Re: Never been so scared in my life....

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(((((((((Debbie))))))))

how SCARY for you!!! Im so glad

that he was found safe and sound and

quickly for you...

And all i can say about those

" stupid " people is UGH!!

Your a great mom, doing a great

job, and don't you forget that...

(((hugs)))

nancy~

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Oh Debbie!! I can hear the fright in your email, even from last night.

{{{Debbie}}} How scarey for you. Glad all is well.

ellen

Never been so scared in my life....

We had very nasty weather here last night...the worst I've seen in a

while...and as afraid as I am of thunder and lightning, nothing could

compare to the fear of thinking one of your children is gone forever.

Last night, the boys and I took my sister and her kids shopping. My niece

was looking from a prom dress. Anyway, we went to Kohl's because she had

gift cards from there. I had never been there so, obviously, neither had

Evan. Well, of course he was probably stressed to begin with because of how

bad the weather was and I know that he could sense my tension --- as hard as

I tried to hide it even. So, when we got into the store, he started having

one of his meltdowns so I told my sister and her kids to go ahead and look

around and asked them to take so I could stay with Evan. We were

standing by the front of the store so I could get him out of there if

necessary. I actually sat on the floor with him between the two sets of

doors and held him, tightly, and kept trying to calm him down. He started

to calm down so we went inside the store but still stayed by the front.

Finally he was calm enough for me to put him down to walk. This woman comes

up to me and says, " Stand your ground, you're doing fine. I was watching

Dr. Phil today and he did a show about kids who have control over their

parents instead of parents controlling their kids and you just have to be

firm. " Well, STUPID ME turned my head for two seconds to tell her that I

appreciated her concern but that my child was autistic and autistic

meltdowns are " a bit " different from temper tantrums and when I turned back

around, Evan was gone! I looked in the close vicinity of where we were

standing and another person in the store saw the panic look on my face and

came to ask me what was wrong so I told her and then she went and told the

cashier in the front and he announced " Code Yellow " and we had every store

employee looking for him. They had me sit in the front because, of course,

by this time I was hysterical. This has never happened before. I'm sitting

here crying , again, telling you about it. Finally, two store employees

came walking down the main aisle and I saw one of them holding Evan and I

started crying even harder. I'm thanking God I have my baby back and all is

well. But try explaining to people that, being autistic, Evan doesn't

realize what was going on to begin with. I kept hearing people say he

needed to be yelled at or spanked. Someone explain to me what good that

would do if he doesn't understand what he is being yelled at for???!!!! He

thinks he was just walking through the store....what's the problem?? Yeah,

right! Meanwhile, Mom is hysterical and I've not stopped shaking since last

night. I need a shot of something....LOL....and I don't mean from a

syringe. I just can't imagine not having either of my babies anymore.

Love, prayers and heart hugs,

Debbie (GA), Mom to Evan (4.5 y/o with ToF, RBBB, Autism Spectrum

Disorder, Asthma); (now a whole year old and HH and NT?); and my 3

angel babies whom I will finally see when God says it's time!

9:1-3

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> Someone explain to me what good that would do if he doesn't

understand what he is being yelled at for???!!!! He thinks he was

just walking through the store....what's the problem?? Yeah, right! <

you're right, it makes NO sense at all. i've been through this with

both of my kids more times than i care to mention. they don't know

they're lost because THEY know where they are! all we can do is try

to explain to them that they have to stay with us or tell us where

they're going and hope to god that one day they will finally

understand.

[Guest guest]

Hugs

We were playing ring around the rosie at music class and she broke out to

take a break. I looked up and couldn't see her. There is a fire exit and I

TORE out looking for her screaming her name. She had been behind another

person and I hadn't seen her.

I was scared she had gotton out of the building. It took an hour before I

swallowed my heart. She had never gone to that part of the room so I assumed

I was safe LOL.

I know just how you feel. Glad it worked out for you also.

Hugs

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In a message dated 5/3/03 2:20:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

Anglhrtsmom@... writes:

> I just can't imagine not having either of my babies anymore.

>

>

Oh Debbie how awful for you!

The Grammas & Keion

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>>>>>>

I kept hearing people say he

needed to be yelled at or spanked.

<<<<<<<

Screw these people and give that boy huge hugs. A couple shots of tequila

are good for this kind of event, (for you, not him..lol).

sorry you had to go through this...

((((Debbie))))

Penny

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I'll remember the tequila if runs away again! ROFL

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I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with the

tequlia. Who wants to join me?

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RE: Never been so scared in my life....

> >>>>>>

> I kept hearing people say he

> needed to be yelled at or spanked.

> <<<<<<<

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> Screw these people and give that boy huge hugs. A couple shots of tequila

> are good for this kind of event, (for you, not him..lol).

> sorry you had to go through this...

>

> ((((Debbie))))

>

> Penny

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Me! Me! Me!

Maggie

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> I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with the tequlia.

Who wants to join me?

Georga <

oooooh, i'd LOVE to, but, well, you know :-|

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

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I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with

the tequlia. Who wants to join me?

>

> Georga <

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> oooooh, i'd LOVE to, but, well, you know :-|

>

I'll have 's portion, please!!!!

LOL~

nancy

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Yea.

I know.

Georga

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Re: Never been so scared in my life....

> > I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with the

tequlia. Who wants to join me?

>

> Georga <

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> oooooh, i'd LOVE to, but, well, you know :-|

>

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> ~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

> -------------------------

> gina, 31, ny

> single mom to -

> kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

> trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

> parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

>

>

>

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Ok.

Margaritias and tortillas and salsa for everyone!

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Re: Never been so scared in my life....

> I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with

> the tequlia. Who wants to join me?

> >

> > Georga <

> >

> >

> > oooooh, i'd LOVE to, but, well, you know :-|

> >

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> I'll have 's portion, please!!!!

> LOL~

> nancy

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Count me innnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Date: 2003/05/04 Sun PM 02:13:29 EDT

To: parenting_autism

Subject: Re: Never been so scared in my life....

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I'll bring the sour cream and guacamole!

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Looks like there is a party at my house!

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[Guest guest]

Debbie, I've " lost " Ebony numerous times and every time is just as hard and

scary. I'm so glad he was found quickly. People just do not get it at all.

Tamara

mom to Ebony, 5 years old, asd, adhd, bipolar

and , 2, polish (lol)

wife to Terry

>

>Reply-To: parenting_autism

>To:

>Subject: Never been so scared in my life....

>Date: Sat, 3 May 2003 14:20:07 -0400

>

>We had very nasty weather here last night...the worst I've seen in a

>while...and as afraid as I am of thunder and lightning, nothing could

>compare to the fear of thinking one of your children is gone forever.

>

>Last night, the boys and I took my sister and her kids shopping. My niece

>was looking from a prom dress. Anyway, we went to Kohl's because she had

>gift cards from there. I had never been there so, obviously, neither had

>Evan. Well, of course he was probably stressed to begin with because of

>how bad the weather was and I know that he could sense my tension --- as

>hard as I tried to hide it even. So, when we got into the store, he

>started having one of his meltdowns so I told my sister and her kids to go

>ahead and look around and asked them to take so I could stay with

>Evan. We were standing by the front of the store so I could get him out of

>there if necessary. I actually sat on the floor with him between the two

>sets of doors and held him, tightly, and kept trying to calm him down. He

>started to calm down so we went inside the store but still stayed by the

>front. Finally he was calm enough for me to put him down to walk. This

>woman comes up to me and says, " Stand your ground, you're doing fine. I

>was watching Dr. Phil today and he did a show about kids who have control

>over their parents instead of parents controlling their kids and you just

>have to be firm. " Well, STUPID ME turned my head for two seconds to tell

>her that I appreciated her concern but that my child was autistic and

>autistic meltdowns are " a bit " different from temper tantrums and when I

>turned back around, Evan was gone! I looked in the close vicinity of where

>we were standing and another person in the store saw the panic look on my

>face and came to ask me what was wrong so I told her and then she went and

>told the cashier in the front and he announced " Code Yellow " and we had

>every store employee looking for him. They had me sit in the front

>because, of course, by this time I was hysterical. This has never happened

>before. I'm sitting here crying, again, telling you about it. Finally,

>two store employees came walking down the main aisle and I saw one of them

>holding Evan and I started crying even harder. I'm thanking God I have my

>baby back and all is well. But try explaining to people that, being

>autistic, Evan doesn't realize what was going on to begin with. I kept

>hearing people say he needed to be yelled at or spanked. Someone explain

>to me what good that would do if he doesn't understand what he is being

>yelled at for???!!!! He thinks he was just walking through the

>store....what's the problem?? Yeah, right! Meanwhile, Mom is hysterical

>and I've not stopped shaking since last night. I need a shot of

>something....LOL....and I don't mean from a syringe. I just can't imagine

>not having either of my babies anymore.

>

>Love, prayers and heart hugs,

>

>Debbie (GA), Mom to Evan (4.5 y/o with ToF, RBBB, Autism Spectrum Disorder,

>Asthma); (now a whole year old and HH and NT?); and my 3 angel

>babies whom I will finally see when God says it's time!

>

> 9:1-3

>

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Um......I'll be right there.

Re: Never been so scared in my life....

I have margaritia mix in the freezer all made up and slushy with the

tequlia. Who wants to join me?

Georga