn't matter when he got home.

>

> This part is good too. You will get a laugh out of this (and not

one of

> those good laughs either. I am talking about the kind that you

reserve for

> the pathetic sorts you see on Springer). The guy got involved with

the

> local satanic cult that was in the area. That is a story in its

own right.

>

> Then there was the verbal abuse. That part, I look back on now and

I wonder

> why I put up with that. It was bad. There was a lot of damage done

there.

>

> I won't even get into the verbal abuse that I put up with from his

mother.

>

> Every so often I wonder if he ever got married or if he found a

girlfriend

> that will put up with his crap and that of his demented family

>

> Georga

> Re: Re: Worst Ex-Husband Award Is Now

Accepting

> Candidates

>

>

> > In a message dated 4/24/03 8:20:47 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> > jorghahaq@c... writes:

> >

> > > He spent two weeks stalking me after that. At one point

through all

> this he

> > > had even held a gun to my head and threatened to kill me.

> >

> > I don't know girls we may have a new winner over Lou.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

, I have decided that it is just that we were such good people

that we could not believe that someone would intentionally make us

unhappy and be happy about how that made THEM feel. These guys were

users who we enabled by trying to make things right for them. The

only thing that makes them happy is to make someone else dependent on

them and then make their life a living hell. It is an ego boost for

them. You ARE better off alone with the girls, even if it is a

financial hardship and emotionally taxing. We know it could be a LOT

worse, because we have been there. Thank God my ex and I never had

any kids! It took real courage for you to leave, but I will bet you

did it more for the girls than for yourself, didn't you?

About trusting someone new: it does take a while, but there are guys

you can trust out there. When my current husband told me that he

loved me after about a month of dating, I snapped back with, " yeah,

right! And how many women have you told THAT? " (he was a 40 year old

bachelor and I figured he's had to be a real operator to stay single

all of those years.) He looked at me with big, shocked eyes and

said, " I've NEVER told anyone that before! " I felt like SHIT! Turns

out he was painfully shy and just never really knew how to approach

girls or women. He is a delightful change from the last one who had

never met a woman who didn't like him. And Dave (the new dh) is very

receptive to suggestions for improvement, which Stan (the first dh)

would have just laughed at and told me it was " my problem. " Hang in

there, kiddo, it DOES get better....Leggs

[Guest guest]

I'd love to leave her alone with my three boys for a few days. She'd

probably commit herself. lol

Libby

>

> Irony: the Flylady list is going on and on right now about the

rejuvenating

> powers of a clean home and a date night, and how they will solve

your

> marriage woes.

>

> Jeex, if only someone had told you that sooner, hmmm?

>

> She's a good housecleaner, but the bitch is delusional.

>

> Jacquie

[Guest guest]

YAY YOU! Now if our experience could just prevent some other poor

soul from the same thing....sigh

>

> " I learned a bad relationship is NEVER EVER EVER better than being

> > alone. I learned to like myself quite a bit, and actually became

> > accustomed to being single. "

>

> , THIS was the defining revelation for me. I learned that

> being alone was much better than being with him and putting up with

> his infidelities and emotional abuse. I could do it on my own and

be

> just fine. Took me 12 years to figure it out, but I finally did.

> Thank God! Some of us just are slow learners, I guess. I just had

no

> faith in myself and my abilities. Leggs