Re: If knocking heads were legal....(Jacquie V..you will appreciate)...

[Guest guest]

> Makes me f***** sick. I just wanted to go over there and tell them what

> little pukes they are. Jacqui is upstairs now playing by herself, and for

> the life of me I can't tell if this kind of thing bothers her or not.

>

Oh, yuck, Penny. I am sorry. Little girls are worse in this kind of way

than little boys, I am afraid. Little boys have different issues, but not

this kind of junior cattiness.

What bugs me the most is it is all so RUDE!

I hope that Jacqui didn't care; she really does not need those girls, but my

Sophie has friends that, IMO, she doesn't need either so it isn't all

autism.

Salli

[Guest guest]

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I don't know about Jacqui, but bounces back the minute Ben is out of

sight, and NEVER questions Ben's attitude to me at any time. I believe it

truly does not weigh on him in the least.

is a very in-the-moment person. He doesn't carry things from one scene

of his life into the next. No matter how lousy Ben treats him one day,

is nothing but glad to see him the next -- not because he's gullible, but

because he truly does seem to let social slights roll right off him.

Jacquie

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I'd like to believe this too. It took her a milisecond longer to recover

this time that in the past, and I know it bothered me WAY more than it

bothered her.

Still sucks though, ya know?

Penny :/

[Guest guest]

This sounds EXACTLY like my situation. They don't know how, and so of

course, if you don't understand something.....

But her classmates are WONDERFUL. They spend 6 hours a day with Jacqui and

they KNOW her. They know her quirks and her strange language, but to them,

that's just " jacqui " .

Penny

Re: If knocking heads were legal....(Jacquie

V..you will appreciate)...

I honestly don't even know how to respond to this. But it makes me

so full of saddness and anger. Do they not know HOW to interract

with her? Are they afraid?

Alyx has problems with a girl across the street. They used to be

best friends then out of the blue, she started saying really mean and

hateful things to Alyx. Well seeing that these girls used to be

friends, her mom and I talked but to no avail. The last time she was

really mean to Alyx with no provocation I gave her a few not so nice

words myself then made her appologize. She hasn't said a word to

Alyx since. That's ok, if she can't be nice, don't say anything at

all.

The girls and boys in my daughter's class have a mainstreamed

severely mentally handicapped boy in the class. We were at the

concert the other night, and he made loud vocalizations and flapped

and stood and bounced...and the girls waved at him and smiled! I was

so proud of all of those kids. The parents didn't stare at him or

say anything bad either. Of course, it's very obvious he's

handicapped.

[Guest guest]

Yes, she really is... :-(

It's just that she doesn't speak their language, ya know.... Bigotry

starting young. :/

Penny

Re: If knocking heads were legal....(Jacquie

V..you will appreciate)...

Penny, I truly don't understand how people, even kids, can be such little

shits. Jacqui seems like such a friendly likeable kid. I just don't get it.

Tamara

[Guest guest]

>>Bigotry starting young. :/<<

And Unfortunately it is often learned at home :-(

Re: If knocking heads were legal....(Jacquie

V..you will appreciate)...

Penny, I truly don't understand how people, even kids, can be such little

shits. Jacqui seems like such a friendly likeable kid. I just don't get it.

Tamara

[Guest guest]

> I'd like to believe this too. It took her a milisecond longer to recover

> this time that in the past, and I know it bothered me WAY more than it

> bothered her.

>

> Still sucks though, ya know?

Absolutely. Because WE know how WE'D feel if it happened to us, and the

LAST thing we want for our kiddos is to feel that way. Brings out the Mama

Bear. :-)

To tell you the truth though, I think I often project my own fear of

rejection on to him. I'm not saying YOU do that, but I think I do. Because

when I step back and really look at him, he really doesn't seem to mind.

Or, when he DOES mind, he recovers very quickly, more quickly than I ever

did.

When people treat him badly, or reject him, I definitely feel it as a blow

to my gut. So what I try to do, and this sounds WEIRD, is to envy him for

just not giving a shit. I mean, wouldn't that be WONDERFUL?

Jacquie