Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 > But they had been at his place for over an hour, Sophie later > confirmed. He did it to torture me. That is the only explanation. Why does this continue to amaze me? Isn't there anything you can do legally...on the grounds of emotional abuse? Violation of visitation agreements? At least get more structured visitation based on his being a convicted felon with no apparent remorse and showing signs of being emotionally unstable? I mean, I can see depositions from all kinds of people who have seen first-hand how abusive he is--just last week he ripped apart the school folks, right? Are you keeping track of this all--if not, just go thru the archives here...you've got names, dates, and posts outlining in detail about the stealing, etc... > I told him that I was taking the kids home now. He said that they > were taking a bath. I started to go and get them but he told me > that I was not welcome. So I waited. > That is so unreal. He wanders loose in your house, stealing food, telling the kids all about how *you* kicked him out, and then treats you like this at his house? Next time he came to my house, I'd be sure he doesn't get past the porch. What a... Please call your attorney...maybe an abuse hotline for ideas on handling potential kidnapping actions? Just from the standpoint of what this is doing to the kids emotionally, this has to be addressed by the judge who oversees your divorce (are you divorced yet? I forget where all that is)...I think the judge should REQUIRE Lou to get psychological help...can your lawyer request that? Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 I talked with my lawyer's aide this morning (for an hour and a half!) She was very helpful and relayed a message to my lawyer who said simply, " Don't let him have the kids. " The aide pointed out that that was my legal right but might not help things. We spent that hour and a half discussing all the possible approaches; she said she was in favor of communication if at all possible and I must say I am too. But it is hard to communicate with Lou. Bolstered by the aide's ideas, I called Lou and told him that I objected to last night. I told him that I had been on the phone with my lawyer and that he had violated the visitation agreement. He tried to tell me that it had all been Robbie and Putter's idea; I told him that that was fine but I would like a phone call. I can be flexible. He said that he could not call because Putter wanted to use the computer. I tried to call and the phone just rang and rang; apparently he is online again and he has a dial up connection. I had asked Sophie why he did not answer the phone and she said it never rang which led me to believe that he had unplugged it or turned it off. Apparently Mr. Putt was just online which I can believe. BUT he could have made a quick phone call before letting Putter online. It does however look less sinister like that, and I can imagine Putter screaming, " NO! NO! Computer! Go away, Daddy! " Autistic tantrums are not pretty but the call could have been very brief and I would have got the point pretty easily. It remains my personal opinion that this was a planned bit of Salli Torture. But it might have been cluelessness. He tried to complain to me about taking the kids for Christmas to my parents' house. I said I was not going to discuss that and hung. He has a way of taking us so far off track that it is impossible to get to the original topic. The phone rang several times and I ignored it. Finally I heard his voice over the answering machine, " I just want to know if I should take the big boys for their work out? " Well, perhaps. So I picked up the phone and told him that Enrique was not feeling well enough but would go. Then he tried to return to the topic of Christmas and I hung up. He called again. I ignored it. Then I heard his voice saying something like, " Look, I guess you just want to be treated with some respect and to know what is going on. That's what I want to... " This sounded promising so I picked up. He apologized, and said that he would notifiy me as soon as possible in the future. I actually do believe him. Remember nothing like this has happened before in almost four years of separation. I think that this probably will not happen again. We were perfectly civil with each other when we hung up the last time. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Interesting how Lou became more conciliatory when you ignored him. Maggie ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 maybe you should get a cell phone for the older kids? Give it to them anytime they go with Lou? Leigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 >maybe it's time to adhere to a more set and strict > visitation schedule and just get him out of your life. I thought of suggesting that...but I wonder if Lou wouldn't use that as an excuse to himself to behave more abominably? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 >>>>>>>> I call my lawyer tomorrow. If I am not welcome in his apartment, I assure you all that he is not welcome in my house. Salli <<<<<<<< I certainly hope that this is the case. Enough is enough. He's acting worse than a 2 year old and should not be allowed to be with his children until he learns how to behave. Unfortunately, Salli, by reading this it's VERY obvious that he is bringing Sophie into the middle of this. This is going to be very detrimental to her, especially as she moves into adolescence. I hope you and your lawyer can figure out a way to stop this. Poor Sophie...the emotional toll is going to be devistating. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but this man is not worthy of his children. Penny :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 DITTO. Penny - still angry...... Re: Tortured YOU are not welcome in HIS apartment? After HE sat strumming his guitar and having his FEET WASHED in your dining room during Lent? YOU are not welcome in HIS apartment when HE comes into your home and STEALS FOOD? You allow him broad and unlimited extremely generous time with his children, and he keeps them late without a word to torture you? Do call your lawyer. It is time to stop this man. Granted, he may be aspie and unaware of social crap, but not all aspies are mean spirited, vindictive, and spiteful. Aspies can be good or bad people just like any one else. You can't let it influence your view of him any longer. He's just plain an evil person. (((hugs))) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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