Pregnancy vs periods

[Guest guest]

> Can anyone tell me what the chances are of loosing a pregnancy in

the

> first month or so. I did a pregnancy test last week that was + but

a

> few days later got my period (one week late), which you can

> understand was a huge disappointment. I am now worried about trying

> to get pg incase this happens recurrently.

>

> I know that one way to get round this is not to do a test too early,

> but I was quite sure I was pg from very early on, sore boobs, temper

> etc.

>

Kirsten,

My sympathies and hugs. I am also very disappointed at the moment. DH

and I were completely convinced I was pregnant (had all the early

signs too - nausea, sore boobs, keen sense of smell, no period for 7

weeks etc.) but then last night I got my period. My DH had convinced

me that we should wait another week or so before doing a test, so I

cannot be certain that I was pregnant - perhaps my symptoms were

psychosomatic?

I read that you have a 1/4 chance of misscarrying in the early stages

too. I cant help but think that it is more common for women to loose

babies than we might think, for reasons mentioned by othes. In my

case I may have just dreamt up my pregnancy (because I suddenly

realised I wanted to be pregnant) or maybe I was for a short time.

Anyway, hugs from another very disappointed lady and good luck if you

decide to keep trying. Perhaps you could talk through any medical

concerns with your GP? Or contact the Miscarriage Association:

Miscarriage Association

c/o Clayton Hospital

Northgate

Wakefield

West Yorkshire WF1 3JS

Tel: 01924 200799

Liz x

[Guest guest]

>

> Just a practical point if you are R- you still should ask for an

anti-

> D injection.

>

> Trisha

> SAHM to 3 boys

Thanks, I think I am A+.

Kirsten

[Guest guest]

Sympathies to you Kirsten and Liz. This happened to my sister last

month too (doubly hard for her as she is desperate to be pregnant

again at the same time as me) but I think Ruthie could be right when

saying it is just nature's way of losing a non-viable foetus. Not

much help really but hugs to you both.

Francesca

[Guest guest]

> Sympathies to you Kirsten and Liz.

Thanks everyone for your hugs, it is really helpful just to know that

I am not completely alone in this experience, even though DH insists

on making light of it (probably cos he's a bit upset too).

i have decided that maybe it was for a reason like Ruthie suggested

and that there will be other opportunities for my body to get it

right! and maybe next time I won't realise I am pg until much later

on! (I was 12 weeks pg with Josh before I knew!!)

Thanks again

Kirsten

[Guest guest]

Kirsten,

How horrible for you, I hope you feel a bit brighter now. I think many

people miscarry early on and never even know about it. They may just have a

heavy period and think nothing of it. That is why people dont tend to test

too early.

I dont think you are any moe likely to miscarry than anyone else. Maybe next

time, wait a few more weeks if you can, and try not to worry.

also, a very high number of pregnancies fail, so its not you or your body

that is failing, its just the way it is! Try again, it will be worth it in

the end. Personally speaking, I spent the whole 9 months convinced I was

going to miscarry (bad tummy pains all the way through) or have a still born

baby , and thank god everything went ok. It is pointless telling you not to

worry as you are bound to feel worried and upset if you want something so

much!

Make sure you talk to people if you feel unhappy, it helps,

Mum to Rohan (7mths)