Re: Siblings and new babies (was Re: Babi Weight Gain :)

[Guest guest]

Trisha wrote:

> Mari will settle down

I keep telling myself that. I just feel so sad, I had (naiively perhaps)

envisaged this wonderful time with Mari involved with the baby and the 3 of

us snuggling up together in the mornings but instead she is so angry at me,

at the baby, at everyone, it really hurts to see her sad like this. She'd

never hit before and now she hits me, pulls at Nia's legs when I've got her

in the sling, runs away from me, screams at me - they are all new behaviours

and it's getting to me

> It must be hard for her to understand at 3 that you still love her especially

> when you spend time looking after baby.

I just didn't expect her to react this way and am at a loss as to how to

console her, it's so difficult to balance that with disciplining her too.

> I can remember DH taking DS1 off for special grown up time, but that

> was man to man stuff - maybe it would work for Mari?

I'll suggest that Gethyn takes her out on his own on Saturday, we usually do

everything together but of course that means me bringing Nia too and I guess

this is a time when I have to accept us doing some things apart.

Thanks for the advice Trisha

Jenni